I am a beautiful, strong, and proud transgender woman and this is why I don't believe in pronouns and think it's ok for you to call me a man

[ElizaPam]

I consider myself to be a woman. I've always felt like a woman, people see me as a woman, I dress like a woman, act like a woman, I love like a woman and everything about being a woman makes me super happy! It's my biggest life dream to be a happy mother and wife!

But lots of people tell me I'm a man! And that's ok too. When you call me a man you're basing your definition of man/woman on biological reality. And that's totally correct! Sadly I'll always be trapped inside of a boys body until I go to heaven. The difference is that my definition of man/woman is based on perceptual reality which I view as equally correct but more practical.

There's 2 genders, man and woman. And then you have transgenders like me who went from one to the other. I was born a boy and transitioned at 14 and I've been living as my true self ever since. If you ask biological reality I'm a 28 year old man. But ask perceptual reality what I am. Due to my feminized male body and appearance, behavior, fashion, etc. people perceive me as a woman. I am referred to and treated as a woman in public and at work. I am not perceived as a 28 year old man.

Why am I not perceived as a 28 year old man despite that being biological reality? Because left to my own devices following the path that makes me happy and comfortable has led to me being the person that I am today. Until I was 14 I pretended that I was ok and happy with being a boy and everything felt like an act like I was living a constant lie. After I decided to do what feels right and makes me happy at 14 I just kept becoming more and more girly!

I have the biology of a man but the psychology of a woman. I haven't been able to change my psychology and I don't want to I just want to be me! So I did what was possible, I altered biological reality so that I could appear as a woman despite being a man and change my perceptual reality to being a woman!!!

I don't believe we should correct people because if you call me a he, that's what you see me as. That's both my biological and perceptual reality. The burden is not on you to pretend that you see a woman. The burden is on me to make you see a woman. When I get called he, I take it as constructive criticism not an insult. I will work harder until you perceive me as a woman.

I may be a 28 year old man by your definition but is that truly what you perceive me as? I perceive a beautiful woman in this pic

[CrazyGirl2]

Well, to answer your last statement… That’s because you ARE a beautiful 28yo woman! I don’t know how many people you have told this to, but I know that I was not aware. My respect for you just increased immeasurably. It increased not just because you made me aware that you are transgender, but because as the best friend of a transgender woman I know the shit you’ve had to endure! I fully understand the fear and trepidation you felt that first time you went out dressed completely as a girl, and the excitement in the anticipation of it, and finally the elation that you felt when nobody else even noticed! The little things like using the women’s restroom that seem so small and mean so much, and showing the clerk your clothes and being guided to the women’s changing room. And the bigger things like telling your parents and being accepted! (Or in MY friends case accepted by one and not the other!
This was a beautiful MyTake, and I am thankful for having read it! I agree with you that your pronouns are not YOUR pronouns, that’s just not how pronouns work. Pronouns are how the person looking at you sees you, not how you see yourself. It’s the reason that people so inclined will give their car (usually) a female name, and use female pronouns when talking about that car.
Given how you look I am sure that not TOO many people would think that you were a man, so anyone referring to you AS a man… well, they are probably just not worth your time anyway, so I guess be thankful that they were so open with their bigotry, and that you know to avoid them going forward. Theirs is not likely to be a mind that can ever be changed, anyway!
Again, just beautiful. Thank you for having shared it. Laura 😘🥰😊

[ElizaPam]

Thank you so so much this was one of the most beautiful things I've ever been told your friend is blessed to have you!!! 🤗❤️

[CrazyGirl2]

You are MORE than welcome. You are beautiful and worthy because you are YOU, and not just because you are Transgender. Well, if I’m being honest, I think it is we who are blessed to have her as a friend. I have noticed some … well, less than encouraging replies. There will always disgusting bigots out there who are empowered by the anonymity that “Screen names” provide. But don’t let them win. I suggest that you report every discriminatory reply you get. Ant let’s hope they had enough complaints that GaG is forced to close their account. You are beautiful, any man would be lucky to have to and I doubt you have much difficulty attracting men, unlike SOME of the replies would tru to have you believe. I know that these types of replies can be hurtful, at least they would be to MY friend, but please don’t let them get to you, because then THEY win. They want to accomplish their goal of ruining your day, because they are so miserable, so closed minded themselves, that they can’t stand to see you flourishing. So as I would tell my own best friend, “Girl, you be the best, most beautiful woman you are and FVCK them! They are only jealous because you are twice the woman than they will ever be! Please feel free to follow and DM me. I’ll do the same. 😘💋

[Haha456]

men will never be attracted to you because you're physically a man. They're not sexually attracted to you. Unless you find yourself a gay man, you will never be accepted by men.

