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This question assumes that you are or have been either married or in a long term relationship in which you both expected your partner to be faithful. I believe that most people respect their promises and remain faithful but not everyone respects their commitment. I am aware of two partners who cheated on me (maybe there were more, but two who were confirmed cheaters) but I have never cheated on anyone, including the two who cheated on me. For me, the primary motivation for faithfulness is self-respect; I want to think of myself as an honorable man. I also try to follow the Golden Rule.

Other people may have other motivations. What makes YOU remain faithful? If none of the responses apply to you, please leave a comment and explain.

I saw a bit on YouTube which made me cringe a bit. It was satire but it started with a girl telling her boyfriend she's going on a girls trip, just a few of her friends.

Okay, then she says they're going to a club where there's a lot of guys there, he asks why nobody is bringing their boyfriends, she says all her friends are, but she wanted to just go with them.

I know it's satire, but the second I hear "girls trip", I say pretend to be okay with it, but if the key she has to your apartment still works when she gets back, then shame on you for letting her cheat. Even if she hasn't done it yet, the second she walks in and mentioned a girls trip, she'd already made a conscious decision to cheat, months before the "trip" happens.

I don't know, am I being paranoid and insecure, people? Before ladies start saying it's stupid, flip the script. If I was your boyfriend and I wanted to go to a bar with all of your friends and I said you can't come, what then?

Those locks should be changed while I'm out and you should have thrown all of my personal belongings out of the window, that same night. To do anything else is to allow yourself to be disrespected and spit on by the person who's supposed to love you, so please don't ignore signs.

Before accusations come in, no, I didn't get cheated on in this fashion. It did happen, but not in this way, it was much more of a sudden thing. The only indications one of my 3 relationships gave of infidelity was her acting nervous around me despite me being always supportive. Maybe I supported her wrong, maybe when she was crying and asked me to leave one night after a huge fight with her mom, I shouldn't have held her, anyway, or maybe.

But in the future, if a girl I love cries, you'll have to strangle me to make me stop trying to comfort her and even then, my dead arms will still keep her warm, so judge away, if you like

Most of my life, I've never thought i wanted kids cause I barely wanted friends. Looking at relationships I had, which isn't many, just 3.

All long term, but only 1 mentioned wanting kids. She did for a time, open me to it but infidelity on her part led to our relationship ending a little shy of a year.

Now as I try to pave a path forward for myself, I still have to juggle with the problem that male CF patients born in the late 1990s only live 40, maybe 45 years. And I'm 26 now, and way behind the curve to due bad decisions I've made in my life.

This combined with my status as being single makes children a laughable proposition. I can't imagine myself ever ready to handle responsibilities of being a parent. My longevity is a serious consideration as well as me being behind in life.

So I'm gonna lean towards best case scenario, I've got a wife with me when my time ends. And that is what I want most, a spouse. But what my last relationship proved is I'm somewhat amenable, if I love the woman. In that this children issue would not turn into some ultimatum.

I know better than to do something that moronic when the relationship is that special. I'd just have to allow our motivation for eachother to succeed to get me to where I feel ready to take that next step. Do you want kids?