Could just asking out a coworker on a date get you fired or even seen as sexual harassment?

[blondfrog]

I am not talking about being persistent and annoying when asking her. I mean as in just asking her out once and that's it. I am aware not all girls give off the same signs and even subtle signs when she likes a guy. I know that basically unless your lucky the only real way to find out if she likes you back is if you just ask her. I don't really know how to ask her if she has a boyfriend or not either. I don't think she does but some girls are just good at hiding that information lol.

Yes you would get fired if she doesn't feel the same way.

Probably or probably not, but I wouldn't take the risk

I see no harm in asking her

Dating co-workers is just plain wrong.

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[WalterRadio]

It doesn't matter what your intentions are or how a reasonable person may see it. It only matters what the woman wants to do about it.

If she wants to get you fired, all she has to do is file a complaint. The company then has to make a business decision as to whether it is cheaper to fire you or to hire lawyers to fight her. Even if they win, it will cost them money and then they have to put up with her being around.

Keep in mind, what you actually did and what you actually meant are irrelevant. If she accuses you of harassment, you are guilty.

The best thing to do is let her ask you out, then immediately inform your boss in writing to document it. Some companies require notification if co-workers have a romantic relationship in order to defend themselves against suits.

[stevenjohnson]

Yes and the boss will be forced out of his job unless he sides with the women. Look up about John Bercow, he has just had the same done to him, he is the Speaker of the UK parliament.

[blondfrog]

Yeah you have a very good point. I don't think she seems like the type who would report me, but you never know. She seems really nice at least every time I have spoken with her. She'd even offered me to sit next to her during break, but that doesn't mean she likes me in that way I am very well aware of that.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

My company actually has a guide on how to ask out a coworker. If you do those things, neither one can claim it was sexual harassment.

It's pretty short. It's basically:
1. Ask them
2. If they say yes and they work in the same department, report it to your manager
3. If they say no, drop it and don't let it affect your business relationship in the future

[blondfrog]

That seems nice. I wish all companies were like that.

[Anonymous]

If she claims it was sexual harassment, then you lose.
We've recently just seen that you are now guilty until proven innocent.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

Hasn't it ALWAYS been that way?
When they put you in handcuffs, you're guilty. You don't go to court to proove your innocence, you go to disprove your guilt.

They don't arrest innocent people. The moment they put those handcuffs on you, you're guilty unless prooven innocent.

[Opinion Owner]

@ZeussLightningBolt
Yes, but now it's worse than ever. After the Kavanaugh fiasco, you can come out of the woodwork and accuse someone of something they allegedly did 35 years ago, and most people side with the "victim."

[ZeussLightningBolt]

I agree. This country has gone completely mad.
If I would was the judge I would tell her, "Fuck you bitch! Where were you 35 years ago? Get the fuck out of my courtroom!"

[Opinion Owner]

@ZeussLightningBolt
So would I. That whole thing was total crap. I can't tell you how many people I heard say:
"I believe Ford, so Kavanaugh is guilty." What?

[-sunflowersss-]

That would be really dumb if you got fired for just asking a question. I'd fight them lmao.

[blondfrog]

To be honest the only real thing holding me back is her possibly saying no. It's different when you get rejected by your crush lol. It's like a super confidence killer.

[-sunflowersss-]

Just go for it. If she says no then at least you can move on.

[blondfrog]

Yeah, but if she reports me I could get in big trouble lol.

[-sunflowersss-]

No if she reports you she's a huge bitch, it's not sexual harassment or anything.

[-sunflowersss-]

I've had coworkers ask me out at work, you say yes or no thank you and keep it pushing. I don't understand how that's harassment, it's a question, you can answer it with free will. Ur not a boogie monster, you're literally just asking her something.

[blondfrog]

Here in the U. S. there have been cases like this though where the guy just asks and it gets out of hand with him losing his job and put behind bars. You might be right she might just say no and then nothing else happens. Would if she does say no, but tells everyone at work? It would be embarrassing for me.

[-sunflowersss-]

The opposite happened to me. This guy asked me out at work I said no thank you. I swear to God I did NOT tell a single soul at work about it. I said no thank you and didn't ever talk about it or mention it. But he went around talking about it and telling people that my parents are brown so they probably don't approve of me going out or having a life blah blah and that's why I prob said no. So yeah I get what you mean.

[blondfrog]

Wow he was a coward for spreading a rumour like that about you. Thank you though. The thing is I am not attractive anyways so it doesn't matter. Unless a guy is like at least a 7/10 he basically has no chance with a girl. She is attractive too. There are so many ways it could go wrong for me, but every few ways it goes the right way. I am just not even sure if it's worth the risk. How would I ask her anyways? I've been working there for like 2 months now. Do I just say would you go out on a date with me? When it's just me and her alone like say if were were both on our break?

[Trolloween]

Depends on the girl, if she's an attention seeker then yes she could probably kick up a fuss and you would be dismissed for sexual harassment. But in the real non-sjw world where people have a rational mind then there's no harm. You can probably tell quickly who is a snowflake and avoid them but personally I never even tell a girl I like her new haircut at work unless I know them pretty well

[Anonymous]

Not if she's a normal human. So it's up to you to do your own due diligence. If she cries sexual harassment, then you're fired or written up and threatened and whatever. But when you fight it, you'll embarrass her to death in arbitration when you reveal that you simply asked her on a date and that no harassment was involved. Basically, you have to know her personality before you take the risk of asking her out.

[blondfrog]

Aren't some girls good at hiding their personality? She seems really nice too. I love the way she talks but you never know.

[11dog22]

Personally if she works in a different department. Nothing wrong in asking. But I wouldn’t advice dating co-worker. If things get bad. You have to see then at works.

Worst case if you too dating. And either one cheated. Then you two break up. Going to work is going to be really bad. Lies. Rumors. Gossip.

Never good idea.

[blondfrog]

No we work in same department.

[Anonymous]

As a dude yes! Women are free do do whatever they want without risking sexual harassment suits against them while in a professional setting I would not even talk to a woman without someone in the room with us so she can’t ruin my career just because she felt like it

[John_Bouff]

Who needs women if you can get a porcupine? I'd kiss him and love him and squeeze him and hug him and call him George

[stevenjohnson]

Well if you pass the feminazi threshold for ugly or you have symptoms of learning disability then yes.

[Davidkane]

It’s no harm whatsoever if both partners are consentual, I know of one case where 2 co workers started dating, got married and now have a family

[CT_CD]

Nowadays that's sexual harassment and yes you would get fired if she doesn't feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

It depends tbh. Normal girls wouldn't report you, but if she's a feminist or sjw , there is a high chance you'll get reported in 2018.

[stevenjohnson]

He won't just get reported, he will be lynched.

[SirRexington]

Nowadays, i wouldn't be surprised.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

In this crazy era, YES

[Anonymous]

No have idea