Is it intimidating to approach attractive people?

Question

Is it intimidating to approach attractive people?
Why or why not?

oldanddecrepid · Accepted Answer

I don't go for the outta my league thing. It is pretty simple, if you want to get to know a pretty girl or a handsome guy... always go with the intention that you want to see if they will be friends first! It puts less pressure on you.

Don't go in with the expectation that this is your big move. If you go in all nervous then it will show. Just be yourself, don't go in with a comment like... you are really pretty... that will just blow up in your face, because they would think that is all you know of them or care about. Avoid anything having to do with looks etc.

Find an avenue that you can relate on a certain level... but the idea is to just have a great conversation. One best ways to make someone like you is to embarrass yourself a little... that way they know you can take joke and that you can be fun.

Don't try to come up with a line or anything just intro yourself and talk to him or her as if they have been your friend for years.

Outofthegrey · Accepted Answer

I take the "imagine them shitting themselves" method, that makes it pretty easy.

In highschool I was terrified of girls I thought were very attractive, but that was back when I thought people who are physically a 9 or 10 are a 9 or 10 at everything, and not just normal human beings like everyone else.

theville · Accepted Answer

Fear of rejection and especially if u DONT think u look that GOOD... I am a very attractive female and fortunately always have been and when I got out of high school and college SO many guys told me they liked me or LOVED ME but were afraid to APPROACH ME --due to my looks --- that's the REASON they say PRETTY woman are lonely woman DUE to everyone being afraid to approach them, THE weird thing thugs and gangster type guys DONT have that insecurity they go ahead and APPROACH. the NICE guys are SCARY... so don't approach wtf

AthleticMom · Accepted Answer

Used to be
then experience taught
they are more used to being interrupted/stared at
and help guide others in how-to
+
are sitting at home as often as the rest of us! = would like to do something with anyone

SakuraChii · Accepted Answer

Yes it is. Even though leagues technically don't exsist, I still feel judged and I have had bad experiences with this since I approached a guy that was not only attractive but older as well.

IslandGent · Answer

I gotta say, I am attractive and quite intimidating. Even for myself, when I see a smoking babe, I feel like I have no chance. I don't know, I was always that type of person. Even when I have so much girls on me right now, I still feel like I have no chance.

Takada · Answer

Kind of. It's more intimidating to approach attractive people, because I imagine they have higher standards than less attractive people. So the chance of rejection if larger. But then again, they're just people, so it's not overly intimidating.

sp33d · Answer

The only thing that intimidatesme about approaching someone is their potential lack of social skills, looks got nothing to do with it. I hate when I have to pry conversation with crowbar.

youknowitt · Answer

They're just people. They have flaws. Always remember that.  From their perspective, they might actually find you or some other people intimating too. :)  Everyone should just be friendly. ;_;

Jxpxtxr · Answer

I think so because for some reason I never manage to do so as soon as I find somebody seriously attractive, luckily that happens rarely, so I'm not missing out too many people lol

sadsadboy · Answer

because they're attractive probably way out of my league they may instantly ask me to leave as soon as i approached them and maybe would feel less intimidated but more nervous

OrangeBoy · Answer

When i was younger i would run from girls. The more i liked them, the more was the fear. Yes girls, make eye contact with us, so we can know our pride does not fall in the floor with the NO word, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends really. If the woman seems older than me I might think she's more successful which will physic me out sometimes. But if she seems too attractive then I'll assume that she gets approached very often and is sick of it. So I'll just pass by with a question about something stupid or just forget about her all together.

But if she did that eye contact thing, Id totally pounce on that with out the same amount of intimidation as if she were a average looking girl.

justbanANNAz · Answer

it's not really intimidation. if i have no feelings for them it's absolutely normal, but if i feel something then i do get nervous.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess I am intimidated, now that I think about it. Especially with conventionally attractive guys... even if I'm not interested in them, I get uncomfortable by the thought of them possibly perceiving my approach as showing "interest" in them.

mithramitzmittu · Answer

Fear of rejection because i think that most attractive people "maybe" rude or just straight out reject me? (I know that this is not the case)

vickiezalez · Answer

I'd feel equally intimidated whether they smiled at me or not. I feel like I gotta be interesting so I can keep their attention. The pressure!! lol

ThatAsianFellow · Answer

I'm used to it... Kinda part of my job description you know? #Hairstylist #Bartender

ClauseViter · Answer

After you do it a few times it just becomes super easy. But yea it's more fun when ur on your game too cause then they're oh damn look out n you start the little tit tat that is flirtation.

Prof_Don · Answer

It CAN be if you overthink things.  Don't inflate her value just because she looks good! Treat her as a human. :)

LovesTVDx · Answer

Meh, I always approach cute guys for the time/ directions haha  Online, I have zero problem at all. I'll just go for the guy I fancy!

Marissa0015 · Answer

Some guys won't come up to me and say hi so maybe that is true they think someone's out of there reach

GreatnessPersonified · Answer

Nope, in fact, it's actually a motivator. The more attractive I find her is the more I'm on autopilot, and not worrying about looking stupid.

Phoenix98 · Answer

No not really they're just people like you and me lol.

I_am_repulsive · Answer

To many people it could be, but it's best to know than not at all right?

Bowshots86 · Answer

Because i am un attractive and they being attractive themselves get their pick in partners

GrooveSick · Answer

A bit, but they're also just people so I get over the nervousness rather quickly ^^

Words_and_Wisdom · Answer

Its intimidating to approach anyone. People are crazy nowadays.

Keyspirits · Answer

Its intimidating cuz we know they are outta our league so we told ourself we have no chance at'em and we also proceed with more caution with the fear of scaring them away or losing them. Thats why it's intimidating

SkaterDude · Answer

not really , there are just people not some freaking aliens

TripleAce · Answer

Depends if you like them, otherwise no

Pepperoninchihuahuas · Answer

comprison beats us so much. :(

abundantlyrich · Answer

I don't approach them. They approach me.

muspelhem_5 · Answer

Yes, due to status difference.

Subject0 · Answer

Not for me, they're just people.

cinderelli · Answer

i don't know.. i haven't approached anyone tbh. :/

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Yeah sometimes I suppose

Franitz · Answer

It's more exciting than intimidating.

Anonymous · Answer

Heck yes it is. That's why I chase fat girls.

tenofthepeaks · Answer

only to pussies and weirdos.

Izzex3 · Answer

No. Just isn't.

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