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I know some of you are going to go off about never using dating apps or trying to find people online period. That’s a separate debate so please don’t bring it up. Not everybody has the time or environment to socialize with singles on a consistent basis.

Anyway I’ve gone real back and forth about ever mentioning sex or even acting flirty with girls I match on dating apps. On one end if she already finds me attractive, is in a good mood and hit her vibe right it can make her more eager to meet up.

However the downside if I just make one wrong comment many women panic and hit the “creep” button. It’s game over and there is little or no room for forgiveness. Often the guy has no idea he’s out. It doesn’t matter if it was an honest mistake or I had no idea she didn’t like a certain comment. Many women just freak.

An even worse scenario is she might just want all virtual sexting and has zero interest in meeting for real. The virtual attention is good enough for her. Most men aren’t satisfied with that. They want to meet someone for real.

Then there is the safe route (and it can be genuine). Just act friendly, funny and don’t mention sex. Many women find this to be non-threatening and are more likely to meet in person.

But a downside with this is she might find me more boring. Some women are deluded/selfish to believe that guys are okay just making “friends” with women on dating apps. Nope. That’s a huge waste of time and effort. That doesn’t mean men are always looking for hook ups. Some of us really want to start a relationship. But there is always at least some romantic interest. Men don’t seek out random women to become “friends” with.

So anyway what’s the best route?

Spending is often a big topic of discussion and disagreement in a relationship, married or not. I'd like to see y'all's preferences on it.

So, would you rather date/marry:

Someone who is stingy/frugal, who bugets and and tries to save money, but is very reluctant to have fun with their money. They rarely spend money on outings and vacations, and their spending tends toward minimalist clothes, devices, and cars. Their life is pretty simple/boring as a result.

OR

someone who spends a lot, but is financially unstable. They are happy to buy nice things, go out, travel, and live life to the fullest, but these ventures are limited because they don't save up for them. They live paycheck to paycheck, are frequently behind on paying bills, and have a terrible credit score.

Both people have the same income.

There is no in-between option in this poll.