How can guys jump from girl to girl so fast?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to a guy for a couple of months and we hung out a couple of times. Since it's summer, we can't see each other because of distance, but he told me he wanted me to keep in touch. This was two weeks ago. Yesterday, he got a girlfriend. Did I mean nothing to him? Was I just some random girl to hook up with? I really thought it was going somewhere, but apparently he didn't see it that way. Guys, how can you just move from girl to girl so fast and forget about us once you've moved onto the next one?

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I guess it just hurts because I'm a bit shy and never had a guy interested in me before. He was one of the nicest guys I had met in a long time and was really patient with me. Maybe I just saw it for more that what it was :(

[BoobMan]

Did you have an exclusive relationship with him? It doesn't sound like you did from what you've said. Keep in mind that in most relationships, physical escalation, sex, and exclusivity happen when the girl wants them to happen (generally speaking). As a result, even a guy who wants a relationship will be well served to keep meeting and dating girls until he's in an exclusive relationship because he has no way of knowing if things will work out with any given girl. That could be what happened there.

[BoobMan]

Yeah. I hear you. That really sucks. I'm sorry. It'll hurt for a bit but you'll be back to your old self before long and I'm sure you'll find another really great guy that you like soon.

[ohhaidurr]

It depends on how attached we are to the girl. Even though you guys have hung out and talked a lot, he may not have considered you on a high part of his list or he simply lost interest because you weren't showing the signals he was looking for.

Sometimes, I'm interested in a girl for a few days or weeks. Sometimes, I'm interested in a girl for 3 whole years. Every guy is different.