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In my friend group, there are 2 guys that are married and they have completely different marriages.

Friend A: His wife constantly checks on him. He works from home, she works in office, and whenever she has a break, she calls to see what he’s doing. He claims that he loves it, but to me it seems like she’s always monitoring him. During my birthday party 2 years ago, she called him 4 times in a 3 hour span to see where he was at and ask if it was over. One time, we left his house and drove 15 minutes to pick up pizza. As we’re driving back, she calls to see where we’re at because in her mind it shouldn’t have taken that long. I don’t think she trusts him. She’s also forced him to change where he does his hobbies. He likes to play pool, but he can’t go to his favorite pool hall 30 minutes away. He has to go to the one 7 minutes away and be home by 9:30 pm.

Friend B: His wife never checks on him. Every time we hang out, his wife never calls or texts. For instance, the other day, he told her that he was going to play basketball with me from 8:30 to 12. He only lives 10 minutes from the court. After basketball, we went to get protein shakes and chatted until 1. A complete contrast from my other friend. He said that if he’s out late, she’ll just go to sleep and hear what he has to say in the morning. She trusts him completely.

I like Friend B’s marriage, however I wouldn’t mind a little text after let’s say 30 minutes of when I was going to be done to see what’s up. I could not do Friend A’s wife’s excessive calling.

What kind of partner would you rather have?

I've been in a relationship with this girl, Amy, for the last 3 years, a month ago we moved in together, we love each other.
A week ago, i wanted to surprise her, so i took a flight to her hometown to buy the salt candies she used to eat when she used to live with her parents cause it reminded of her childhood, after that, i bought some flowers and took her to a movie and cooked a meal for her.
Everything was going great, but when i gave her the salt candies, she started crying, telling me "she doesn't deserve me"
Then she told me she kissed her ex in her office 2 days ago.
I died inside that day, i ran away from what it used to be our home.
She kept calling, texting, showing up at places where I'm staying, asking me to let her explain herself. Her explanation was that she made a mistake, she used to love him, but she loves me now. A part of me wants to trust her, but how can i?
It's been 10 days, i wanted to marry her, but now I don't even want to see her. I don't have any friends, maybe that's why I'm here.