Is the lesbian-guy friendship impossible?

[VulcanHades]

For some reason I feel like it's much harder for straight men to be friends with lesbians than it it for straight girls to be friends with gay guys.

I mean for example a lot of gays like shopping and fashion so they have a lot in common with girls. But lesbians pretty much hate everything about us right? They can't stand testosterone lol. At least that's the feeling I get.

A lot of lesbians also seem to be huge feminists so they always blame men for everything it seems.

Anyway I wanted to hear your thoughts on that. There's this lesbian I really like a lot and I'd really just like to be her friend. But I feel like it's just impossible no matter how I look at it haha.

Do you guys have lesbian friends? And girls, do you have a lot of gay friends? Alternative question: have you ever fell in love with a lesbian or gay?

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+1 y

So I take it no one has a lesbian friend? lol

[Shpongolia]

I think straight male / gay female friendships are possible. I've known a few lesbians who were very friendly and kind toward me and the other men in their lives. One of them was an old co-worker from a previous job I had. Although I've never had gay female friends, one of my best friends from high school was a bi-girl and we used to point out which girls we thought were hot. I gotta admit it was fun to have that kind of conversation with a girl for a change.

Based on my experiences alone, I don't believe all lesbians are man-hating fembots. Although I could see how many of them would get really annoyed by men trying to gawk at them when they are trying to show affection toward their girlfriends.

[HadesHatesMe]

Not at all, I'm friends with plenty lesbians. And a few gay guys.

[VulcanHades]

Why do you think I hate you? lol

[HadesHatesMe]

No the friendship thing isn't impossible. And I've had a few crushes on some guys but never got lucky enough to have a relationship with anyone.

[VulcanHades]

I was referring to your name. "HadesHatesMe" and my name is VulcanHades. :p

[HadesHatesMe]

Oh lol, cuz if I die I'm going to hell. And every time something happens where i should be dead I don't die. Lol it gets a bit annoying though.

[NoDoubt]

I am straight and have had a friend who was a girl and is bi. I also have a guy friend who is bi. They are both quite easy to be friends with and the girl has a lot of guy friends and isn't into shopping and all that so it is easy for her to hang out with other men without being physically attracted to them (she mainly likes girls, but occasionally sees a dude she fantasizes sleeping with). They are both like brother and sister to me :) I used to like my bi friend but that didn't last long lol it was just a minor crush that passed after a few weeks and now I view him as my little brother. I have never fallen in love with a bi or gay person though.

[pootytangg]

No, I have two really good straight guy friends. And one gay guy friend. We have been friends since high school I feel like a valued friend and I am asked for advice about their girlfriends or women their trying to talk to (the straight guys). Media wants you to think all lesbians hate men. It is not the case well for me. Spark up a conversation with that girl I hope it works out for you.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a ton of gay friends, both male and female. He's never had an issue with lesbians and if anything I think he finds them amusing, not in a negative way, just a different lifestyle (he really likes to observe the way people act, especially when it's out of the ordinary).

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I've seen studs and guys become friends. I don't know the intricate details of their friendships but I've seen it.

[ShaeNielson]

I think what you just said, is bullshit. I have lots of friends who happen to be lesbian, and with most of them you can't even tell. Lesbians are like all other girls, they just doesn't want the D.

[VulcanHades]

I never said we can easily tell them apart. So I don't know why you're so upset.

[ShaeNielson]

Im not upset. You just said that all lesbians hates men, and I said that isn't true.

[VulcanHades]

I said I think most of them do. And by "them" I meant the ones who are huge feminists. Never said all of them hate men.

[Alexzktra]

I'm... a... lesbian? Hey.
This is weird, you've given us no info on her besides her sexuality, how are we to know if you could be friends?

[VulcanHades]

You're right haha. But that wasn't the meat of the question. I might create another question for my personal situation. But here I just wanted to know in general if lesbian-guy relations are rare. And hear about others and their friendship/love experience with homosexuals.

I feel the straight guy + straight girl relation is already complicated enough lol. So to me being friends with a lesbian seems pretty impossible. Because not only am I attracted to her, I have a feeling most lesbians hate me because I'm a guy and I apparently feel entitled to get attention or feel entitled to be with girls or only view them as sexual objects or whatever nonsense like that.

[Alexzktra]

well.. just, don't be a dick and she may wanna be yr friend. but she may also not. who knows? try it, but don't be a creep about it if it turns out she doesn't wanna be friends.

[I had a longer message but I cut it down]

[elman123]

yes i been in love with a lesbian but haha as u said its impossible to be friends with... sad but true :/

[thrillcr]

this entire post is full of stereotypes and it's slightly concerning

[EvilPimp]

I always ended up fucking the lesbians so I guess not.

[VulcanHades]

You mean you raped her? Because by definition a lesbian wouldn't be interested in your junk unless she's actually bisexual and not gay.

[EvilPimp]

No I would never force myself on no woman period. I just know that a couple of girls who actually had girlfriends let me screw them. They wanted to know what it was like to fuck a guy since they never had.

[VulcanHades]

That's.. interesting lol. But I can see it. Sexuality is fluid as they say so they are experimenting out of curiosity.

[Anonymous]

I have a best friend who is lesbian. She is the butch tomboy type and she is my wingman when we hit up bars.

[Opinion Owner]

It's easy to meet women with her lol.

[VulcanHades]

I guess I can see it being easier with butch tomboys since they have their fair share of testosterone haha. But in my case she is very "femme/lipstick" but that doesn't mean she likes butch. Maybe she is lipstick and is attracted to other lipsticks.. I'm not sure.

[QueerCupcake]

I'm a lesbian and my best friend is actually a guy its way more fun knowing he won't start to like me

[AnimeDreama]

I'm your friend aren't I? XD

[AnimeDreama]

FYI, I hate feminists and feminism in general. Do NOT take this to mean that I am against gender equality. Also, I only hate douchebag men.

[ghostsandfireworks]

I don't see why not