Men did that to themselves. They wanted to be the strong, supportive breadwinner with no emotions. Women rolled with the punch and joined the bandwagon. And now, men are paying the price... this is what happens when you allow stereotypes and ego control the world. Can't generalize yourself and the world and then wonder why you're being put in a box. Bitch, it's because you created the box! If you walk inside, you can't blame anyone else just because you didn't know what you stepped into. It's your box now, you own that shit. (And this applies to every other group/gender/race of people who started their own stereotypes.) Society looks down on what's different. So if you're breaking your own patterns, you have no one else to blame but yourself.
Men wanted and women followed? Or is it actually the other way around? Each day we see confident men have their way, and most women actually openly recognize they prefer them. Its been like that sine know history and probably even before.
I attracted romantically some women by appearing confident, and made friendship by opening myself, but i never ever had any success by sharing insecurities. Its like that. Whether it is evolutionary psychology or social factor, its the game. It may not be pleasant for us or four you, but its the way YOU are that make it.
@Balacan I don't understand where the "confidence" part of the convo came from, so if you could explain, I would like that because i genuinely do not understand what that had to do with anything i just said. All i'm saying is that I believe men planted their own seed and the women helped it grow.
@Balacan That's the "macho man" image that got all of you guys hemmed up. There's nothing wrong with confidence, but when guys ONLY show one side of themselves, that's all everyone else will know. And everyone will stick to that one idea if you allow to go on for too long.
I also show my ignorance and insecurities with some close friend male or female, and it actually help to relate. But to attract someone romantically... thats an instant crash. Never saw a woman attracted to a man that showed weakness.
@Balacan I mean, it's not okay to be a crying bitch, woman or man. So, that's unattractive. But i don't see the problem in sharing those insecurities with women. It's not "dating" material until you've actually cuffed the girl. Made her your girlfriend or whatever. Because the dark side of human beings can get really heavy, and "dating" is just too light and too delicate to handle such things.
@Balacan Having feelings isn't a weakness. It's just not wise to show them when your "dating" unless you're in a serious relationship. So no, what you just said, i do not agree with.
I don't judge men who cry because I like sensitive guys but I judge men who worry too much because they don't trust in or rely on God. This sounds weird but one of my pet peeves is people who don't trust in God - people who are always anxious and insecure and fearful and scared. Its irritating.
What, I find it sexy af when they shed man tears. I purposely like chopping onions near guys just to see them shed a tear. I know, I am a cruel human being.
So overall I think this goes to the typical women love Bad Boys stigma that happens where guys who act genuinely emotionally uninterested they're not invested in emotional stimulus they don't really show emotion too much they you don't have this I don't care attitude that women find attractive more so than ever now a days no girl tends to look for that emotional guy who's not the bad boy type because of that guys tend to overanalyze and say okay so if we don't you know act emotional over on that side will become more attractive for guys girls picked up on this and now they tree guys who cry too emotional or overly emotional but then whenever they get into a relationship with a guy who shows no emotion that's a problem for them it's a catch-22
That’s just what we have to do. I cried when I was drunk about being alone, and the next day all the girls made fun of me for being lonely, that’s just how it works.
because men are expendable, for running a society even 1 men , is enough for running a society with 1000 women.. A human society with 1:1000 , men to women ratio can work but. 1 women in 1000 men cannot work.. that makes women precious.. we men are brought up to suck it up, NO TEARS.. i learned that too.. so when tear comes instead of falling out of eyes i kind of learned to let them seep inside.. i can taste them in my throat when i cry... a little salty.. sometime i wish they tasted like lemonade.. but then blood tastes like lemonade without sugar..
then again i cry like 1 time in every 2 months.. unless its a really good movie or some other stuff
That's not necessarily true. If a guy cries because he lost a loved one or his kid accomplished something great etc.. no one is going to judge him. But if a dude is crying because Jim got voted of the Bachelorette. People are going to judge him including me.
Ugh, I actually hate people who make fun of men who cry. I actually had an argument with my mom over this when she thought it was silly that my father was crying over the DEATH OF HIS MOTHER. Like WTF, him crying means he has a heart and cares a lot for the person and is obviously grieving and hurt. The least you could do as his goddamn wife is console him.
How cute :)) I had a friend like you. She always stood up for bullied boys who are considered weak.
