Dont you hate when you know your text over the phone?

[Anonymous]

is being open and read but the person do not have the courtesy to reply? Not that the text was not delivered and the person did not get the message or the person on the other side of the phone wasn ot available to respond is not any of those cases. The fact is the person opened, read the message but did not respond and you are aware it was read.

How unpolite!! I mean at least respond with a small text back or something.

[MeltedCheese89]

Text messages, by their very nature, are not meant to be responded to right away. What I find much more upsetting, however, is when I get a text message from someone, then CALL them right away, and they don't pick up the phone.

Like, did you send me that text message JUST as you were entering an elevator or a tunnel or something?

[Asker]

and what if the text is never responded at all? Unpolite as well?

[Asker]

Why you will call them if the other person is texting you, maybe they can't talk on the phone and only through text? It happened to me twice a a guy wrote as a status of his text messaging system he informed the people he could not talk so he wrote oin his status " I can't talk, only text messages"

[MeltedCheese89]

Okay, here's the thing. When you send a text message, the other person does not HAVE to respond to you. Because a text message is a one-way form of communication. It's like sending a letter in the mail. There's no inherent immediate back-and-forth with text messages.

To expect someone to send you a text back right away is to misunderstand text messaging itself. You CAN have a back-and-forth conversation with text messaging, but that mode of communication is not built upon the idea of immediate feedback with whoever you're communicating with. If you want a direct back-and-forth communication with someone, you need to CALL them or talk to them face-to-face.

[Asker]

So what do you think of those who did read your messaeg and never text back and im not talking about strangers Im alking people you know, friends.

[MeltedCheese89]

See, this is another problem with text messaging. We often send text messages to people when we're doing something else or we're in a quiet place but WANT to reach out to that person... but just don't exhibit the restraint of doing without it for now and carrying on that conversation later. It leads to a situation where we intermittently chat back and forth with someone between our moments of free time. It's also nice to carry out a more private conversation, but because conversing over text messages means writing out our thoughts, and we might be easily interrupted in that process without the other person realizing it... it makes it a bad system for immediate feedback.

TL;DR: It's NOT impolite if someone doesn't message you back right away. Even if you get a notification saying they saw the message. Maybe they're putting it off because they forgot. Maybe they were interrupted. Lots of things in life happen. Call or send another text.

[Asker]

Do you think also that texting is a way of avoiding confrontation face to face to that person so to express wrds it is better done over text thatn with a call or in person?

[MeltedCheese89]

Maybe the window opened up on them and that counts as them "reading" it, but they didn't get a chance to respond to it before they were pulled away or the app crashed on them or something. Like I said, stuff happens in life.

The only way to know for sure what's going on is if you sent them another text message or call them or talk to them face to face and ask why they didn't respond to that text message you sent?

... and you should also ask yourself (I'm serious about this, I've had to ask this of myself from time to time too) if you really NEED an answer from them or if it's worth pestering them over, or whether you're willing to hold a grudge against them over something as minor as not responding to a text message as promptly as you expected them to.

[MeltedCheese89]

yeah, sure. People do that all the time. It's nice to hide behind a computer screen AND to not use your own voice. It make the experience less... personal. And you can say things you MIGHT find yourself otherwise uncomfortable saying. Sometimes. Other times it's personal preference.

[Asker]

You could be right aalso that they open the window but did not get the chance to read the text but hey they could read it lateror the next day with they are not that busy and respond at taht moment and even so text back something saying. I did get your text I get back to you tomorrow or they can even say I can't talk right now call me later, anything small could be good to acknowledge they did receive the text but are not able to respond right away

[Asker]

and in the case those people prefer to respond over text to avoid some kind of confrontation insead of calling the person or talk to the person face to face, what do you think of those people?

[Asker]

Or it could be they rather respond to a text in order not to hurt the other people feelings oer face to face or over a phone call. Bt like You i belieev if you ar a an adult you have to face and talk to the person when things are not going ok in this case

[Asker]

Let me put you a scenario. A adult guy texts the girl this "whatever it was or we have, is not going to work, I am sorry. I hope you are ok". The guy texted that to a lady, she thought he was her friend or at least a good acquaintance. The guy did not give any kind of explanation to that text and it was sent ot of the blue. The girl believes the guy di dnot want to confront her in face or even a call to tell her taht, he hide behind a phone and not use his own voice to tell her that, she believes he is some kjind of coward. The guy setnt that out of the blue text after the girl sent him one 2 days before bt it was not a mean text it was a friendship text so the more reason for this girl to be cluleless about the guy text when the guy did not give explanation to send it. He did it over text instead of act like an adult and tell the lady in person or even a call.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the text. There are unreplyable texts, you know

[Asker]

Unreplyable texts? Such as? No I dont know, unless you are cheating of course the person wotn responde, are those the ones you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

Lol, you're funny, I like you

[Asker]

Thanks so tel me what are those unreplyable texts the cheating right? haha

[wolfiebear]

Yeah, I agree. This does happen to me sometimes and unfortunately by the people I want to talk to most. I wonder why people do this?

[Asker]

I agree it happened to me the same. The people who do that is the person also I need a reply I mean it does nto have to be rigt away it could be minutes later or eevn the next day but waiting they dont forget and it is also coming from people who are not strangers to you in order to ignore you, they are people who you know and they igonre you, is so frustrating. I hope they know that for courtesy at least say something could be small, lke I can't text now I b e right with you later r tomorrow, or Talk later friend, people around, anything that tells you they did read your message and they are acknowledging it

[wolfiebear]

Yes exactly, I find it really mean when people see it but they don't reply. Like, at least if you aren't going to reply, don't view the message!!! It makes me (and probably other people that this happens to) like I'm not worth talking to :((

[Asker]

A person told me that text messages are meant not to respond right away I kind of disagree on that. I mean it could not be right away but maybe some hours later at least when the person is less busy perhaps than when he/she received your text

[Asker]

I just read this "To expect someone to send you a text back right away is to misunderstand text messaging itself. You CAN have a back-and-forth conversation with text messaging, but that mode of communication is not built upon the idea of immediate feedback with whoever you're communicating with." If you want to communicate something you have to do it face to face or phone the person. they say WHat do you think?

[wolfiebear]

I think the people who don't reply within 24 hours should have a good reason why they don't reply in 24 hours.

[Asker]

and the ones who do not reply at all?

[wolfiebear]

they're either busy, didn't see it or don't want to talk I guess