What do you think of interracial dating?

[Dog19]

do you think it's wrong or evil? Do you think poorly of a black women dating a white man?

[Rawrzz]

I don't think anything of it. No. I don't think it's wrong or evil. No, I don't think poorly of a black woman dating a white man. I don't think most of society does, either. It's been a good while since that was viewed as wrong.

Star Trek showed the first black woman kissing a white man on television in 1968. There might have been some degree of disapproval, but it shows that at least for a generation it's been normalized. So, that was the "breakthrough" moment where media was concerned, and there were probably a lot more incidents before people felt comfortable showing that on TV. And we've had many examples of other interracial couples on tv since then.

I think television is a good reflector of societal ideology, to some extent.

[OlderAndWiser]

I was raised in a largely segregated society, I have never been attracted to women outside of my race (except for one or two Asian women,) and I would never consider dating outside of my race. But those feelings are based on my experiences, they do not represent judgments about the merits of interracial dating, and I try to not judge anyone for interracial dating.

However, I do have some unanswered questions about people who date only outside of their own race. I would like to understand what motivates a person to do that.

[pavlove]

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[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

I always wondered this. Growing up in segregation, did you find that most old people now who were racist (assuming you knew any) stop being racist or are they still (or were, if they are dead) racist? Cause, I always wondered if old people who were for it conditioned to change their views or simply supress them over time cause it isn't socially acceptable. Like, on 1 hand, I feel like it's kinda like gay marriage where there's opposition to it, but not everyone is against it. But there are still people who will go to their grave condemning gay people

[pavlove]

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[OlderAndWiser]

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau I think the answer to your question depends on whether your focus in on their feelings, their thoughts, or their behavior. When I was a child, I witnessed KKK rallies, cross burnings, and I knew someone who openly admitted to involvement with the Klan. I remember stores with signs that said "Whites Only," pairs of water fountains marked "White" and "Colored," and four restrooms: "White Men," "White Women," "Colored Men," and "Colored Women." However, we had those things because we had "always" had those things and I don't remember too many folks who cared that much except that is the culture to which they had become accustomed. When forced busing was implemented to desegregate the public schools, there was no rioting in the South; the riots were in Boston and Louisville (which is not truly a part of the South.)

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[OlderAndWiser]

For many Southerners, resentment towards blacks was really directed at ghetto culture and entitlement mentality; those things have lost their uniquely black character and have become multicultural. From spending more time around black people, we have learned that all blacks are not alike and that many of them are very fine people.

Some of the people who were racist 50 years ago no longer think the same thoughts about black people and they certainly don't see much openly racist behavior in my area. I see white men holding doors open for black people, I see white people calling black people "Ma'am" and "Sir" and I see frequent interracial dating. So, if you focus on thoughts and behaviors, the South has moved forward at a very rapid pace. That doesn't mean, of course, they you can't find pockets of racism, but it does mean that they are much less common than they were 50 years ago.

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[OlderAndWiser]

Feelings are a different issue. If you are taught, when you are a child, that black people are bad, that they are violent, and that they can't be trusted, then it is difficult to shake those feelings. . . just like someone who acquires a fear of the dark when they are a child. The feelings are always present. When I see an interracial couple, I have an unpleasant visceral reaction even though I know that whether they date is strictly their decision to make and it is none of my business. I can tell myself that my emotional reaction is wrong but that doesn't change it. My emotional reaction is simply something that I battle when it arises.

I hope that answers your question/

[reixun]

I don't think about it consciously. You'll find love wherever you will.

I particularly dislike self haters who date interracially to water down their features or lighten their children's skin. I also dislike people who date intraracially but use slurs and degrade the other races that they don't want to date. Like there's a difference between insults and preference. Don't be a classless retard.

If I see a cute couple, an interracial one or intraracial one, my reaction stays the same:
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[alice55]

I think that's good because some country have more men and other more women so it ll not be really good if some of them stayed alone because of some idea that tell interracial is bad.
Generally people doesn't care that much about who you are dating, if he's from another race, etc... Unless they're a bit racist and believe in the supremacie of their own race. After if it's parents, they generally prefer if their child date their race because it reasure them in a ways. Same race same culture.

[CHARismatic110]

I think of it the same way I think of same race dating. If it makes them happy, more power to them.

[RJGraveyTrain]

Resident white girl dating an Asian guy reporting in.

If it's evil then I guess I'm a villain lol.

[madhatters4]

i don't think it's wrong or evil. people should date whoever they want and shouldn't feel confined to dating people who have the same skin color as them simply because they have the same skin color

[kickme]

Yeah, the disadvantages far outweigh the advantages.

*Your children will face social obstacles.
*the likelihood of divorce is higher
-almost all white women/black man marriages are dissolved by year 11.
*All races are not physiologically equal, some have different average IQ, bone structure, testosterone level, hieght, longevity, etc. You may not realize what you are mixing your genes with that your children will have to live with.