You know I tried to cry when I said good bye to my friends, the last time I talked to my teacher, or when I broke up with my gf/childhood friend... but the tears won't come out. Then I shed a few tears reading wikipedia article on Galois 😂
I have been told by my parents, Grandparents, wider family and teachers from when I was extremely young (3 or 4) to not cry because I'm a boy and "Its not strong". This has made it almost impossible for me to display my emotions and things that are bothering me to other people. Currently only my girlfriend hears about that stuff. She reached out to me first which makes it much easier. She can tell instantly when something isn't right and when previously I couldn't talk about anything it has been the best thing in the world to be able to cry and be emotional and be supported by her. Men always want to talk about that stuff but feel like they are going to be judged or looked down on when that isn't the case. I think that partners and SOs, especially girls, should show that it's okay to cry and have emotions and they need to reach out first knowing how difficult it is for some guys.
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I don't? Not sure why society as a whole would. I mean I think it's safe to say that a lot of women appreciate a man being vulnerable and trusting you enough with his heart... If my man cries, I'm crying with him though. Can't stand to see a man cry.. it breaks my heart.
It’s honestly depends on how you are raised. I had a friend and someone told him at a young age he was never allowed to cry. I’ve also seen much older people crying in public who happened to be men too. They are only judged by those with that opinion
Men are expected to be the strong, independent rock in society that shows no weakness. Bit you're right. We are human too and actually have feelings and also cry sometimes. Although we don't like to show or admit it ourselves though.
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Cuz were supposed to be unfeeling unnerved hardnuts we can't show emotion do anything that isn't "manly" and most of all we can't cry society perpetuates this notion that men have to have no fear and be strong but that's really not the case when men still have emotional needs like ffs we need a national hug a guy day then maybe males wouldn't be twice as likely to commit suicide
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It's unattractive when they cry and it all hinges on that. Women don't like it, which means men won't indulge in it because they generally only want to do it in front of a trusted partner, which is hard to come by and also a reason to cry -- a particularly unattractive one. So that's a slippery slope of a spiral.
Men care about women and women care about themselves, generally speaking.
Men are taught to hide sadnees. We bottle it up and it turns to anger. Anger and testosterone are dangerous. If a grown man crys infornt of you he feels safe in your presents. Quite a stupid outdated judgement in my opinion
I didn't understand it for now, too. I think cause the society is stupid. Cause of the society wie are thought to don't cry. Who crys isn't strong...
But I think the society is not that good, in my opinion it's bad and outdated, not only in this case
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Crying is a sign of weakness to some people and men are expected to be alphas with a hard shell. They're expected to protect and keep that hard shell up. I always remember my dad to tell my little brother to "man up" because he cried a lot. That pissed me off because my brother is the sweetest person ever and it just made him cry even more. For me, it's okay for a man to cry. It's nice to know a man has feelings
Nothing wrong with a man crying. If you are however like the current Prime Minister of Canada who cries all the time, like a pansy. Well, he just looks very weak and not much of a leader. Not sure how Canadians voted for that guy. I travel a lot and many countries make fun of him. So, cry when it hurts but also suck it up butter cup and act like a leader.
Well society judges women that cry too. We call them bipolar, shut up and take it like a woman getting raped. And then 40 years later report it and finally get justice that reaffirms how everyone in society sees rape a despicable, but it still happens.
It really is down to the society you come from. I am Asian which means here people expect the man to be strong, especially in chinese culture, where people say "男人流血不流泪“， which translates to "men may bleed but men never cry". Even on an emotional person like me itd had a detrimental effect such that its hard for me to even cry. Im still open with my emotions though.
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Because we are taught that boys or men should not cry. People before mark it in our heads that boys who cries are not boys.
Which is not right to say because they are still humans. They feel pain and different feelings. Just like girls or women. We are all the same. So why judge them, right?
Because men arnt raised to cry, its a stereotype that keeps being recycled though Multipal generations Becuase a lot of men believe it, mostly due to father figures or other friends and loved ones saying that crying isn't "manely"
I don't know about most men, but I was raised not to cry. The point was to be strong for her so she can cry whenever she needs to. A man is to be the rock she can hold onto through any and all things. Crying in front of her means you failed. Just as I was told and see it.
The world is glad i learned how to cry. Before i turned pain and sadness into anger. The absence of tears led to fucking horrible things. You know what, you cry, and let some asshole walk up to you and say that to your face. Then knock his ass out. Tears aren't weak. It takes a big man to stand and fight
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