He doesn't talk to me :(?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 20 year old student. One day I was out with my friends. And one of my friends brought his friend with him. I met him and he was nice. Tbh I liked him so much. I kept asking questions about him to my friend. I found his social media 2 weeks ago and decided to text him today. And I told him why I texted him. I said "I like you, that's why I texted' he said "you know I'm 32 years old, divorced and father of 3 year old twins. don't these bother you?" And I said no. Then he said my age isn't a problem for him. So we talked like 30 mins. Then he suddenly stopped texting and left me on seen. Don't get me wrong I'm not egoistic but I can say that I'm a beautiful and intelligent woman and I thought I could impress him with those. But seems like it didn't work.
How can I make him to text me again? Is there any chance?
(by the way I'm an ELL student and he's dentist. Is there a possibility that he didn't find me equal to his academic status?)

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t put too much emphasis on texting if I were you. The goal anyway is to text less, hang out more, which I think is hard for people your age to understand since you’re probably used to being on your phone so much, and texting men in excess makes you feel like they’re very interested. What you want are plans, dates, hanging out one on one, so why not ask him out? Go see a movie, grab some dinner, something like that. If he isn’t receptive or putting in much effort, I think it’s safe to assume that his life may not allow him to prioritize a relationship right now. He has two small children and going through the aftermath of a divorce, and busy with work. Just be sure that you aren’t some rebound and that his heart is in the right place.

[Asker]

You're right. He said he's open to a new relationship but I can say that he's really so busy and. I even told him to meet on weekend. He said his kids stay with their mother and they stay in his hous on weekends. Weekends are the only days which he can spend time with his kids. So I understood that he isn't free on weekends too. And I think no one would spend his only free days-weekend- with a stranger. So ofc he would choose his kids

[Opinion Owner]

Got it. Well I don’t want to be a defeatist, just because his weekends aren’t free doesn’t mean he can’t make time for you during the week. The thing is, I don’t know if you want to be confined to evenings and nights, plus it might suck not being able to make weekend plans. It would be a long while before he could include you in plans with the twins, and with how busy is, it just sounds like more trouble than it’s worth. Like I said before, you could take initiative and ask him out, maybe that would get the ball rolling and give you the opportunity to talk about how things can work between you two. But he needs to start showing some effort so you won’t feel like you’re the only one trying hard.

[Asker]

Yes true. I think if I'm the only one who shows effort that means this will never be an healthy relationship. He needs to show effort to if he wants me. I won't text him until he text or invite me. Let's see what will happen. Thanks for sharing your opinion 😊

[Opinion Owner]

I’d personally choose a man with less baggage, no kids (to avoid any baby mama drama) and who’s reciprocated my energy. Like sure he’s hot, but you know good and well he’s not the only handsome man you’ll come across lol

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry I had an afterthought and sent that right when you sent yours😂 yeah, I think you can do so much better. And no worries!

[Asker]

I'll let him go hahahaha he's Arab and I say "yalla habibi go" hahahah

[Opinion Owner]

Best way to go about it! Haha🙏

[WhitneySnow]

I have no idea why he stopped texting you. And I’m usually good at figuring out guys. Maybe him and his ex got back together?

[Asker]

I think it's not easy to divorced couples to get back together :(

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah I guess you’re right. In that case I have no clue.

[Asker]

Should I stop bothering him?

[WhitneySnow]

Text him once more telling him you’d love to hear from him sometime, then stop bothering him after that. He’s got your social media. He can always text you if he wants too.

[MementoMori777]

Just give him space anon, he sounds like a busy man, he will most likely get to you when he can

[Asker]

What if he doesn't want? Lol

[MementoMori777]

Then I don't know what to tell you anon, maybe consider moving on I guess 🙃

[Asker]

Ahhh I can't be sad for a man who doesn't want me 💅💅

[MementoMori777]

That's the attitude, you do you missy 💅😂

[Asker]

There are countless men out there who want me 😌😌
Hahahah just kidding
But I mean yeah if someone doesn't want me I can't force him so I would find someone who wants me lol

[MementoMori777]

I like the way you think anon, that's how it should be, i hope it all works out for you anononon, if he doesn't want you, find someone that does 😁

[spartan55]

The age difference between the two of you is too significant.

[Asker]

He said its not a problem for him

[spartan55]

Of course he is going to say that. It won't work, trust me.

[Asker]

You're a man and experienced due to your age. So I trust you and believe that it will never work. Thanks for your opinion:))

[spartan55]

I speak from personal experience and being around others. I was 30 and dated a 21 year old girl. I had a house career, no kids, no ex wife and it lasted six months.

[Staximus]

Why is he already divorced with 3 year old kids?

[Asker]

Tbh I didn't ask the reason bc I thought it would be early to know. I guess things didn't work