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"Look at her... she's so pretty!!"
"Why aren't you like your brother, he's smart."

I'm not sure this is just Eastern culture. It seems like complimenting the third person in order to compare your partner, kid or friend is a trick to motivate someone to improve themselves. But does it work?

For me, as the 3rd person, this behavior could bring me troubles, eg. the persons being compared turned to me instead of taking actions to change something about them. I know they're upset and then became rude and criticized me (at the first time we met). That's why I don't feel good when a married man/boyfriend compares their partner with me. It actually causes more self-doubt because I'm still single. Above all, I prefer to have other ladies to be my friends, not enemy.

If you have been compared, how do you feel, REALLY?

Would you confront the person who does so, and tell him or her about your feelings and thoughts?

It’s my 21 b day tomorrow and I have been literally talking about it for three months now, being one of those annoying people who count it down every day haha. Anyway today I got off work after working three doubles in a row absolutely wrecked but my boyfriend wanted us to go to the gym together. I initially said not but changed my mind last minute bc I knew I wanted to and I didn’t just want to lay around the rest of the day. Anyways we get to the gym and we beach off and do our own stuff, me occasionally checking on him ( 2 times) we go to refill our bottles and he randomly looks at me and says « you are the dullest person here right now » me because apparently me being super worn out but still trying to push through doing legs looked like I was being a drag even tho we weren’t even working out together 😐 being absolutely crushed I go sit in my car and cry while he finishes his workout. After we got home he first tried to defend himself but after I got out of the shower and he saw me crying lol he apologized. I really let it get to me tbh and let it kinda ruin my night. So while he was playing a game around 8 with his brother I texted him and said I wanted him to come lay down with me before it got too late so we could watch a movie and go wake me up if I was asleep because I was absolutely wrecked from work but still wanted to spend time with him and I also wanted him to stay up with me til 12 like a little kid I guess. Anyways he comes in around 10:30 and just lays in bed complaining how he is so tired from work and doesn’t say a single thing after that. I asked him if was upset and he replied « yeah I’m kinda annoyed you keep acting like "play with me talk with me" then tried to say he loved me and falls asleep. I guess I just wanted to know if this is even worth being upset about or I’m being a little (big now) kid hehe

When my boyfriend and I first started dating his older brother would always message me all the time and was very friendly and helpful. He would also say negative things about his younger bro (my boyfriend) as well at times….

He never says hello to me ever in person or at family gatherings and never even said happy bday to me or ever talks to me anymore.

what’s up with his rudeness? Does he hate me? Or is jealous of his younger brother?

(my bfs older brother is married with kids by the way)