Girls, my female housemate spends half an hour in the bathroom every night before bed. Any ideas what she's doing in there?

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I can't hear the shower running or toilet flush just silence. I've asked and there's never an answer to wtf she is doing in there. I really want to know! I literally spend 5 minutes to wash my makeup off and brush my teeth so can't think what she would be doing! Any ideas? It's really annoying cos it is usually right when I wanna go to bed.

lisafaceire88 · Accepted Answer

Perhaps her skincare routine is longer than yours. She may have a different texture to her skin , or may be more interested in it than you are. I know my skincare nightly routine is on avg 30-35mins , where as my sisters whom is older and has no real interest is 5mins. As someone else posted perhaps she is detaching (for want of a better word) excess unwanted hair. Is this something that is an issue for you , like is it something where you are waiting around for her to get out so you can get in, or do you already get there before her and are just nosy and moaning? 'cause seriously if it's the latter, you're being rude.. what she does is her business , she should not have to share that info with you!! If it however is the former , I would suggest instead of interrogating/questioning her you either a) suggest you go before her , i mean you said you're literally 5mins in there , or b) politely point out you have noticed her lengthy time in there , and maybe if there is anything wrong? Don't go in on the defense or you'll be ignored. Whatever she's doing , let her do her & you do you! :)

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

Perhaps texting, praying, moisturizing her skin, shaving, cleaning the bathroom... some sort of ritual she does that lasts 30 minutes. Good luck. xx

Anonymous · Answer

If it is the exact amount of time every night and in the exact time, I think that she is plannig her next day, you know like having an agenda notebook, or a paper, or just her mind free from your distuctions. Maybe just thinking about her goals. If she is an organized, successful, goal-oriented person, this might be the case.
I know that this is rare, but some people think about their goals, sometimes the purpose of life every day. Like for eg this book suggests:
www.theartofhappiness.net/.../...dgrowrichbook.pdf

write affirmations and repeat them to yourself twice a day (page 4, 4th paragraph)
Some peole might do something similar, but you have to concentrate so just being alone for some time helps.

While another thing might be tacking care of her body or masturbating. My sister would go in the bathroom and stay a lot there after the bath. When I asked her, she said that she covers her body with body lotion.

523206720 · Answer

let her be. What she does is her business. Who knows? maybe she has a sexually transmitted disease and is washing herself or has some kind of health disorder or needs to get insulin injections or is praying and doesn't want you to hear what she is saying etc... the possibilities are endless.

Sara413 · Answer

It's not your business what she is up to in there - not one bit. However, if this is becoming an issue for you then you should talk to her about that. I read on one of the other comments here that when she is in there and you knock to ask her to let you use the bathroom for a couple minutes she doesn't answer/says no. You should definitely talk to her about that - it's not fair for you to be stuck staying up half an hour later than intended because of her mystery routine.

But it is NOT your business what she is doing in there. We've all got our nightly rituals, and some take longer than others. Also, it's entirely possible that she has an embarassing medical issue, or who knows what.

RebelliousRoyalty · Answer

Well honestly whatever she is doing in the bathroom is her business the only time you should worry is if she does drugs. but if her being in the bathroom at a certain time at night is messing with your sleep schedule talk to her and ask her if she can wait for you to get ready for bed before she hops in the bathroom to do her nightly routine.

stilllearning77 · Answer

Brushing teeth, flossing, picking zits, clogged pores, texting your man, who the hell knows. If you are concerned about it just ask, 'what the hell do you do in there every night that takes so long?' Make it a joking like approach not an attack.

honeybones · Answer

she is probably texting, jamming out to music which might explain why she doesn't hear or answer you or she is masterbating (which I doubt since you'd be able to hear) or she is zoning out into her own world... try to get to the restroom earlier or something. Best of luck! :)

rosedream · Answer

Well, i have no idea about what she is doing. But spending a lot of times in the bathroom is possible. I usually spend 20 min on taking a bath sometimes 30 min. I don't know why I take so much time like that. If I wash my hair, it's sure it's gonna be more than 30 min to finish up everything. So maybe your housemate is like me, she is a kind of slow girl and she washes her face, brushes her teeth, remove makeup, blah blah... slowly. Or maybe she has another unusual behaviours. Who knows?

