How to get rid of clingy sugar daddy?

[Anonymous]

I know I will get ripped apart and bashed for this but here it goes... I did something SUPER dumb... I made an account on seeking arrangement the other day. I have a boyfriend who I am moving in with soon and I love him with all my heart and would never ever cheat. I was worried about student loans and debt and everything and my boyfriend was joking that I need a sugar daddy, he didn't mean it I know. But I was on the dumb site I thought it was kind of funny and this guy asked for my number. I'm a bit reckless so I did, then he sent $300 to my email and I depostited it like an idiot. There was no phone sex involved, no nudes, nothing. But then the guy said he looked up my Facebook he lives near my university, he was asking what my favourite sex postion is if I like my hair pulled. I told him I was uncomfortable with that and asked if he wanted the money back because I don't want that or to feel like I owe him that. I had a sugar daddy before which was an accident through tumblr he would sen me money and gifts through amazon, we never met in person and we literally chatted about books and movies and normal non-sexual stuff (I edited his novel a bit too so he might have been trying to pay me for that as well). And idiot me thought it would be that easy this time! well now this guy is saying that we should meet once a month and be eachother's "escape" when I don't want that. I literally do not want to have sex with anone other than my boyfriend ever I can't do that!!! He won't accept the money when I try to e-transfer it back to him and he says he wants me to call him daddy and let him provide for me and all this and I had no idea that this was what I was getting myself into. I know people will call me a whore, skank whatever but I was just being a stupid teenager and I thought it was all a game and now I am afraid this guy is going to become a stalker. He's obsessed with me, he says he loves how I look like I'm 13 even though I'm legal age. he's creeping me out!

[Ozanne]

Tell him to stop, and if he keeps at it, it's considered criminal harassment after that point, especially if carries on the way it does making you uncomfortable. YES, return that money and if you need to tell the police, don't be embarrassed about it because they really have heard it all. This guy is holding it over you like he owns you as long as you still have that money in your account. He's also being a bit of a stalker looking for you which is creepy. So yeah, best thing is to tell him once and for all to stop, and warn him that if this doesn't stop, you'll be taking that $300 to the police along with your story and have them come and chat with him about it.

I know you probably don't want to, but it's probably imperative that you get yourself OFF of Facebook, even if it means for a while. Tighten up all your privacy settings (check the feature "how you look to public profiles" and then go to every picture and post and either delete the ones that are public or switch the privacy to friends only. Your whole page being out there is a problem.

Any other social media - now that he has your name, needs to be considered taking down too. These guys don't mess around and you don't know what kind of nutcase you're dealing with. Just the fact he's out there online and not taking back his money is already a bad start of him showing you what kind of nutcase he's turning out to be.

Anyway, good luck. I know you fucked up. Who hasn't made a mistake in their life, right? But just get your shit down offline and go to the police and at least open a file because you never know if this guy has done this to other women and your complaint could help some other girl out there too.

[HyperOrphic]

Okay, I won't tear you apart and call you a whore. I will say however that what you did was EXTREMELY reckless and stupid. You could have gotten severely hurt and you need to make sure that you end this 100% here now and not a second after you read this response.

The first mistake you made was obviously treating it like a game: people don't take women accepting their money without giving anything back like it's a game. That's like paying for a steak and waiting for it while the waiter says the steak doesn't want to be eaten. Playing it like a game can turn it into stalking, violence, rape, all because you thought it would be easy money. You got selfish and acted stupidly. Does that mean you're a bad person? No, because you can change. The first thing you have to do is sever ALL CONTACT with this guy. He can't stalk you if he doesn't have the means unless he literally comes to your house. Leave whatever website you found him on, change your email, update your direct deposit information, do not accept any more money from him, block all internet accounts and phone numbers from this guy. Give him the flat out: do not contact me again or I will call the police before you block him. After that, considering nothing physical happened... I'd say forget about it unless it becomes a greater threat. Women will hate me for saying that but your relationship won't benefit from you admitting you screwed over a sugar daddy looking to fuck you, especially since you didn't.

If you continue to get harassed by other means, you'll have to file a restraining order against the guy. Hopefully, it doesn't come to that and you'll learn a really valuable lesson from this. Good luck.

[anongirl821]

I couldn't have put it better myself.

[HyperOrphic]

Thank you @anongirl821 and also thank you for MHO.

[virgininla]

She also needs to return the guy's money

[Asker]

I transferred it back to his email several times and he just lets the transaction time out and won't deposit it.

[anongirl821]

When I was 15, I met a guy on Hot or Not. He sent me a message saying Hi, I'd like your dress size, snapchat, and phone number because apparently I was his dream girl. He had a photo of a hot guy on his profile and he said he was 21. But I responded with my dress size, and I said no, I don't give out that type of information. But he was smooth and he sweet talked me into meeting him. I brought my guy friend with me to the meeting and we met in public. He didn't look ANYTHING like his profile. But he told me that he bought me a dress and it was in his car and to go alone. So I did, and he tried to sexually assult me. I managed to get away thankfully. But when I got home I googled him and found out he was 39. Let this be a lesson to you. Don't assume people are who they say they are online.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

There was a old man who was looking for a sugar baby so he sent this girl
checks / money orders that was illegal and he also met up with these other
girls who he made them choke him as sexual pleasure and this girl he ended
up choking her to death. So be careful because not all sugar daddies are
anyone to mess with and they can get you involved with human trafficking
they sell girls for sex to make money, some girls get paid while others end
up getting on illegal drugs , Yes life is gamble to play and it's a chance
that you take on winning ,, Some win and some lose this is serious ,

[Asker]

I know and I want out, I've only been talking to him 1 day and I want out of this I wish He'd take the money back but he won't do it

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yeah i see hope you can get help because once they send you fake money orders / fake checks can be bad

[Asker]

it was an etransfer through his bank to mine, but I haven't touched it

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Yep got watch if he knows your banking account number that is bad too
just watch all that stuff and best wishes glad i could give you so much help

[Jaden69]

So you got on a site and someone randomly asked for your number. Seems like you made an account or sent out messages, which isn't reckless, rather something you take time to do.

You can probably change your number and delete your facebook (you shouldn't have gave him your real name since you were being "funny"). Calling the police and making the issue larger may cause problems between your boyfriend so that's up to you.

[Xlink]

You are a stupid hoe. I hope that nasty old ma get you. Nah I don't mean that.

But you are stupid hoe. And that your whore. And he's a sleezy old nasty weak man. he's not even a man.

But your not even a woman so. I bet you never told ur boyfriend this

[KDA20]

It was very silly what you did but he is on verge of harassing you now - Tell him to take his money back and leave you alone or you will go to police

[Lala2311]

Change/delete your facebook
tell him you are moving away and dont want long distance
Change your number
If none of this works Call the police and keep a log of what he says and your responses

[thatkaruguy]

call the police explain the situation give him the money back and get a restraining order

[Anonymous]

Ignore it if it goes any further (violently), call the police, don't tell your boyfriend just tell them that you tried to give the money back but the guy continued to harass you. sorry if this isn't the best info.

[Anonymous]

Only $300? That's a pretty small sum from a sugar daddy.

[Asker]

it was to buy a purse but I was too scared to buy it, he was asking if I wanted a car if I wanted to live in his apartment building that he owns for free and I said no

[ilovchipmunk]

you can't be serious.

[Asker]

that's not helpful. don't bother to comment!

[Anonymous]

change everything. start a new fresh social page.