Why are so many straight girls biphobic, most wouldn't date a bisexual guy because they're usually disgusted by it, while most guys would date a bi?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Welcome to dating straight women, man! For the most part they are ridiculously picky! Not only about sexuality, but height, looks, money, job, social status, what you say. I mean you slip up and miss speak once and they often just leave and never look back.

Guys are less picky, I mean yea some of them will get an idea about a threeway, but even if that is out of the question most guys will still date a bi girl if they are into her.

Basically most Straight Girls are often picky af, and have ridiculous standards.

[AleDeEurope]

It's less ok for a man to be into men too, unlike women being into girls.
Being gay is "worse" than being lesbian.
Not that I think that way, it's just what it is.

[ninetynine]

Hah, guys just like the fantasy of bringing another girl in the bedroom for a threesome.

It isn't biphobic to not want to date someone who's bi; it's merely a dating preference. I think a major reason why girls would shy away from dating a bi guy is because they're scared he might actually be gay and end up leaving for another guy.

[Asker]

But it's mostly straight girls, bisexual girls most of the time would

[BlueCoyote]

I think I have to disagree with that. At least from what I've read on GaG, there exist quite a lot of girls with rather extreme opinions on this topic. I've seen girls write such like "if he ever made out with an other guy, he's a disgusting loser and I would never even consider having him as a boyfriend". That sounds clearly bi-phobic to me. The fear that a guy might end up gay sounds like a bad excuse to my ears. If a guy is truly gay, you will feel it early on and he won't ever become your boyfriend.

[ninetynine]

@BlueCoyote What I meant was that preferring to date another straight person isn't biphobic in and of itself, as long as there is no hatred/bigotry involved. The "major reason" I mentioned isn't biphobic, in my opinion.

You may have a point. I live in a pretty liberal area so I could be off with the "major reason" thing; it was just the reason that made the most sense to me. But as I think about it more... Lesbians are over-sexualized and fetishized in society, while gay guys face different issues. Sex/intimacy between two guys is viewed as more taboo, and there are homophobic people who find it gross and emasculating. Similarly, bi guys may be seen as emasculated.

[BlueCoyote]

Yes, I would agree with that. I think as a guy, you still have to watch out who you tell about your sexual orientation if you're not straight. Having had sex with another guy (or simply being turned on by other guys) can easily give you the stigma of being overtly feminine, not being a "real man" etc.. For gay guys that's easier because they stay among themselves anyway and other gay guys are usually not homophobic. But for bisexual guys, I think it can be pretty tough because bi-phobic girls are among the people they are sexually and romantically interested in.

Like you correctly said, I think it's over all easier for women. Of course there's also the stigma of being an overtly manly lesbian but I think there it has more to do with looks than with your actual sexual orientation. As long as lesbians or bisexual girls don't walk around like tomboys, they're usually fetishized, not discriminated...

[ninetynine]

@BlueCoyote I agree that bi girls are more accepted than bi guys when it comes to dating, and I do sympathize with your first paragraph.

However, there are non-biphobic reasons why a girl wouldn't want to date a bi guy. I like MassieMolina's response (particularly her last three bullet points) and COCOCHANEL's response, because they raise very real concerns.

[BlueCoyote]

Personally, I very much dislike her bullet points even as a straight guy. I find them rather offensive because they're in fact nothing else than a tasteless rehash of age-old stereotypes. For example the big scare tactics about the gay guys and there numerous diseases... this is a stigma that was already floating around in the 1970s. The same goes for the cheating point. While statistics show that overall, gay men have more sexual partners over their lifetime than straight men, there is absolutely no scientific proof that gay men cheat more often. This is a lie that conservatives have simply pulled out of their ass and repeated it so many times that everyone believes it now. No quantitative evidence exists for this claim.
Also, that thing about transitioning... that's what people say to teenagers. Oh you're not gay/bi, you're just in a weird transition stage. People seem to find it hard to take certain sexual orientations serious and accept them for what they are.
And finally (cont.)

[BlueCoyote]

that first bullet point... I don't even know what to say. That's just homophobia of the worst kind. That's what intolerant assholes say when they run out of decent arguments "oh but it's dirty, you've got eternal poop on your dick because you've had anal sex with some guy 2 months ago!" So discriminatory and childish.

[Izumiblu]

A woman not liking two guys having sex doesn't make her biphobic. It makes her not want to be in a relationship with a guy that pops his dong where another guy shits. Im sure there are girls out there that will appreciate this... but... that is just not something that is interesting to a lot of people.

