Why does society judge men when they cry?

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They are humans too...

Ellie-V · Accepted Answer

Men did that to themselves. They wanted to be the strong, supportive breadwinner with no emotions. Women rolled with the punch and joined the bandwagon. And now, men are paying the price... this is what happens when you allow stereotypes and ego control the world. Can't generalize yourself and the world and then wonder why you're being put in a box. Bitch, it's because you created the box! If you walk inside, you can't blame anyone else just because you didn't know what you stepped into. It's your box now, you own that shit.
(And this applies to every other group/gender/race of people who started their own stereotypes.)
Society looks down on what's different. So if you're breaking your own patterns, you have no one else to blame but yourself.

MsMilk · Accepted Answer

Most men tend to judge each other tbh. I think there's this nonexistent mask that people call masculinity, that everyone forces on each other.

Many men have convinced themselves that they need to be stone cold to be manly. It's gratification, it makes them feel good.

So when a man cries everyone questions why, because we've all been convinced that men are supposed to be strong, not individuals.

This is the same case with women who are unemotional.

Society grooms everyone into being a part, not a person.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I don't judge men who cry because I like sensitive guys but I judge men who worry too much because they don't trust in or rely on God. This sounds weird but one of my pet peeves is people who don't trust in God - people who are always anxious and insecure and fearful and scared. Its irritating.

DianaWest · Accepted Answer

What, I find it sexy af when they shed man tears. I purposely like chopping onions near guys just to see them shed a tear. I know, I am a cruel human being.

UnstableCraft · Accepted Answer

So overall I think this goes to the typical women love Bad Boys stigma that happens where guys who act genuinely emotionally uninterested they're not invested in emotional stimulus they don't really show emotion too much they you don't have this I don't care attitude that women find attractive more so than ever now a days no girl tends to look for that emotional guy who's not the bad boy type because of that guys tend to overanalyze and say okay so if we don't you know act emotional over on that side will become more attractive for guys girls picked up on this and now they tree guys who cry too emotional or overly emotional but then whenever they get into a relationship with a guy who shows no emotion that's a problem for them it's a catch-22

DP0122 · Accepted Answer

That’s just what we have to do. I cried when I was drunk about being alone, and the next day all the girls made fun of me for being lonely, that’s just how it works.

Nik1hil · Answer

because men are expendable, for running a society even 1 men , is enough for running a society with 1000 women..
A human society with 1:1000 , men to women ratio can work but.
1 women in 1000 men cannot work..
that makes women precious..
we men are brought up to suck it up, NO TEARS..
i learned that too..
so when tear comes instead of falling out of eyes i kind of learned to let them seep inside..
i can taste them in my throat when i cry...
a little salty.. sometime i wish they tasted like lemonade..
but then blood tastes like lemonade without sugar..

then again i cry like 1 time in every 2 months.. unless its a really good movie or some other stuff

Pineapple_Boy · Answer

That's not necessarily true. If a guy cries because he lost a loved one or his kid accomplished something great etc.. no one is going to judge him. But if a dude is crying because Jim got voted of the Bachelorette. People are going to judge him including me.

Claire136 · Answer

Ugh, I actually hate people who make fun of men who cry. I actually had an argument with my mom over this when she thought it was silly that my father was crying over the DEATH OF HIS MOTHER. Like WTF, him crying means he has a heart and cares a lot for the person and is obviously grieving and hurt. The least you could do as his goddamn wife is console him.

IlyaTheImpaler · Answer

How cute :)) I had a friend like you. She always stood up for bullied boys who are considered weak.

You know I tried to cry when I said good bye to my friends, the last time I talked to my teacher, or when I broke up with my gf/childhood friend... but the tears won't come out.
Then I shed a few tears reading wikipedia article on Galois 😂

Luuke · Answer

I have been told by my parents, Grandparents, wider family and teachers from when I was extremely young (3 or 4) to not cry because I'm a boy and "Its not strong". This has made it almost impossible for me to display my emotions and things that are bothering me to other people. Currently only my girlfriend hears about that stuff. She reached out to me first which makes it much easier. She can tell instantly when something isn't right and when previously I couldn't talk about anything it has been the best thing in the world to be able to cry and be emotional and be supported by her. Men always want to talk about that stuff but feel like they are going to be judged or looked down on when that isn't the case. I think that partners and SOs, especially girls, should show that it's okay to cry and have emotions and they need to reach out first knowing how difficult it is for some guys.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't? Not sure why society as a whole would. I mean I think it's safe to say that a lot of women appreciate a man being vulnerable and trusting you enough with his heart... If my man cries, I'm crying with him though. Can't stand to see a man cry.. it breaks my heart.

