Do you treat people the way they treat you?

[Nazgol]

I like to be nice to genuinely nice & deserving people and treat others the same if they don't treat me right. What's your take?

[Cathy7734]

Sadly, I treat everyone nicely, even if they are a jerk to me. At the time it doesn't bother me but several days later I think of the way I was treated and I feel angry about it. I then have to process that anger, usually by writing about it in my journal, and/or talk to someone about it.

It seems to me it would be better not to be so nice to jerks.

[Nazgol]

Yeah , definitely don't be. I'm usually the same and go through the same, doesn't do me any good but pain. So I'm learning to treat every individual differently and unique depending on how they are with me

[Cathy7734]

The trouble is if I treat a rude person rudely I get slammed. Everyone is against me. To avoid any confrontation I just back away. For example, I went to the movies, and at the concession stand the server loudly and abruptly yelled, "What do you want?" I told him and he seemed angry. He shoved the food to me. It seemed like the previous customer was rude to him and he was taking it out on me. I didn't say anything except, "Thank you" and walked away.

[Nazgol]

No, dont care. Be the same way. You deserve to be treated better. That's why there's such a thing called customer service and their managers are very serious about it. You have to show you're upset and angry if someone is being rude to you and not treating well. Dont put up with it

[Cathy7734]

Wouldn't you feel bad if they fired him? What if his family, with children, is suffering, and then he gets fired?

[Nazgol]

Always question them first be like why are you yelling what's the problem? In a surprised tone. I was ordering pizza the other night , the guy was so unclear and hard to hear but everytime I said pardon got more agitated and started yelling at bit. So right away I told him your not clear you dont have to yell!

[Nazgol]

Yeah but also should know how to do job he gets paid for me. If it's something minor like yeah obviously let it go but if more I wouldn't stay quiet cuz I'm pauly for their service

[Nazgol]

*paying

[Nazgol]

*gets paid to do job

[Nazgol]

You dont have to get the manager involved necessarily, they dont have to know. Just solve it out with the person

[Nazgol]

And if they do happen to get involved u can say it's ok I'm dealing with the issue myself

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I treat people the way they treat me, I'm a nice guy with a kind heart
I have been through a lot of stuff in life with bullying, verbally abusive father
and the list goes on I believe my parents never loved me I wish I could adopt
a mother I do believe that's why I look up to President Joe Biden as a
Father-figure, he is a great guy, and whether people like him or not he is
trying his best to bring America together instead of apart

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks For MHO :)

[nolabels]

I treat people the way I would treat myself.
What is extremely difficult is to continue to do so after being treated poorly by someone else.
I try to but I must admit that I don't always succeed.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

I try to treat people better give them standards to aspire to. It’s not hard to be kind. When I’ve been treated badly I don’t really want others to feel that way. I don’t really like bullying but if I see someone getting bullied I’ll bully the bully. If someone is going to be insistent on pettiness though I can be really mean.

[A_Bell]

Mostly. At first I treat everyone with as much kindness and respect as I can.

When they show they are unworthy of my effort I slowly drop my levels of kindness and respect. After it hits a certain level I just avoid that person.

[Cathy7734]

Have you ever yelled at someone who got angry at you and yelled at you?

[weysally]

I'm not religious but a quote from the bible,
do unto other's has you would have them do to you, but sometimes this has to be added, but in some cases do it first meaning if you see that they are rotten people jump in first

[Paulychicago10]

Yes. I try to be nice to start off, but if they're rude, I mirror them

[Nazgol]

Same

[Paulychicago10]

🤜🤛

[TurboKid]

I just like to have fun and good times with people if I can.

[TurboKid]

It typically leans towards treating people nicely and respectfully if I can. I'd prefer a friend to an enemy if I can help it. But I don't really think so deeply about it. I just like to have fun and good times with good company.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I give people 1 chance to either let me down or mistreat me. I will forgive them the first time. 2nd time it happens I give them both barrels, metaphorically speaking of course.

[andreasderjuengere]

I can do better than that.
Normally, I'm correct-mannered, distanced and neutral.
In the very rare event of unkindness: I'll consider the conversation to have ended - and turn my attention to something more deserving.

[loves2learn]

Sort of. I treat people the way I would like to be treated and I call out bullshit and defend those being wrongfully harassed or accused.

[ThePolishKnight37]

I try but there are times when it is not possible. But I do tend to get nicer the meaner someone is.

[Wiredone]

"Do onto others as you'd want them do onto you". That's what my dad always taught me. If people are nice to me, I'll be nice to them. Sometimes, when someone is mean to me, I'll use reverse psychology. It really makes them look really bad.

[roy_ricky09]

I so wish I gave it back.
But no, I can't become them. I'm better than that

[Monfrere]

No I treat them better than they treat me, or that's what I think

[IAMNathanael]

I treat people the way I want to be treated (or at least I try to)

[Sevenpointfive]

i'm always friendly. there's no need to be otherwise unless they do something that is not friendly

[whatsthereinname]

The way people treat you define their personality and upbringing;

the way you treat them defines yours

[Andres77]

Everyone get fair treatment at first.
If they need to get called out, so be it.
I'll deal with them accordingly.

[TallAnon]

I use my intuition a lot and try to place myself in their shoes to understand why they are treating me good or bad. I decide how to treat them based on that.

[FilmGuy93]

No, I try to treat people better than they treat me.

[Glasgow55]

I treat people better than they treat me, generally.

[Cathy7734]

Have you ever treated anyone with rudeness or disrespect when they treated you that way?

[douride2]

I treat people the way I want to be treated until they give me a reason not to.

[Alwayshornyyyyy]

No especially when I'm drinking but I think I'm nice