There are enough people trying to complicate my life, I don't need to help them.

[xnxstxsix]

Please elaborate on what these social obstacles are. What does the colour of your skin have to do with if you're more likely to get divorced? You make it sound like being biracial is something that is so hard to live with, when it really isn't.

[kickme]

@xnxstxsix

You can google divorce rate by race. Black man + white woman is the highest divorce rate.

Social obstacles - "brothers" will not often accept biracial men as equals and biracial men will sometimes not associate themselves as white either.

not saying I agree with this or that is is the case 100% of the time, but it is a risk

[xnxstxsix]

I have looked it up many times before because I am the product of an interracial marriage (Black Woman + White Man) While what you did mention about Black Men + White Women relationships is true it is not always the case for other interracial couple/marriages.
Proof :https://www. blogher. com/files/divorce_3. jpg

[xnxstxsix]

https://www.blogher.com/files/divorce_3.jpg

[Maik567]

@xnxstxsix I wonder why there's such a huge disparity between white woman / black man divorce rates compared to white man / black woman ones. I mean it's the same races but it's almost a 250% difference.

[Starrk]

1. I never met a child that never did face some type of social obstacle. I'm pretty sure every child has some type of story involving how they were either bullied or treated unfairly by others. It's a guaranteed part of life.

2. @xnxstxsix already addressed the divorce rate.

3. White Americans and White Russians are not physiologically equal either. They both have different IQ levels, bone structures and height, but you don't see people complaining about such couple combination. If these type of differences is what matters in a relationship, then people should not only stick to their race but they should stick to their own ethnic group as well.

[Starrk]

@Maik567 While they are the same race there is a gender dynamic at play and I believe that that gender difference is the key.

Nobody knows why the gender difference causes such a huge difference among Black and White divorce rate, but one theory I heard states that Black Women and White Men has always been a taboo pairing (even to this day) in America. And as a result of this, such a pairing needs to contain some die hard love in order to survive the negative social pressure exerted on them from the outside (from both white and black communities).

In a nutshell, they're basically saying White Men and Black Woman are more likely to marry one another out of true love instead of out of racial fetishism.

But like I said that's simply a theory.

[kickme]

@Starrk so what are the advantages because as the informative chart that @xnxstxsix posted shows, more white welfare mothers and fatherless children is a concrete and verifiable disadvantage?

[Relentless_Hippie]

I'm a mixed raced person. Interracial couples need to take over the world!

I would genuinely be happy with all the races intermixing until one day we become one race of people and everybody can get over themselves and learn to see humans before anything else.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I don't think it's wrong or evil, but it's not for me. I only think poorly of black people who date out when they are the self hating coon types.

[healthycharleene]

Its not wrong, its human. We are not colored people we are PEOPLE.

If you like someone you're not in love with this person's color. You like this persona. :)

I'm latina and If I fall in love with a man, I don't care of his ethnicity I care about his character and life philosophy.

[WalterRadio]

You may find this interesting:

en.wikipedia.org/.../Interracial_marriage_in_the_United_States

[deraz24]

I don't discriminate and support whoever, you can't help who you have feelings for.

[Maik567]

If you just happen to fall in love with someone from another race that's cool I guess, but if you have like a racial fetish or something then you have some issues in my opinion.

[Starrk]

I see nothing wrong with it.

Love will always prevail. If two people love each other and they both are consenting then I see no reason why they shouldn't be together.

[jcoldstream]

This is an American thing. American television never shows a mixed race couple. Here, mixed race dating and marriage is nothing unusual.

[babeeeone]

I don't think interracial dating is wrong, bad, or evil. I don't look down on people who date other races besides their own, and that's really not my issue either. People can date whoever they want, there's no problem with that.

[front2back]

It's not bad, but do realize that a lot of people tend to only want to keep to their own race. I've noticed it most strongly with blacks and arabs, and the most open about interracial dating seem to be latins.

[falafelany1]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I would rather date within my race but I have 0 problems with people who choose to do that.

[silencemylove]

if perfectly find. love is love. Can't but a race or gender on who the heart wants. don't think to much about it.

[BoySittingOnTheMoon]

No, I don't have a problem with interracial dating. But as for me I'm more comfortable dating my own ethnic which is Turkish or closer.

[JoyGirl]

I see nothing wrong with it. In fact my first boyfriend, or rather was going to be, was white. I am to young to date, so I am just chillin. 😎

[RegularTK421]

Nothing wrong with it at all. I don't think poorly of someone just for dating or marrying someone they love.

[FakeName123]

I don't see a problem iwth it as long as its not done out of some fetishisation or because "its the progressively right thing to do"-mindset.

[SteelerNation50]

It has zero effect on me and doesn't hurt anyone so do what you want.