Is a bad kisser a deal breaker?

[tsunshine]

I have kissed the guy I like a few times, and it's the same bad deal.

1) If the person you are interested in is a bad kisser, is it a deal breaker?

2) Would you stick it through and teach them how to get better?

3) guys if you were the bad kisser, how would you want the girl to break it to ya?

[unbiased]

1) depends on how bad. If it was just bland, I would stick with it. If he was either hoover or too much force, I wouldn't say deal breaker, but it would be something negative about the person.

2) depends on how awesome the person is.

3) I would mention how YOU like to be kissed and not make it about him. If you make it about him telling him is terrible, he can get hurt or defensive. However, if you say you like it to be gentle or whatever, he should be able to pick up on that and change his kiss up. If not... I am not sure he is going to be able to do other physical things right either if you catch my drift.

[tsunshine]

I like your answers. Well he opens his mouth too wide and then he right away sticks his tongue out...and its just a sloppy mess. If I show him how I prefer it to be done and then he goes right back to what he was doing...then no hope right?

[unbiased]

Yes, if he cannot get kissing down even after you tell him you would like it, there is not much hope.

Again, its best not to tell him what he is doing wrong, but to tell him what you want.

Say like "did you see that famous kiss in some movie? His mouth was tight and I bet ___ actor didn't use any tongue. So hot!" If he doesn't catch that hint and fix his game, then he is unlikely to do other things right in the dating game.

[bum8888]

Me too I like your answers

[tsunshine]

Well said, well said!

[washn2fun]

A bad kisser is a turn off. Reality is not everyone knows how to do everything so if you your an adult and have rational thoughts you can teach someone how to kiss, make love, or even four play. If I was a bad kisser I would want a girl to tell me "hey why don't you try kissing me like this" and show him how you like it.

[79132]

I had this very same problem with my current boyfriend.

Honestly. it was horrible when we first kissed.

I was so used to something different.

But I stuck it out.~

You have to get used to a new style, but once you do, it's yours to modify. :)

With subtle changes during kissing.

Etc, if he doesn't move his mouth at all whilst kissing, if you slowly start doing that, he miight catch the drift.

don't ditch him if you really like him.

just for a kiss.

:) g'luck.

[dollme777]

for some people it could be especially if your exspecting the guy to be a good kisser but they may not be a good kisser but they may just be good in bed. and you can always teach someone to kiss better the down fall is a bad kisser can sometimes reflect how good they are in bed but overall it depends on the person and yes it does take the shine out of things if you know kissing that person isn't gona be enjoyable because they kiss bad.

[mochamix]

1) depends how much I like the guy if not much then yea I don't wanna have his saliva all over me no thanks, if I really like him I will down on the amount of kissing till I'm comfortable enough to tell him how I like to be kissed

2) again depends...

btw I know that kinda guys your talking about they just use tongue all the time its sloppy and annoying and fix it or later on its gonna bug you even more ...

[matthewm]

Hmmm. I think the answer to that lies in both the guys and girls personalities. It can definitely be a deal breaker for some people, but I can only speak for myself. I think that there's so many more things to base a relationship off of that how well they kiss is a little beside the point. If I were in this situation, I would try to stick it out and teach them a how to kiss. That's just me, though.

[Standingpretty]

You should definately not give a great guy just because he is a bad kisser! You can always teach them to be better, but don't be blunt about it. Try saying: "I like what you're doing, but I would like it better if you did this (show them)". That way, you won't hurt his ego and you can teach him how to get better.

[EnviE]

I hate a bad kisser. Yeah, it is a deal breaker. Some girls kiss out of sync too which is obnoxious as hell. As a guy it certainly doesn't mean that I don't want to have sex with a bad kissing girl, but in all honestly, I can't date a girl who doesn't know the basics.

[fall4you]

To me it is... because I would never get sexually attracted which is a big deal. if its something small like I want them to do that they dont.. I teach them by just doing it to them and saying how I like it instead of telling them to do it. hopefully they catch on...they usually do.

[sirwilliamknowsalot]

I have learned throughout my experience in dating, that kissing is a huge part in any relationship. If someone is a bad kisser then I think you should get out of that relationship. There is nothing worse then being with someone who wants to kiss you but you don't want to kiss them bad.
There are so many more people in the world. Find somebody that is irresistible.

[Strait_Shooter]

No, and anyone that says it is a scum bag. Someone that would break up just because of it is just someone looking for a reason to break up and if you are going to do that and not even try to teach the other person than you are not even worth the emotional stress of a break up.

[jeeperss]

Best answer?

[shadowcat517]

1) It shouldn't be a deal breaker, but it's definitely something you need to work out.

2) Definitely, especially if you really like the guy.

3) They should be like "Kiss me like this..." then demonstrate

[Littletad]

It shouldn't be. You CAN learn to be a better kisser. It's only a deal breaker if your looking for a reason to find a deal breaker.

[2209009]

First of all, you can't just assume that he is a bad kisser. It could be you. It could just be the two of you together. Another girl may find him a great kisser. If you like him, then just suggest that you could both make the kissing better. Whether it is a deal breaker or not is entirely your call.

[mi_amour]

I've never met a bad kisser. But I'm assuming you can teach someone how to kiss, lol. So I wouldn't consider that a deal breaker. I'd try and help him get better at it.

[Rosaly]

I don't think its a deal breaker at all. People have their own styles of kissing, and what you might think as bad...someone else might have thought was good. You just need to show him how you like to be kissed...many people learn by example. If he's willing to please you...he'll learn how you like it..

[tiredofit]

Teach him in a fun way *Example: when your kissing him tell him to slow down and to kiss you softly or tell him to kiss you like this,in a Flirty way so he won't feel weird

[ITLSTL]

I'd want her to tell me straight up, its no good if I'm the only one enjoying it, although I wouldn't lose sleep over it either way.

[ilovecody3210]

yes. if a guy is a bad kisser I wouldn't even give him the time of day. I can't stand boys that are really sloppy kissers..that is a turn off and kinda makes me realize that they are either not experienced or he is just really sloppy

[The_Aristocrat0]

What if this was someone's first kiss?

[Gizemgizem]

I know right? You can't expect everyone to be perfect kissers? And so what if he is not experienced ? I'm pretty sure at one point you were inexperienced.

[lostgirl1]

the guy i am now dating turned out to be a bad kisser the first time i kissed him but after he got the hang of how kiss, he improved significantly :)

[Anonymous]

Yes. Kissing is my favorite, so it's important to me.

If I really like a guy, I would certainly try to help him through it and teach him how to kiss. But he has to be willing to learn.

[Anonymous]

Not a deal breaker if you liked them then you can work it out. Well instead of saying your a bad kisser maybe suggest that you try something different and show him how you like it.

[hugytd]

it just depends on if you can get them to learn. I had the same problem and I just couldn't get him to listen to me.

[Loverman111]

I was a bad kisser then I stayed with my girl and I'm pretty good now I try to focus on films when there kissing to see how they do it

[BlablaBlue]

Most guys are bad kissers, you have to teach him. Boss him around till he gets it right!

[The_Aristocrat0]

Woah woah woah! I'll have you know I am a world class kisser who is also a male. Thank you very much.