hanbaux · Answer

It’s honestly depends on how you are raised. I had a friend and someone told him at a young age he was never allowed to cry. I’ve also seen much older people crying in public who happened to be men too. They are only judged by those with that opinion

Anonymous · Answer

Cuz were supposed to be unfeeling unnerved hardnuts we can't show emotion do anything that isn't "manly" and most of all we can't cry society perpetuates this notion that men have to have no fear and be strong but that's really not the case when men still have emotional needs like ffs we need a national hug a guy day then maybe males wouldn't be twice as likely to commit suicide

Andre__ · Answer

Men are expected to be the strong, independent rock in society that shows no weakness. Bit you're right. We are human too and actually have feelings and also cry sometimes. Although we don't like to show or admit it ourselves though.

Anonymous · Answer

It's unattractive when they cry and it all hinges on that. Women don't like it, which means men won't indulge in it because they generally only want to do it in front of a trusted partner, which is hard to come by and also a reason to cry -- a particularly unattractive one. So that's a slippery slope of a spiral.

Men care about women and women care about themselves, generally speaking.

Haystacks1990 · Answer

Men are taught to hide sadnees. We bottle it up and it turns to anger. Anger and testosterone are dangerous. If a grown man crys infornt of you he feels safe in your presents. Quite a stupid outdated judgement in my opinion

mikelewisar · Answer

I didn't understand it for now, too. I think cause the society is stupid. Cause of the society wie are thought to don't cry. Who crys isn't strong...

But I think the society is not that good, in my opinion it's bad and outdated, not only in this case

Anonymous · Answer

Crying is a sign of weakness to some people and men are expected to be alphas with a hard shell. They're expected to protect and keep that hard shell up. I always remember my dad to tell my little brother to "man up" because he cried a lot. That pissed me off because my brother is the sweetest person ever and it just made him cry even more. For me, it's okay for a man to cry. It's nice to know a man has feelings

Cgiver77 · Answer

Nothing wrong with a man crying. If you are however like the current Prime Minister of Canada who cries all the time, like a pansy. Well, he just looks very weak and not much of a leader. Not sure how Canadians voted for that guy. I travel a lot and many countries make fun of him. So, cry when it hurts but also suck it up butter cup and act like a leader.

wadeabeee · Answer

Well society judges women that cry too. We call them bipolar, shut up and take it like a woman getting raped. And then 40 years later report it and finally get justice that reaffirms how everyone in society sees rape a despicable, but it still happens.

jeremythedrummer · Answer

It really is down to the society you come from. I am Asian which means here people expect the man to be strong, especially in chinese culture, where people say "男人流血不流泪“， which translates to "men may bleed but men never cry". Even on an emotional person like me itd had a detrimental effect such that its hard for me to even cry. Im still open with my emotions though.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we are taught that boys or men should not cry. People before mark it in our heads that boys who cries are not boys.

Which is not right to say because they are still humans. They feel pain and different feelings. Just like girls or women. We are all the same. So why judge them, right?

Si1ky · Answer

Because men arnt raised to cry, its a stereotype that keeps being recycled though Multipal generations Becuase a lot of men believe it, mostly due to father figures or other friends and loved ones saying that crying isn't "manely"

endofcain · Answer

I don't know about most men, but I was raised not to cry. The point was to be strong for her so she can cry whenever she needs to. A man is to be the rock she can hold onto through any and all things. Crying in front of her means you failed. Just as I was told and see it.

MagnumJenkins · Answer

The world is glad i learned how to cry. Before i turned pain and sadness into anger. The absence of tears led to fucking horrible things. You know what, you cry, and let some asshole walk up to you and say that to your face. Then knock his ass out. Tears aren't weak. It takes a big man to stand and fight

Anonymous · Answer

This might sound wrong. But my heart melts when I see a man cry. I feel so happy that they allow themself to cry. But I also feel sorry for them so I start crying too. I'm an emotional mess

Aeleen · Answer

I think society teaching men not to cry is the main reason some of them become so emotionally unattached and cold. They can cry obviously because sometimes you just gotta

Nuespeed · Answer

It is because we are supposed to be these tough guardian angels in peoples eyes and many perceive it as us being weak when we cry

DianaCrimson · Answer

None judges man when they cry. Its more than normal. I think only man have a problem with showing their own feeling as they think someone will judge.

Soteris · Answer

Because the conservative view of the world is one of stereotypes and according to them men should not cry. All there is to it really.