KuroiAika · Answer

I spend four to five hours in the bathroom because my imagination works best when I'm there, I'm able to think more clearly there, I feel privacy mostly there and more comfortable. So... I don't really think it's that big of a deal, maybe she's just thinking.

Mumble · Answer

If she never really answers you when you asks, then it must be something personal she's doing and would not want you to find out.
You have to fight your curiosity. If she doesn't want you to know, then you shouldn't pry.

peachblossomluck · Answer

It's how she gets her quiet time. And it's her routine which helps when winding down for bed. If she isn't building a pipe bomb in there or something, you ought to respect her privacy. You probably annoy her to no end.

Anonymous · Answer

Could be shaving/waxing, taking off make up and we'll I'm too tired to think of what else

cheonsongyi · Answer

Sometimes it's just relaxing to sit in the bathroom.

CHARismatic110 · Answer

Unless she's keeping you from using the bathroom every night, I don't think you should be concerned with what she's doing in there.

Slizzard101 · Answer

If you're seriously knocking down pretty much everyone's opinion, why did you even ask the question in the first place?
You're asking what I it could be, how about you just walk in ans and see for yourself?
No? Then take people's opinions or stfu.

ZanarkandRose · Answer

Maybe she's just on the phone. Facebook, Instagram, or games. Don't be so snoopy. Maybe she has a stomach disorder and needs to occupy the bathroom for a while. You don't know and she shouldn't have to tell you anything. It's her business. Mind your own.

passionforprince · Answer

Sometimes I just need some me time in the bathroom. I look at myself, dance, use the bathroom etc. Maybe it smells and she is giving it time to clear out. But its her personal time Im thinking.

BushBabyBoo · Answer

Maybe she has IBS and has decided to dedicate time to relieving herself each night, instead of going when she feels like it. Unlikely though. Just ask her.

Azara · Answer

since you both need the bathroom obvioudly set up a schedule and stop being invasive. Just schedule the bathroom at 9 for you 9 30 for her as an example.

wonderwoman32 · Answer

Maybe she planning a secret plot to murder you so she can keep the bathroom to herself:/ be careful!!!

BloodyCheeseBurger · Answer

leave her alone!!! why do you care... she's either getting ready to "do it", or she REALLY has to go to the bathroom!!!

RationalLioness · Answer

Lol. No clue. She could be shaving. Soaking in the tub with her phone. Taking a relaxing poo... lol.  I spend an hour in the shower but you can hear that. :)

SuklaaTryffeli · Answer

Ask her, or

EllieEl · Answer

If she has depression or a mental illness she might be self harming or silently crying. If not she might just have some cleaning routine she does.

Anonymous · Answer

Had one like that once
some of it is primping, picking at body/face to perfect these for next day
the rest is sexual, so it's easier to get to sleep
I want to say it's b/c she was high strung... but not really all the time.

darkroses758 · Answer

meditating! Bathrooms are nice and cool, and usually have an impeccable way of blocking out outside chatter/noise.

thisisawkwardbut · Answer

Facial regime, on the toilet, on the phone, most likely on the phone and on the toilet simultaneously

GarysSexyInjunGirl · Answer

My husband does the same thing but he falls asleep in the tub. But her she can be texting a bf and talking naughty or just masturbating. Some women do that. Just tell her to do that stuff. in her room

loomydarling · Answer

My ex started spending about an hour in the bathroom claiming to be playing video games on his phone I soon found out he had been smoking meth.

bothamomandfiancee · Answer

she could be sending her boyfriend nude pics or sexual videos of her masterbating

Cruelazure · Answer

She could be meditating, or thinking and just wants time to herself.

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