Without going into too much details was this revenge or just bullying?

[Anonymous]

Without going into details I was in a certain position at a certain period in my life where I was very unhappy and depressed and anyone would be if they were in my circumstances. This person from a certain ethnicity made a comment mocking my position and misfortune and it made me very sad and angry. I’m much better 7 years later and on my own two feet doing extremely well for myself however yesterday I saw someone who was the same ethnicity as the same person who ridiculed me in a nasty manner and I used the exact same sentence that was used to put me down further 7 years ago as revenge and their reaction was the same as mine. Is this revenge end an eye for an eye?

[GoldenAxer]

I think at the end of the day, you have to ask yourself if your thoughts and actions are making your life better or worse. I think those questions become more critical and difficult the more people you have to be responsible for besides just yourself because there can be a sort of comfort and pleasure in having vengeful thoughts if you're only responsible for yourself.

Say you find yourself in a leadership position though and responsible not just for yourself but others who trust and follow you. Then try to ask if the way you think and act is good not just for yourself but those people who trust and follow you, and then I think you will find more clearly that vengeful thoughts and actions are quite counter-productive far more often than not. It might be romantic to fight to the very last breath in a blaze of glory when you're only responsible for yourself, but it becomes an ill-suited trait for most leaders. You find yourself in a leadership position and you start to learn, if only the hardest way, to pick your battles and discipline yourself.

"He is the most powerful who has power over himself." -- Seneca

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds like you were just bullying the person...

[Asker]

Like what their kind did to me

[Anonymous]

No that was just being an asshole.

[Asker]

Tit for tat?