He has two different facebook accounts and I'm not a friend on one, help?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has two separate facebook accounts. I'm not a friend on the one he uses all the time, he won't add me. He's hidden his friends and all info to people who aren't friends. And this other one he had just to play games, but now he's added this slutty looking girl on it. I looked at her wall and he's put things and comments all over her pictures and so on. We have been together for two years, we split and he came back to me. He's been trying to make this work everywhere except the facebook thing. I don't want to make it a big deal, but he met me threw facebook and I know how easy it is to cheat online these days. He said I should trust him, that its OK to have facebook be just his and not have me on there, and sometimes he says that I say things he doesn't want people to see. Excuses after excuses. What should I do.

[Anonymous]

Thats totally unacceptable, there is no reason to have another Facebook unless he's hiding something. And hiding all his friends, relationship status etc. is very telling. He really doesn't seem to be respecting you or your feelings..is this really the guy you want?

Him saying you say stuff he doesn't want others to see is mean and disrespectful to you..like what would you be saying? Something that would show he is supposed to be with you and not others?

Facebook causes huge issues for couples and those who break up..at th end of the day, someone who wants you as a friend on FB will have you there because its important.

Texting others girls is disrespectful as well..the guy does not seem trustworthy at all. You seem to want more than that...You've asked us what to do, no-one can tell you what's best for you..you just have to decide whether this is a dealbreaker for you...

[Anonymous]

Facebook seems to cause more harm than good in my opinion. It just makes it so easy to be deceitful. I would tell him to add you as a friend on his other FB page. If he won't then he has something to hid and you shouldn't trust him. It's the not knowing that kills you.Your mind goes into overdrive and anything is possible.

[Jojo1127]

I just delt with the exact same thing. He told me deavtivated the second one but he did not do that and refuses to add me. He also has his friends list blocked. We are no longer a thing because he is dishonest there is NO reason to have more then one active facebook period.

[Trihill]

two facebook accts could mean two different lives...depending on what he uses them for could be a problem...people who have multiple relationships will have multiple means of communicating depending on their budget and cleverness

[Asker]

I understand, but I knew about both accounts and why he had them. I was a friend on one before we split back in September, but now he won't re add me as a friend. He spends all his time with me when he isn't working in camp. He calls and texts all the time. I just think this is fishy. He has cheated before on other girlfriends. And his excuses keep changing. This last trip back he spent more time in a town half way then he was going to and I saw texts on his phone to some girl that is questionable

[aliciaxx]

your answering your own question. most of the timea girls intuition is pretty on-spot. go with your gut on this one he seems like he could be up to something. and unless he went through a life changing experience a cheater will more then likely stay a cheater.

[thisGUYknows]

this is why MySpace and facebook are tools of the devil. they do more harm than good.

[ladsin]

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