Tough love vs soft love?

what are you more a fan of and what works best on you? tough love would be something akin to :

Figure it out

No one is going to help you get what you want

The truth is you're fat/broke/loser and you don't have to be you choose to be

you whine entirely too much

soft love is

you can do it

you're already doing so well

I'll be there for you

not everyone will understand

it's ok
Tough love vs soft love?
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