Buckzor · Answer

Because men are supposed to be strong & protective, not emotional & weak.  That's what society thinks, and what some men themselves think.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Society would judge anything... Society is the furtherest from a good judge of anything... If society usually says something is the norm or ok, usually go in the opposite direction.. because it's usually wrong.

Celtero · Answer

Men crying is the same as them showing weakness. Men are largely society's tools, and a man in trouble isn't very useful to anybody else.

pete2018 · Answer

So we hide our tears to portray that we're strong. In reality the man who doesn't worry about his strength being questioned is stronger. In my opinion.. so many of us look for justification that we're "manly"

thesextking2 · Answer

Cause we have created a myth that guy can only stay strong

Anonymous · Answer

Probably cause of the macho culture around is. When younger kids will say that boys don't cry and if you do, there's a chance that you'll get bullied. this ridiculous argument often gets tossed when people get older though, but by that time, that opinion is ingrained in your head...

lilaqua · Answer

This idea that men cannot be weak. Since my dad was a massive crier it's never really phased me.

ivanzhng · Answer

I have friends who also judge me for crying then I told them "if we can't cry then we are not humans but monsters" then they shut up

OmgItsJoe123 · Answer

A man who would resist crying over his loss just to appear strong is weaker than a man crying over it.

LoneWolf67 · Answer

Todays world see's men as robots basically (when it comes to emotion's) "they are supposed to be the big bad tough guys with no feelings. Unfortunately they are wrong.

JohnnyBravox · Answer

Because as a man you should be the strong one, who else will be if you are not?

Ngw1031982 · Answer

In general, crying is a sign of weakness. Males are supposed to be strong with little to no weaknesses. I think it's ridiculous to have that point of view.

Anonymous · Answer

Some women are judged when they cry. My sister who is the youngest the family judge her when she cries. people judge her when she cries she was expected to be tough all the time. i guess it can go both ways.

Edanurus · Answer

It less the people who judge and the fact that those who don't judge have no idea how to deal with a crying man. Which makes the whole thing pointless and embarrassing.

Anonymous · Answer

Because only men can be judged by society; no women should ever be judged by society for anything she says or does. Didn't you get the feminist memo?

DaddyRollingStone · Answer

The only people I see who judge men for being genuinely upset are adult women and weak male feminists.

Telling someone to stop crying over spilt milk is one thing, actually shaming men for their feelings is another.

Anonymous · Answer

Because in many places crying is seen as a sign of weakness and not being in control of your life. Also men were historically expected to be the defenders and protectors of the family, and many think that crying is a sign you are not tough and resilient enough. Many women even these days would reject a man who cries (as they themselves admitted on GaG).

Anonymous · Answer

I'll never follow society stance on this - sometimes in life crying is needed and if I had a man who needed to cry I'll just be there with open arms or an ear to listen.

dragonxbars · Answer

Because society is dumb. Crying is not always a sign a weakness. Sometimes it can be a sign of enormous strength.

Titan123 · Answer

Because men are suppose to be strong and brave. And not show emotion according to society

Meta_4 · Answer

It just does... due to outdated expectations and limitations based on sex.

MindTime · Answer

Some people think showing emotion isn't masculine or something similar. I don't understand it.

NineBreaker · Answer

Because a lot if cultures consider stoicism to be a virtue, especially for ken of traditionally or at least historically patriarchal societies.

Filip97 · Answer

Maybe they see it as a sign of weakness. Many men do have problems with expressing emotions.. Maybe because they are scared and feel like others see u as week.

Pamina · Answer

Because society has always been a judgmental bitch.

jessture · Answer

Because men aren't allowed to have feelings, but we are supposed to bend over backwards any time a woman is upset.

Halosis · Answer

I honestly wish i knew, i feel like crying sometimes but I've been so heavily programmed not to that i physically won't allow myself to

pinayfit · Answer

Nope they aren’t being judge , it’s their mentality that hunting them down and judging them. Crying is normal. It’s only wrong if you think it is

Ripthislife · Answer

I don't judge them, it's not unusual to have feelings

ZacNashDaFlash · Answer

Because men are supposed a source of stability for others. Particularly their wives and children

rain_maker112 · Answer

What do you think? Your opinions must be rejected, so you seeked to us.

sillygirlyjfc · Answer

I honestly don't understand myself. Men too should cry once in a while. It's unhealthy for you and your relations to keep everything to yourself.

tartaarsaus · Answer

Because people tend to judge so called transgressions if masculinity very harshly, which results in then society not being very fond of men crying

qdog212 · Answer

Because society has made men to be strong reliable and emotionally solid

name_is_eric · Answer

Men have to look representable and strong, even emotionally.  You cannot let your feelings get control over you.  It's a bad look to show weakness.

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