Its more "common courtesy" than respect. People who get respect, are those who play and are a decent part of your life. Respect is a grey area for me. If you treat me like shit, just for doing so, im not respecting you. I know my oarents, sisters, bosses and so on aren't asshiles, so i do resoect them. But, sowmtimes, they are assholes for a reason, some people believe in the "tough love" approach. If yoy fuck up, they will let yoy know and not beat around the bush. I respect those who have done this to me, brcause it taught me my mistakes, because if I didn't make them I wouldn't be getting shit on. Not everyone has to kiss your butt to get respect. Its all about the situation and relationship. Things like law enforcement, cashiers, and such, they deserve common courtesy in my opinion. There are asshole people out there who abuse others and the power they might have, but that's no reason to be assholes to all law enforcement, etc. Just give them common decency, because they to are just doing their job most of the time.
It goes both ways. Respect is both as well as given. You can't say that you want respect, but you ain't refusing to give respect to others in return because of whatever biases or qualms you have towards a person. I always make sure I give respect to people regardless if I think they are deserving of my respect or not. Because I believe that you should treat others the way how you also want to be treated. But if they choose to behave as if you don't deserve respect for whatever reason they think you don't, still get respect. Because at the end of day did attitude is going to show them up and reveal their true character.
As you so aptly mentioned, a basic level of civility is important and necessary. But after initial greetings the way you respond to them depends on their actions. If after your initial interaction with a new person you observe or feel traits, behaviors or speech from the person that you don't like then you are not required to respect them.
For example, i go to a party and I'm introduced to new people. After meeting them i get a basic sense of who they are. Sure I will be "civil" with them as there is no need to be hostile towards them yet. But in this initial phase they don't deserve respect either. Once I get a better feel for them then I can start to make an informed decision whether they deserve any amount of respect or not.
Let me put it this way... NO ONE inherently deserves respect, but I think we as people have an obligation to respect others because they are human beings. We don't deserve it, we aren't owed it. We are simply obligated to give it. No one has a right to demand respect, but everyone has a certain level of obligation to give it simply on the basis of human value.
What is human value and how do we evaluate it?
Human value is the inherent value in being a human being. I'm of the belief that human beings are made in the image of God himself and are thus, their lives are inherently valuable. I believe the value of a human life to be priceless though it varies if only insomuch as a person disregards or violates the humanity of others. In other words a man who commits murder forsakes his own value as a human being.
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Everyone deserves respect in the form of common courtesy, but anything further has to be earned.
The definition of respect: a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
We use the word incorrectly as a society very often. When people say you need to show me respect they mean you need to be respectful. You should always be respectful and civil and non judgmental as well as understand that everyone has had different trauma and problems and that you're not better than anyone and that they have their own pain and problems. If you go through life being considerate and not self centered and always worried about how you feel and your opinions you will always be respectful and cordial and even kind which everyone does deserve.
I guess I think in terms of giving someone the benefit of the doubt. I give everyone the benefit of doubt. I assume someone is being honest. And if it turns out the person is truly honest, they have earned my respect.
As for civility, I think all should be civil even if we do not respect someone. Civility is more about manners and be able to respect our own actions... civility is a reflection of ourselves and has nothing to do with the other person at all.
In between? I think there's a base level of respect that everyone deserves. People who earn more can get a higher level of respect. People who take advantage of the base level of respect get less of it. I don't think of respect as a binary thing. It's a sliding scale. How much do I respect you? How much do you respect me?
Depends on what we mean by it.
noun: respect; plural noun: respects
1.
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
2.
due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others.
In the first sense it must always be earned. In the second it must almost always be given,
Everyone should be respected as a basic human being, and the more you do and contribute to the world, the more respect you earn, sort of
Why tho? What has ''everyone'' done to deserve respect?
So everyone has already made respectable life decisions?
You're kinda contradicting yourself here
We're just raised to show eachother respect. And the more you contribute, the more power you get, respect you'll earn, jobs, positions etc.
Like we both know that homeless people are looked down upon by a lot of people. Treated differently cause of their position.
Cheating in a relationship, the respect is probably going to be gone after that choice I suppose, bullying same thing.
So everyone nope.
For me respect is a point system. Everyone I initially meet starts of with 10 points which is standard treat them like human being respect. After that you lose or gain points based of the severity, and coolness of the situation. So if you lie and I find out that's -10, your at 0 non respect. And every positive thing you do from then on until you reach ten is.05
So I see it as there are two kinds of respect. There's treating someone like a human, and treating someone like an authority. Everyone inherently deserves to be treated as a human. EVERYONE. But being treated as an authority needs to be earned.
well as you see the Cadet doesn't go into the mess hall and boast about being the best, he works to earn his place with the rest of the recruits, respect is earned, you have to earn a seat at the table you just don't sit when you arrive, you have to be there for a while
Respect is earned.