You can be transgender all you want and I won't judge you one bit. But personally I don't think men belong in a woman's bathroom is wrong. Because you stand up when you pee. Standing while peeing with poor aim makes a mess in the bathroom. This along with the frustration of the toilet seat constantly being put up after a man uses the toilet. Not its not cool. Secondly, its unsafe for men to mix with women while women are exposing themselves trying to urinate. Men are significantly stronger than women. If anything bad happens, its the woman who will likely be the victim.

[Haha456]

You seem to think your life only revolves around your entitlements. You only care about how you see yourself. You never care about how other people receive you. You don't care to understand why other men aren't attracted to you. You never think about the effects on other people. Sure, your perspective matters but its also important to understand how other people feel.

And no, other people's feelings aren't always invalid.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I read a joke of how a man was with a woman in bed at her place. He saw a picture of a man. ‘Is that your husband?’ ‘No.’ ‘Is it your boyfriend?’ ‘No, silly.’ ‘Who is it?’ ‘That’s me before the operation.’

It is often impossible to tell the difference between a male and a transman, or a female and a transwoman. My friend Billy said he wants to be famous and hopes Mark Zuckerberg would change gender, so they could marry. He claims NOT to be gay.

PS Many men sit whilst pissing. It’s Sunna, so many fellow Muslims do so. I’ve read women are more resilient than men.

[Haha456]

@HippieVeganJewslim

most of the time you can tell between a man and a transman. it really depends on how well they can cover it up.

[ElizaPam]

I'm not entitled at all like other trans people and I sit to pee lol

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I sit to pee as well. It’s Sunna to urinate sitting down. @haha456 You said most of the time. How often? If it’s ‘most of the time,’ it’s quite possible to be least of the time. Green eyes are rare and I’ve green eyes. About 10% of the humans are left-handed and I’m a leftie. Just because it’s MOST, doesn’t mean it’s ALL.

[Haha456]

@ElizaPam

For me personally, it kinda creeps me out to see a man in the woman's bathroom. Imagine if any heterosexual man can just randomly wander into the woman's bathroom by simply claiming he is "transgender". What if a woman gets raped by a transman in the bathroom. Bathroom is where people are at the most vulnerable positions.

I dont even know how this is legal. Its just a recipe for disaster.

[ElizaPam]

Well a lot of us actually are actually feminized to the point that even if you can tell were trans you can tell we're not men. You wouldn't be uncomfortable seeing me in the bathroom. And I wouldn't want a man in the bathroom with me either. It's not my fault if a man rapes you, that has nothing to do with me. I was actually raped by a man claiming to be trans. So it's not me vs you it's men vs women.

[Haha456]

@ElizaPam

not everything is solely about what you want. you also need to think about the consequences on other people.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Men can rape men. Women can rape women, regardless of the sex.

[bean2k21]

Any man or woman with a Confederate flag as their background is cool by me. We flew that flag 150 years following our victory over Northern Aggression. And, we should fly it for 150 more. Right in the face of these so-called woke people who are nothing more than tyrants like Abe Lincoln. A lot of good the feds have done for them. The South rules and everyone knows it.

[blissinanarchy1]

This has to be a troll account. You call Abe Lincoln a tyrant… because he wouldn’t let you be a tyrant over black people?

[bean2k21]

First of all, the South did more for blacks during slavery than the Feds ever have. Secondly, have you ever been to the South? There are no tyrants here. We had slaves that nursed our children. You're just a brainwashed yank.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@bean2k21 Lincoln was a racist man. He just didn’t want the Blacks to be enslaved because he found it unbiblical. However, he probably would find the Jim Crow Laws OK. Now, what did Dixie do to Blacks? Who are the Feds? Nursing babies of someone else is all fine; I saw a video of a human nursing a dog.
PS I’ve been to West Palm Beach and Orlando, Florida. Saw no tyranny there.

[bean2k21]

@HippieVeganJewslim What did Dixie do for blacks? We took them out of their voodoo practicing, devil-worshiping, spear chucking hell hole and gave them a free place to live, grow their food, saved their souls by introducing them to Biblical teachings, and treated them as well as any other Christian. We felt blessed by their service, and the idea that we were evil and brutal to them is just nonsense. However, I must admit it is nonsense that we likely created after the so-called Civil War. We had no choice but to institute racism and separate blacks from whites, so that we could hide our slaves from the feds the way people hide their taxable income.