[JohnDoe3000]

But he would have done that before meeting you. So, logically speaking, what would be the real problem if you're not disgusted by bisexuality itself? How would it be different from him having slept with other women before you?

[Izumiblu]

@JohnDoe3000 Thats him, that is who he is. I dont find that attractive or interesting or even neutral. Not that i like him sleeping with other women, but he's not doing something i find repugnant. What people do on their own and privately is their business. I can be friends, or work with people, bi gay, trans, i just dont care what they do at home because thats at home. That doesn't mean i need or want to be in an intimate relationship with them. I can also go and cite facts through peer reviewed journals that talk about the propensity toward higher risk life styles and correlation to mental illnesses that are higher among bi, gay and others, thats just further justification. As a person, im all for anyone's right to do what they wnat in the bedroom, but that doesn't mean that i am all for doing anything myself or being with someone that has expectations different from me.

[JohnDoe3000]

Okay, I was just curious (without the "bi-"). Would you think it makes him less masculine?

[Izumiblu]

@JohnDoe3000 I dont know. Somehow it seems like it's not relevant. I guess i dont really think about it. So... id have to say... no. I mean, i dont look at guys that i work with for instance and think if they are more or less masculine. So, if i knew a guy is gay or bi im not sitting there thinking if they seems masculine to me. I have a cousin that is a straight guy and his behavior is overtly feminine, he looks kind feminine, he acts kinda feminine... its right in your face and you can't help but think of him as being a bit feminine... so to me its more of a behavior thing i guess.

[COCOCHANEL]

have you read up about the spread of hiv and how many guys don't wear protection when they fuck each other? read the studies. watch the documentaries.

[MassieMolina]

1. Your putting your dick where another guy shits
2. Higher chances of having STD's or HIV
3. Many supposedly bi guys are really just transitioning to gay (not all but many)
4. More likely to cheat

[Asker]

#1 You put your mouth where another guy pisses. There's a chance a bunch of guys came in your mouth. You had a bunch of penises in your mouth. Straight guys who are homophobic would still make out with you.

#2 Prove it from a credible source

#3 That's the equivalent to people saying "you're not gay your confused" you can find the same sex attractive as well as both. Also where's your evidence for this statement?

#4 How'd you come to this conclusion? I'd like to see proof.

[MassieMolina]

1. Who says I suck dick? Also pee is not the same equivalent as feces. People can actually drink pee, if a person were to eat shit they'd die or get sick
2. Gay and bisexual men have higher cases of STD because they're not using condoms with male partners
3. Not my fault if its true
4. In my experience

[deraz24]

Bc it's diff with a bi dude he has a dick to put into a butt while girls don't

[Asker]

What if he just takes it in the butt?

[deraz24]

Same diff

[RemarkableT23]

isn't the same thing as licking snatch, hello stds?

[deraz24]

@RemarkableT23 helllooo am I dating a girl? No. Whatever someone else does is they business I personally just can't date a bi guy

[RemarkableT23]

Sorry, oral herpes; I had to specify what I’ve said. My point is, I wouldn’t date a bi girl either because of oral herpes and more likely to cheat on me with another girl.

[RemarkableT23]

I prefer straight girls and ONLY straight girls. I’ve rejected bi girls in my life because of their sexuality and it wasn’t pleasant; but, hey the world isn’t all pretty as they think it is.

[RemarkableT23]

I like straight girls, not bi girls.

[deraz24]

@RemarkableT23 so what are you coming at me for i like straight guys lol comment wasn't necessary

[RemarkableT23]

I like straight girls and only straight girls, not bi girls.

[deraz24]

@RemarkableT23 again what did that have to do with me lol and this question old as hell for you to comment on another persons comment

[RemarkableT23]

Well are you straight?

[deraz24]

@RemarkableT23 yea, I'm still confused on what you're getting at lol good day

[RedThread]

I think it's due to people wrongly thinking that bisexual people are far more likely to cheat. Loyalty to partners and human beings in general isn't determined by our sexual orientations.

[singlebee]

Most guys will date bi? Duck no I wouldn't date a bi girl... Except if it was @archiz :-P

[archiz]

Hehe 😛🙈

[singlebee]

@archiz hahaha :-P

[JustinTheGreat]

Its not they are disgusted by it, most of them feel being bi means you're more likely to cheat

[neoagent1]

Since when would most guys date a bi guy? You mean girl? Yeah of course we would they are very open minded.

[jacquesvol]

Girls fear being cheated on, guys hope for a three-some

[Blitzkrieger]

they are so insecure because now they have to compete with guys too. lol women.

[Anonymous]

Because bi girls are hot and bi guys are gross.

[Anonymous]

i don't care others