Can a guy not be just friends/platonic with a woman they've slept with?

[Crimsyjo]

I value the time I spent getting to know the guys I slept with (not relationship guys. Just sex for fun guys when single). But now I have a boyfriend I was hoping we can still chat but keep things platonic and civil. Because I know I can do that. But my boyfriend and others think I am being naive. That if they remain friends with me it's only because they still wanna hook up?

[NathanDavis]

bit of a different situation for me...

I wasn't doing hookups, but I've had girlfriends... and two of them are two of my best and closest friends, so, technically "we slept together" and nowadays we're just friends, yes... and we've been that over a decade or so, and so... no drama or anything

and no... we're not just waiting and trying to have sex again, lmao

we're just great friends because we started being great friends first and that just continued through time, the romance completed it's cycle... the friendship does remain

[Lionman95]

I would say no because a guy interprets physical contact as a signal of interest. So I would say it´s rather unlikely that a guy can keep a platonic friendship with a woman he slept with. I think platonic friendship between men and women can work as long as there is no sex involved.

[Crimsyjo]

So it can only be platonic if always that way. It can't become or turn platonic?

[laly520]

so u r sure of urself but r u sure of the guys being able to keep it platonic?
did u let ur boyfriend know about whom u r keeping as ur friends?

[Crimsyjo]

Yes he knows. He said its OK as long as they do respect that we are together and don't try it on with me. But I think really he would prefer I didn't stay in contact with them. He just doesn't want to tell me what to do.

[laly520]

yes I thought so thus why I asked if he is ok with it or not

[Pinay_ako]

They can be friends and still with benefits too if needed. Focus now on your man and leave them fwbs behind.

[9in_Serpent]

If they can be then why leave them?

[Pinay_ako]

@9in_Serpent coz it’s unfair for your new person in the relationship.

[9in_Serpent]

i would argue its unfair to expect the other person leave their friends they met before the new person and just in general

[Pinay_ako]

@9in_Serpent were talking about friends with benefits. Fck buddies

[9in_Serpent]

doesn't matter they are still her friends

[OlderAndWiser]

You are being both naive and selfish. That is what YOU want but perhaps the guys you banged in the past don't want to hear about the guy who is currently banging you. Most men feel an animalistic possessiveness towards women who they have fucked and it is just a part of who we are.

[SamIam96]

If you have history with a guy, he'll think it's still possible to hookup again. Be clear about the new boundaries and the reasons. Unless they're jerks, they will respect your wishes. The smart guys will want to stay on your good side just in case you and boyfriend break up.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I can with one of my exes since she's in our social group (she's even become besties with my wife). It helps though that she has a husband now. We all hang out together in a group, my wife and her husband included.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Normally I do think it's in bad taste to hang out with our exes when we're with of our SOs, but in my case my wife and I were friends for a year before we started dating. She already knew about my ex and was friends with her too when we were just friends; we all belonged to the same friend group. So it was rather unavoidable in that case, but it helped that she got a boyfriend of her own.

[Lokiion]

Definitely can for a period of time my best friend was a female (we still friends) I would say for porn addicts it’s not possible but for people who aren’t yes you can be friends with a female

[Crimsyjo]

A female you used to sleep with for fun? Just to clarify! 😄

[Lokiion]

No me and her were just cool with each other we would just talk all day nothing sexual

[Jay-_-]

My personal opinion no need for a guy friend when your relationship Is all in one, you need a friend get yourself a girl. friend. Tell me what do you need a friend of the opposite sex for if you got your man/women you should be talking to your significant other about whatever you'd want a "guy friend" for. "My boyfriends acting weird let me talk to another guy about it" sounds like an attention seeker to me 🤷🏽

[Jay-_-]

Unless you have an unhealthy relationship don't talk out your issues.

[ProbablyClueless]

The possibility of a future sexual encounter will always be in the back of the mind, but guys can remain platonic too.

[Anonymous]

Most PEOPLE can't. I would say men can better than women though. Because men can compartmentalize much better than women can. Though women are getting more and more butch with each successive generation. So women are gaining on men in this area.

Who knows. A few more generations down the line and society might abandon the notion of marriage and relationships altogether and just f*** around full time.

[Flatmanlewis]

Nope. Not if either one is in any kind of romantic relationship with a third-party. Once that seal has been broken there is always the potential for it to happen again.

[sheikalana]

If you respect your boyfriend and care for your relationship you must not entertain any ex or guy you've slept with in the past.

[Anonymous]

I have been just friends with girls I have slept with. And if they get a new guy, I have no problem remaining just friends with. I treasured the memories, yet continued as just friends.

[Crimsyjo]

Very mature and great to see youbcan do that,.

[Paul_in_Indy]

I have never had any problems with this. It’s good to be friends with girls I’ve slept with.

[David94358]

Yeah it's about impossible to go back to platonic feelings for a guy once he has had sex with you

[bowenw]

I think it's possible. I am friends with a couple of ex girlfriends.

[jeremy_09]

No because you always remember how your cock felt in her pussy.

[Crimsyjo]

Ooh that's naughty. But hot! But yh. Could be a problem.

[jeremy_09]

[Anonymous]

You have a boyfriend now but you still want to chat and interact with guys you've slep with in the past? yeah, that's a recipe for a successful relationship, lol.

[MrDaveAPSI]

LMAO

Why do girls think you can be "just friends" with people you sleep with

[Crimsyjo]

Haha its a girl thing then? Is that because most men have a different mindset then towards separating sex and friendship? In your opinion?

[MrDaveAPSI]

Probably

[Anonymous]

Ah women. Gotta love the way feminism tells you that you can have your cake and eat it too. 🤣

Dream on lady. Dream on.

[9in_Serpent]

Its definitely possible just depends how mature they are

[HawkPerception]

Sorry, but in this case you're truly being naive.

[Crimsyjo]

I value your opinion.

[HawkPerception]

I'm hurt by your sarcasm

[Crimsyjo]

It was actually genuine not sarcasm. 😊 and yh I've been called naive before. Its just cos I'm nice and I like to think other people can be respectful and nice too and not have ulterior motives!

[HawkPerception]

It's not about ulterior motives. It's about history. If they've seen you nude and has sex wit you, it's kinda hard to not ever envision or desire it again. They may respect your boundaries, but it's better to not even be in that scenario to begin with.

[Med_guy1978]

Some could but most cannot.

[thegreenyogi]

I think it is possible.

[jahaims]

You're naive af

[Crimsyjo]

So if a guy stays friends with a woman it's only cos he wants and hopes to fuck again?

[jahaims]

If they have previously been anything other than friends before, yes

[CubaPirate]

Yes and I am

[eagle1951]

yeah