He doesn't talk to me anymore?

[Yinganator]

Sorry if it's long. Just wanted you guys to know all the details.

He's a senior and I'm a freshman. We had a class together first semester, but not anymore. We used to talk on Facebook chat and he noticed when I deactivated my account and asked me about it. He would bump into me on purpose and push me into the wall, gently though haha. He told me how my guy friend wants to have a "thing" with me and asked how I felt about him. He gave me his number without me having to ask him for it. We've only texted each other 3 times. I had to start the convo 2 times. (The 1st one doesn't really count because he didn't have my number). He would always look at me in the halls, smile, and say "hi". But then he just stopped talking to me. No more pushing me or grinning at me while saying "hi" when we pass each other in the halls, not even a glance. Then, some other senior chick asked him to Sweetheart (a dance at my school) and he went with her. He stopped talking to me after my guy friend who likes me, who is also a frosh, went up to him and asked him if he likes me. And he said no. Then he texted me (3rd convo) and said "Your boyfriend just talked to me. I can't remember his name... (guy friend's name here)?" So I said "what do you mean he talked to you?!?!?!?!" and he said "yeah, he just came up to me, asked me my name, and asked me if I like you. It was weird." And I said "yeah, he told me what happened" and he didn't text me back after that. And that was our last convo. So I want to know why? Because I'm hurting.

[corrosion]

I think what’s lacking here is mutual-honesty. He might have used the opportunity of “my guy friend wants to have a "thing" with you” as an opportunity to see where you stand with him. Personally, when a girl shows interest in one of my friends over me, I completely back off. There’s too much time to dive into other ventures to dwell on “what may have been”.

Depending how long this whole thing has been going for, I would think being straight up and telling him that you like HIM would definitely spark some interest back. If not, well what do you lose? I’ve said no to plenty of female friends and we still remain friends. There’s no foul in honesty.

[thisGUYknows]

i wouldn't put too much into it. some people are just real friendly like that but they don't mean to be flirting.

from a guy's standpoint we used to make fun of guys who went after freshman. we called them a pedophile. I hate to burst your bubble but an actual relationship is not gonna work out too long if it ever would at all. after high school he will be an adult and will be able to do a lot more stuff than you cause your still a minor. in HS a 4-5 year age difference is a big difference.

[sloaneified]

Sorry, don't want to be mean, but maybe he was never into you that way? OR, maybe he did like you and he told one of his buddies and they gave him crap for liking someone so much younger and that's why he didn't speak to you anymore. Seniors don't usually go for freshman. I'm guessing your fifteen? If you think about it, if your in his shoes, that'd be you liking an eleven year old.

[Yinganator]

A lot of my friends thought he did because he did a lot of things that suggested that he liked me. One of my friends thought he liked me and then just stopped. Another one thinks that he was just leading me on. And your right. I did think a lot about our age difference but it wouldn't have mattered to him if he really did like me.

[sloaneified]

Hmm, so are you saying you don't think he really liked you? And anyways, why don't you just text him and say, "all my friends say they think you liked me, did you really?" And if he says no, just say, (to cover up) "I didn't think so either, that would have been weird if you did."

[Yinganator]

Haha no, I'm saying that I think he did like me at some point. But it sounds ridiculous now, even to myself, because he's 3 years older than me. And I really do want to text him and ask him if he liked me but I kind of want him to know that I liked him and I still do. Or would that just sound like a stupid little girl crush?

[sloaneified]

If you're sure he liked you, then if you tell him you like him it shouldn't sound like a "little girl crush." Maybe tell him you felt like he lead you on? Is he the kind of person that would make fun of you for liking him?

[Yinganator]

No, I don't think he would make fun of me, he's really nice. To be honest, he isn't an a**hole in any way, shape, or form. He's probably the nicest guy I've ever met, so it kind of surprises me that he would just stop talking to me all of a sudden.

[sloaneified]

Then I saw go for it :)

[Yinganator]

Thanks for the advice! (:

[aoiryuu]

It sounds to me that he's misunderstanding things. He said that your guy friend is "your boyfriend" so he might actually think that you're dating and is backing away. Is he friends with your freshman guy friend who likes you? Because if they are friends he might be backing away, too, for guy code. I would confront him about it. That's just me though.

[Yinganator]

I never thought about that but I don't think that's it. Because when he asked me how I felt about my guy friend wanting to have "a thing" with me, I said that I don't want to have "a thing" with him and that I thought he was annoying. And they're not friends. And your right. I will confront him about it because its driving me crazy.

[ImSoSozzled]

It sounds like he just lost interest. I can't tell you why but it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. Maybe he is just into another girl that is closer to his age?

[Yinganator]

Yeah, that's what one of my friends said. But there doesn't seem to be anything romantic going on between that girl and him. They talked on each others' walls (saying that makes me look like a stalker, haha) and then they just went to Sweetheart together and then I think he started ignoring her. But the girl definitely likes him. I've heard her talk about him to her friend.