I look like a bitch, so a lot of people will immediatly get defensive and come off rude to me because they assume thats how ill be. No sir✋✌️
I think that it’s more so courtesy to be nice to others or ignore them. It’s less about respect as it is not being a cunt. However, I am a strong believer that respect is earned rather than inherited.
As the saying goes: "Respect is earned, not given". I agree with your civility comment. If I find that someone is deemed worthy of my respect then I shall give it to them.
There is basic respect. You should open doors for everyone. Ask if the seat is free on a bus and stuff. But you do not need to respect the person as much as you respect a teacher you had close bond with, for example.
Isn't your ''basic respect'' just civility?
Civil is fine, polite is good. Respect is EARNED. At least for me. I don't owe anybody jackshit, and everybody gets what they get for the work and effort they put in, just like everybody else. This whole entitlement thing is folly.
Everyone should be treated nicely at the beginning. It's common sense. But stronger respect and trust and reliability needs to be earned.
I think people deserve politeness, not respect.
Politeness is a form of self-respect as much as respect to others.
No, it should be earned. People believing they are automatically entitled to respect causes so many problems.
Yep, you hit the nail on the head with your second sentence.
Basic good manners is not the same as respect, true respect has to be earned you earn that through your interactions with others, I've never demanded respect but accepted it when offered.
Basic respect depending on factors like are they boss family coworker etc, but they have to earn any more than the basic respect
Respect has to be earned , this is why you have to prove yourself worthy on tough military promotion courses , you must lead by example.
I will respect anyone who doesn't throw it back in my face. We're all on our own journey through life and it's not my job to judge you.
Exactly how you said it. Basic civility. Dont be an ass. But respect is earned.
It is earned easily at the start but if lossed it is harder to earn
Respect (as in social human decency) should be automatically given... then revoked when necessary.
Too many people demand respect but don’t want to be a leader in this regard.
No wonder society is fucked up.
To me, civility demands giving people initial respect, but egalitarianism & pragmatism conduct from the observed henceforth will add/subtract from that.
i strongly believe that everyone deserved to be be respected not because they did something or earn it. simply because they exist and we need to value that.
What value does existence in and of itself have?
intrinsic
And if a person disagrees with that stance?
It's a two way street. Many people demand but don't give.
It is earned. People say respect elders. Just because you’re old doesn’t mean you deserve respect. There are racist old people I don’t respect.
I think you deserve politeness and the bare minimum amount of respect when you are a complete stranger. From there, nothing should obligate you to keep that respect if the person turns out to be a bad person.
I always open trust and respect people and their own views. Especially when I completely disagree, but I will debate or discuss too. I do this until they give me a reason not to. Like lie to me or rude things to me.
I mean, you shouldn't be a dick to people but respect has to be earned.
I think Respect is unearned and earned
Like you start out with giving q person basic respect and your opinion and respect of them goes up or down depending on whether or not they deserve it
You earn respect, otherwise it would be pretty meaningless.
Respect must be there because we are all persons for whom Jesus Christ died. That is the dignity of being a human being. A person that does not give this respect need no respect neither.
Basic respect yes, as in being civilized and cordial. But respect beyond that is earned and not freely given, and basic respect can also be revoked if given cause.
No. Respect has to be earned otherwise it has no value.
A bit of both, you should always be polite to strangers but if they're rude, self entitled, condescending or anything then they don't deserve any respect
I believe we should treat one another with a sense of decorum, but many people treat others terribly especially in service industries.
Basic respect, yes. Every human being should be treated fairly and decently, unless they do something tl lose even that respect.
I think a certain level of respect is assumed when you meat a person and they can get more or less than that depending on how they behave.
I believe in treating others how you want them to treat you. But, if they are disrespectful towards me and have an attitude, you better believe I will act the same way towards them.
Nobody inherently deserves it.
I dare say the vast majority of the population doesn't deserve an ounce of it.
And yes.. that includes civility.
Basic respect but they can gain more or lose my respect by their actions.
Little of Both cause you give respect to strangers but meet some gotta earn it it’s up to them to lose it. Same as with trust.
No, no one inherently deserves respect it is earned.
What motivates you to treat eat someone with civility isn't always the respect you have for them, so i would say they are not the same and you should give people basic respect.
You should always treat people they way you want to be treated. That's so elementary.
Everyone dezerves some respect but has to earn true respect
Most, if not all, people deserve civility. The only times they don't is when they are immediately threatening your life in some form. They need to earn your trust, your love, and your respect.
I give a base level of respect but most respect has to be earned.
I don't know respect to keep the peace, you don’t have to mean it.
Everyone deserves respect unless otherwise proven unworthy of it by their actions towards you
Everyone deserves respect until you have a valid reason not to
I think everyone deserves respect. It's a basic thing everyone deserves - until they choose to try take advantage of it in a harmful way.
Not everyone does but there are special cases wherein even the generations of the predecessors deserve the respect they had.
Nah, you have to earn it.
Everyone must earn respect.
Respect is earned not given
I think respect is earned by doing work
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