Would you mind doing a similar MyTake for women? Because personally I think it's entirely reasonable that men don't act gentlemanly if all they get out of it is either nothing or even abuse. I am beholden to try and act like a gentleman towards everyone, male or female, not because I want to, but because I follow a rigid code of conduct and honor that guides basically everything I do in life. So regardless of how me being a gentleman is received I will always act in such a, but I can certainly understand if other men do not want to do so, due to them feeling being taken advantage of and possibly even scolded for it.
Nice take.. Some women would be surprised when I open the door for them.. I was raised to be a nice gentlemen cause my mama and many women around me drilled it into my head.. LOL.. But I will always be a gentlemen to women.. Men too, but women are my target.. LOL... It's good to know that most women still appreciate it..
Everything that you've described is the perfect fantasy guy. I think the only ones that I don't do up there is buy flowers because it's a waste of money they will just die. And I don't take my coat off because she is cold now. Now I will hold her inside my coat so we can both be a little warm.
I agree and have always treated women with respect. Some women, don't want all of this though; they want to be independent. A lot of men don't understand these expectations though. It's unfortunate. Likewise, men should the same in respect, and not be taken advantage of either.
These are the basic things a gentleman should do. Why wasn't picking her up for a date ad dropping her off at home afterwards not mentioned? Is that not part of being a gentleman?
I agree about respect and listening, but the other stuff is superficial. Sometimes, she gets the door first and I get to open the rest after. I am not giving her my coat, I make sure she has her coat on before we go. Prevention is better than cure. lol.
This is a very well written MyTake. However, I must say that if I am doing those things that you mentioned in your MyTake and I catch feelings for a girl and she is not putting forth any effort to do anything with me (dates and meeting up with her) and she is not opening my eyes, heart, or mind, then i'm simply not going to after her anymore, regardless of whether or not she likes me or not. I'm tired of girls thinking that guys must do all of the chasing and courting in dating. If she isn't initiating half the conversations and she hasn't offered any ideas to meet up with one another, then I am going to not talk to her. I'm not going to chase someone who doesn't want me.
Yes most women love a gentlemen but as i am curretnly single i don't specifically look for tose characteristics in a man. They are definite pluses but they aren't necessities
Who wouldn't? I'm am very fortunate & proud to have truly gallant, respectful gentlemen (my dad, brothers & bf) in my life.
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I once opened a door for a girl and she gave me a dirty look and said "uuuh I also have hands you know" or something along those lines, I vowed from that day onwards to never do something "gentlemanly" for a girl again unless she either actually asked me or it was a life or death situation
I actually agree with everything here... I do all these things. Sex isn't on my mind when I'm with a girl I like... oddly enough, it kind of is when I see a girl who is attractive but I don't like.
About the paying on the first date part, I always do that IF (and that's only if) she offers to pay for her half first. If she doesn't, then I feel like she is simply EXPECTING me to do it. Plus, it gives me a chance to turn down her gesture.
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Would you mind doing a similar MyTake for women? Because personally I think it's entirely reasonable that men don't act gentlemanly if all they get out of it is either nothing or even abuse. I am beholden to try and act like a gentleman towards everyone, male or female, not because I want to, but because I follow a rigid code of conduct and honor that guides basically everything I do in life. So regardless of how me being a gentleman is received I will always act in such a, but I can certainly understand if other men do not want to do so, due to them feeling being taken advantage of and possibly even scolded for it.
Nice take.. Some women would be surprised when I open the door for them.. I was raised to be a nice gentlemen cause my mama and many women around me drilled it into my head.. LOL.. But I will always be a gentlemen to women.. Men too, but women are my target.. LOL... It's good to know that most women still appreciate it..
Everything that you've described is the perfect fantasy guy. I think the only ones that I don't do up there is buy flowers because it's a waste of money they will just die. And I don't take my coat off because she is cold now. Now I will hold her inside my coat so we can both be a little warm.
I agree and have always treated women with respect. Some women, don't want all of this though; they want to be independent. A lot of men don't understand these expectations though. It's unfortunate. Likewise, men should the same in respect, and not be taken advantage of either.
These are the basic things a gentleman should do. Why wasn't picking her up for a date ad dropping her off at home afterwards not mentioned? Is that not part of being a gentleman?
I forgot that one! totally true :) walking her home or dropping her off.
You just killed feminism.
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she did great, she acted like a real women who deserve be treated like queens, i had bad experience with feminists.
@lordhossein I agree.
thank you, i just spoke what occured to my mind, it madam happy that i read this take, so i can believe there are still nobel girls out there
omg this is so sweet what i would love is to find this in a guy my goofball does the majority of these lol but yes some women loooove gentlemen
I agree about respect and listening, but the other stuff is superficial. Sometimes, she gets the door first and I get to open the rest after.
I am not giving her my coat, I make sure she has her coat on before we go.
Prevention is better than cure. lol.
This is a very well written MyTake. However, I must say that if I am doing those things that you mentioned in your MyTake and I catch feelings for a girl and she is not putting forth any effort to do anything with me (dates and meeting up with her) and she is not opening my eyes, heart, or mind, then i'm simply not going to after her anymore, regardless of whether or not she likes me or not. I'm tired of girls thinking that guys must do all of the chasing and courting in dating. If she isn't initiating half the conversations and she hasn't offered any ideas to meet up with one another, then I am going to not talk to her. I'm not going to chase someone who doesn't want me.
So in other words: make her feel important, worth it, much better than other girls and certain important in his mind.
Of course, none of the gentleman act would work if she doesn't like the guy in the 1st place.
I agree, this is how things used to be when my parents started dating
It was so easy back then. A guy had his role and the girl had hers
And sex wasn't expected until you actually proved you were committed
Yes most women love a gentlemen but as i am curretnly single i don't specifically look for tose characteristics in a man. They are definite pluses but they aren't necessities
A handsome, intelligent gentleman ahhh sounds like a dream 😍
A lot of men can’t stand entitled women as well as can’t stand unappreciative women and one sided women.
I love being nice to women who don’t expect it and are thankful. If she wants me to do stuff for her. She needs to return the favor.
I don’t mind having a princess. But I must be a prince
Who wouldn't? I'm am very fortunate & proud to have truly gallant, respectful gentlemen (my dad, brothers & bf) in my life.
I once opened a door for a girl and she gave me a dirty look and said "uuuh I also have hands you know" or something along those lines, I vowed from that day onwards to never do something "gentlemanly" for a girl again unless she either actually asked me or it was a life or death situation
I actually agree with everything here... I do all these things. Sex isn't on my mind when I'm with a girl I like... oddly enough, it kind of is when I see a girl who is attractive but I don't like.
About the paying on the first date part, I always do that IF (and that's only if) she offers to pay for her half first. If she doesn't, then I feel like she is simply EXPECTING me to do it. Plus, it gives me a chance to turn down her gesture.
I agree with most poimts, exept the sexual pushing at the boundaries.
How would you know if she is slutty or not if you dont try?
Men will stop doing that the day women stoo shit teating guys.
Its never gonna happen
That was an Awesome Mytake, P. P.!
I do give flowers to women. They like that. Passing by them, I give them my gentlemen manners. Great job.