Here’s a little thing that has helped me. My sister is a fitness model & yes for a long time I was jealous. It sounds bad when you put it out for the world to see but we all get these jealous ticks from time to time & some people won’t admit it but I applaud you for realizing that you want to fix something in your life. For me the best medicine was to get rid of social media off of my phone for a while and just focus on what made me happy in my life. I was always compared to my sister by my other sibling as well as my own mother ( sometimes even people who I thought were my friends ) . At the end of the day you have to do a “detox “ or a “cleanse “ from social media. Hide all of the apps on your phone or temp delete them. Go outside and literally just do the things that you enjoy & if you don’t know what you like then do a bunch of stuff until you find what you like. It’s not an overnight miracle to suddenly be jealous free , but if you focus on what makes you happy as an individual then nothing can stop you from living your best life. Learn to love yourself ( but not too much or you’ll end up like my mom ) but really just learn to enjoy your own company & then you will grow as a person.
Good luck 🍀 sending positive vibes your way 👌🏻
Make it your life goal to achieve whatever it is you see in them (money.. looks.. fame?) - for yourself? You can even learn from those who have achieved- so rather than jealously its admiration you spread around
You're on your way to becoming a covert narcissist, also known as a gamma. That's a personality type that everyone hates and if you don't fix it, it will ruin your life and the life of others too.
Good news is you're able to recognize that you do have a problem, which a true narcissist could never do. So you can fix this.
Go to Youtube channel "Vital Mind Psychology" and watch this guy's videos on covert narcissism.
Also google "Alpha Game: Graduating Gamma".
You can search for help using "narcissism therapy" although you will most likely find therapy for victims of narcissism. You can try therapy, too.
You need to build confidence. Try to find something you can get good at, it can be anything as long as you can be proud of it. For example go to the gym or do some sports, stop being fat and/or scrawny. Anyone who isn't disabled can do that. Sell your xbox and buy a bicycle. Eat properly. And never talk when you are angry.
Stop selling yourself short would be a good start. Just because people are in relationships and have things you don't have does not make them better than you. You have to learn to accept yourself for who you are and love yourself instead of watching other people and wishing that was you. Once you accept yourself for who you are, than you can start taking steps towards the things you want in life.
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When you are content and happy with your own life, you actually feel happy for others' success and happiness.
Improve yourself. Find something that you are passionate about and master that thing. Work out. Hustle and make your own money. Get your own hot chick.
Develop practicing the art of gratitude.
Everyday before bed write 3 things down your thankful for. It could be big things or something stupid and small.
Eventually you'll develop a gratitude mindset where you realize how blessed your life is and don't bother with comparisons.
I have a cousin on my mothers side, who people do admire, tell him constantly he’s attractive, tall, gets daily requests all over social media, be hit on etc. while I’m just another normal looking chubby guy. Yes I do get jealous from time to time because these are the things I’d love to witness myself.
You have to note that not everybody is as happy as they seem. How can you know they don’t have any disease? How can you know they have a perfect relationship? How can you know they are really truly happy? We people like to show off and pretend that we have our life in our hands but that doesn’t mean everyone is equally happy just because some other guy has a bigger wallet in his pocket. As long as you know which feet to put in which shoe, you can achieve anything.
You do have hobbies or better things to do but you can't see them and figure them out because you are focusing on others and what they have. First thing you should start appreciating what you have and try new and different things so you can find out what are your hobbies, find what are your main goals in life and start working on achieving them. Also there are many books out there to help you to improve yourself and your skills so you can be better than others. Good luck
The only way is to proactively care less
to understand what type of energy it projects on you... how it takes away from other more positive thoughts
we only have a certain amount of will power in a day to handle stuff
Start practicing mindfulness and being grateful for what you have.
You are what you are but just to let you know.. There are people who are and will be envious of you too.. 😬😅
There is always a bigger fish.
Push your own potential as far as you can and respect yourself.
Start loving what you have already and not what you don't have.
The day you accept that the grass isn't necessarily greener on the other and you start worrying only about yourself and you that no one is comparable to another...
Hey, it's normal... maybe you're just somewhere where you don't fit it and then rant about how lucky other people are... but if you're in a place like wherein you're luckier than others then you wouldn't feel that way...
Don't compare yourself, get a Hobby and focus on yourself
Focus on what you have not on what you don't have
My advice would be to read up on stoicism.
Focus on yourself and people will envy you
Focus on bettering yourself
Become them
Be better.
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