[bean2k21]

@HippieVeganJewslim Is it sinking in at all? If you want to blame someone for racism. Blame your precious tyrant, Abe Lincoln.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Who says he’s my precious? I dislike pretty much every Yankee president.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Weren’t some African slaves Muslims and Americans forced the Islam out of them? They had no devil-worshiping or voodoo stuff. No wonder Malcolm Little took X as a surname, as Little was a slave name.

[bulldoglover3]

@HippieVeganJewslim I am from the south and florida would be the most liberal state in the south try Kentucky or Tennessee lol. But no the south are not tyrants

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@bulldoglover3 I believe You, but there are tyrannical totalitarians everywhere. I would like to visit TN and KY, but want not to move back to USA.

[DaveJord]

Honestly, you make a cute looking women... but not beautiful in the classic sense. But the body matters so maybe.

But once I found out you're a Trans, then I would not think of you as beautiful or cute. But I am a straight heterosexual guy, so biology matters to me.

But as long as you are happy, I am happy for you. Congrats.

[jshm2]

That you're labouring the point so hard, spells your insecurity and uncertainty about your choices and identity.

I couldn't care less if you think you're an otherkin. It's when you try and force that into my space and expect me to treat you differently that I push back.

[ElizaPam]

I'm not pushing anything in your space and I don't expect you to treat me different. You can call me a man all you want 🙂

[girly222222]

what does 'feeling' like a woman even mean? be as feminine as you want, you won't be able to 'feel' having a wider pelvis or two xx chromosomes. you won't be able to imagine being a female, or having a body geared towards the production of the female gamete. You will never be a woman.

[ElizaPam]

Ok I'll never be a woman but I'm not going to pretend to be manly and dress and act like a man. Ew lol

[Daniela1982]

I just read the question and knew right away who asked the question. You are getting to be pretty predictable.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Fine, but there are more than two genders. According to the Talmud, there are six, or possibly eight. Finally, there’s another pronoun: ze for subject, zir for object, and zirs for possession. Non-binaries often use that pronoun.

[FunkyMonkee]

You're a sissy!! You look like a girl!! (j/k) (You DO look like a cute girl, I was joking about the sissy part.)

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Ain’t sissy an offensive term?

[FunkyMonkee]

@HippieVeganJewslim Yeah, if she was trying to look like a guy. In this case, it was jokingly meant as a compliment.

[12Volt]

Your desperate need for approval, is a red flag.

[12Volt]

@acooke-13

You just made my point, babes. She doesn't need to explain anything. She just needs to be the person she wants to be, and leave it at that.

[12Volt]

@acooke-13
Depending on the country you live in, you might need permission. As for the rest of that, you don't appear to have both oars in the water.

My point is that by defending something that doesn't need defending, you raise a red flag.

[12Volt]

@acooke-13
How does you visiting the US have anything to do with transgender? Are you OK?

[12Volt]

The horse is dead.

[MidwestHeels]

I know really I will be always a man because I do not believe that you can change your gender.

[loveslongnails]

I don't give a shit about pronouns. I'll call you by your name and avoid all that brouhaha.

[Anonymous]

You go girl.

Don't listen to the haters.

[John882233]

@ElizaPam your so beautiful and I can't stop thinking about you :) miss you

[Anonymous]

Look down your pants. Do you see a penis there? Then you're a man.

Source: Biology 101

[CrazyGirl2]

Look down YOUR pants. Do you see a complete lack of balls there? Then you’re a coward for shit-talking a transgender person anonymously! You KNOW that you don’t believe the bullshit you’re selling, and you just can’t stand the thought of being held accountable!

Source: Sociology 4110 (Development of sociological thought)
(You can always tell the uneducated, they’re the idiots who actually think all entry level classes in college begin with “101”)

[blissinanarchy1]

Read those post again. OP agreed biologically they are a man.

[CrazyGirl2]

@blissinanarchy1 EXACTLY! 💯% agree!
That was just a completely awful post, for NO reason whatsoever.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Many men and transwomen, like Caitlyn Jenner, had their penes removed. Likewise, many women and transmen have fake schlongs. Did your biology book confuse man and male?

[Juxtapose]

I completely agree with you.

[XLBBC4White]

Good for you Doll. Go big or go home :)