Chivalry is Dead--and Women Killed it (Page 2)

[shf84]

This article Isn't what I expected exactly. I expected some diatribe about "chivalry" and how great it is (it's not) I agree with most of the points, the reason that women don't accept men when they have problems is the idea that men are supposed to be tough and just suck it in. Again gender roles, putting expectations on someone because of the shape of their body are the problem here. The concepts of "masculine" and "feminine" are artificial, created by society.

[Kass1964]

Another example would be sleeping with a guy you just met and expecting for him to marry you or something. It's retarded.

And I do except my husband/boyfriend to treat me like I'm special because I would do exactly the same. And if my husband was going through a mid life crisis I would make jokes and stuff, but I would never say get over it or anything like that. If something bothered him it would bother me. If he was having a problem I would never just ignore it.

[CreativeSoul31]

This is super long and I didn't finish reading it..... but, already, I think its more than true. I've been discussing this with my friends and I want the nice guy/gentleman back!!!! Why, why, why did women do this?? ..... *sigh*

[LuckyLadyBop]

Any women offended by this article is probably guilty of this themselves. Of course not ALL women are like this BUT I AM A WOMAN who was guilty of this not even a few years ago. Mostly do to immaturity and selfishness on my part. I realized it and changed. When I met my fiance he had NOTHING and I payed all the time but he did what he could, bless me. Ironically he went through a life changing event and now he's well off. Now he spoils me ROTTEN (too much lol) and he proposed with a FAT rock! =P

[Tdieseler]

I've read this before... Years ago. Nice plagiarism though. I've had this on my Facebook since about 2010. Regardless of that, its still a damned good article.

[Grimbear13]

I can agree with this mostly, I was raised a gentlemen and my entire schoolastic career I was rejected by girls. This has caused me now that I'm 26 to be much more reclusive and reserved when meeting new people. I do believe in gender equality as another comment mentioned, but it's also nice to treat a girl to a dinner or a movie. But from my experiences girls seem to choose the guys that aren't going to treat them right, or stick with guys who aren't. Honestly it's depressing :'(.

[thelastone]

I raised a gentleman, who is now 17 years old, graduating high school a year early, Eagle Scout, first job was teaching at Scout Camp, 3.93 GPA - and he can't get a date to prom. If he was ugly, I would understand, but he is the guy next door. The females at his school have made fun of him about his manners and kindness, while all the mother's swear he's the "greatest young man ever". I would suggest that mother's talk to their daughters, or visit their son-in-laws in prison - just a thought.

[Castaway6692]

I couldn't have said it any better myself. I have had these feelings for quite sometime now but, whenever I tried to express my views on the subject, I was met with verbal assaults and accusations of being misogynistic. I've learned to keep my opinions to myself. I too, almost fell of my chair when I heard Dave Chappelle say this. I stood up and said "I've been saying this for years". It's encouraging to hear a women acknowledge these ambiguities. KUDOS to you!

[KrishnaNS]

This is so true!

I had a girl. Beautiful girl...

we both fell in love when we were 16 years old.

We were nice together, but I couldn't spend much on her

The thing is, in my country we don't get as much money as the girls get. We are supposed to study always..

I'm a student. I couldn't spend any cash on her because I barely had any myself..

Then came along a dude 7 years older in a job

and she left me because he had money and I didn't..

Everyone I knew was shocked

[ginawina03]

Women didn't kill it alone. Chivalry is on its' last legs becauses of pigs that call themselves "men". Its hard for women to believe that a real genuine man exist without wondering "Why is he opening my door or pulling out my chair--what's in it for him?" There are pigs with false personas' that use it to get what they want & then leave a woman with a broken heart. Its hard to beleive that there is a sincere gentleman like that still left where a woman won't fall into a false sense of affection.

[A-R-Norman]

Tanks so much! I really want men and women to come to a place where we value one another for what we are, to accept our differences, and love even the aspects that annoy us a bit...lol...

[karen101]

Wow, way to generalize women. I open doors for everyone. I pay for half the dates with my boyfriend. I support his emotional needs, and he supports mine. I stroke his ego, and he supports mine. He gives me reality checks and I give him reality checks. If he cheated, he'd be dumped in an instant. And if I cheated, I'd be dumped in an instant. Chivalry is unnecessary, sexist and just plain dumb. Gender equality is where it's at.

[tmarie197]

I find it interesting that you are a woman, saying that all women behave this way. I have never dated a man for his money and have never screamed at a man, or anyone else for that matter, for opening/holding a door for me. I hold doors open for people all the time and they for me. If thereare women who have actually screamed at a man for opening a door for them, I think they not the norm and are few and far between.

[ajbrown8]

I agree that women have killed chivalry, however, not all women act the way they do in your article! ;)

[A-R-Norman]

Thanks guys--I just want us to look at our culpability--maybe realizing our mistakes will help us break down barriers between the sexes...

[lovebird01]

Excellent article. As I am one of the plain, blue-collar types you refer to, I'm glad someone finally made our case. Thank you so much!

[ladykay]

Very well written. I have had these same thoughts myself and I appreciate that you brought it to the table for all girls to hear.

[Phoenix1991]

Very good article, This is extremely brilliant and well said, I'm going to pass this on to all my friends for you =)

[HaveYaMetTim]

Great article, though the majority of it is pointed towards females, I enjoyed it.

You sound.... amazing. A girl any guy would be lucky to have.

[Superstrength79]

Glad you wrote this. Sisters spread the word indeed! :)