What Is Going On With Him?

[Davis4589]

So there’s this guy at work…He’s 26, I’m 24. We got real close as friends and everyday we hang out. We go on 5 clock break and 8 clock break everyday. We started talking about our past and we have an understanding. I’m gay, and he’s straight.. boom boom he and his wife are having issues and he asked me if he could live with me for a month until he saved up enough to live with his wife and kid. They are taking a break from each other mind you he is an alcoholic. First 2 weeks were wonderful. We went to work and went home minding our own business just cool brothers. He is so curious about my past and my exes and critiques the guys I talk to and tell him about. He always suggests we go out and have fun do this and so that. We drink together all the time. Even at night when we get off work. Lately he hasn’t done that. This week at work he’s acting strange. I also noticed he acts strange when I talk about my male friends or show him a current guy I’m talking to. He does drink too and he hasn’t had his beer today he acts weird without that as well. He stopped going to 5 o’clock break with me. He’ll go to lunch every now and then. Today I left for first break early and he just so happen to already be out there. He sees me go to the car then he texts me “he I’ll skip this break out and go to lunch later” my response was “oh I know I get the memo” he didn’t respond which lead me to believe I must be catching on to something. Then we bump into each other in the bathroom and he speaks up and says what’s up! You okay? As if nothing is wrong. My mom said he could be catching feelings and trying to hide it and or everybody at work knows I’m gay and he doesn’t want them seeing us together all the time. Three he did tell people who run their mouth about his living situation and the mess with his wife. So it could be he doesn’t want people to catch on that he’s living with me but at the same time he’s supposedly leaving in 2 weeks sooo… or it could be everything all in one.

[SteveSmith1985]

This is difficult to read to tell you the truth. I think you might be onto something with the whole "not wanting people to think he's gay" hypothesis. That does indeed explain this behavior better than anything else. Especially if someone made a comment.

You do know what the solution is though? You're gonna have to talk to him. You're gonna have to give him the ol' "what the hell is going on lately?" speech.

You both know somethings going on. Don't let him shrug it off. Insist. Tell him both of your hypotheses. You have a right to an explanation. The dude is living at your place after all. He's acting weird. You have a right to know why that is. I'd find out if I were you. I'm curious. You're curious. Only he know. You're gonna have to talk to him.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure.