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When he first started talking we would text/call every day. Then about 3 weeks ago he stated sorry for the lack of communication and that he didn't want to bore me by texting me all the time. Last week it was only once a day texting and leaving me on delivered sometimes. Maybe he would call. If I called he didn't answer and not even a text saying why. When he finally did call me I asked him why and he said that he was busy. It literally takes 1 second to just say I'm busy I can't talk right now. I haven't heard from him since Saturday night and I message him back that day but he left me on delivered again. I'm literally over this 🤦‍♀️. I had a bad feeling so I made a fake dating account and his account is still on there. He knew that I deleted my account. Our schedules are busy so I didn't make it a big deal but I saw him a week ago and on our date he was texting his brother from time to time and replying fast. But when it comes to me it takes him hours. I feel he doesn't like me anymore.

The backstory is a guy I met online over a year ago started acting different and friend zoned me some months after I found out his real identity.

I’m feeling hurt and I want him to know that but also open to talking through the issue if he wants to.

I came up with two different messages I’m thinking of sending. One is really long and the other is more to the point without excessive details.

We still talk regularly.

Which do you prefer?

A. Hey so there’s something that I’ve been wanting to share with you for quite awhile now.

I’m feeling confused and hurt knowing that you continued to engage in sexual conversations with me for so long when you were actually feeling wary of me. It really makes me wonder if you are being genuine with me at all.

As I said almost a year ago, I fully understand if you don’t want to talk now that I know who you are. But feeling like I need to pretend that I don’t know your name and having to wonder whether you’re talking to me just to avoid conflict makes me feel like the connection might not be natural anymore.

I know I can’t change your feelings, but I’m working on cultivating more self-love and that doesn’t negate mine. As much as I enjoy talking to you, unless we can talk this through and change our dynamic, I feel that I’m disrespecting myself by continuing to chat with you.

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this!

B. Hey so I wasn’t expecting you to reach out after I left (website where we met) and after some thought, I think I need to let this friendship go.

I’m working on cultivating more self-love, and as much as I enjoy talking to you, unless our dynamic changes, continuing to do so is hurting my self-esteem.

Open to talking about it but also don’t want to bore you with a long message.

Take care 😊