Should I be ashamed of my femininity?

Question

Ok so I’m a supporter of equal rights but I am also a very traditional domestic woman. I love to take care of the home and my partner. I’m also quite submissive and love expressing my femininity. However I get scrutinised a lot by a fair few career driven women saying I’m part of the problem. That me living as a traditional domestic woman is spitting in the face of all the progress we’ve made. That I should be ashamed that I’m weak willed and will let men walk all over me. Are they right? I may be very domestic but I support other women who are career focused. It’s just not for me personally.

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

Nope. You're just not fulfilling their trope, is all.

Next time some bitter, dateless, trollop tries to walk all over you, look her in the eye and tell her to fuck off. Mainly as you're happier than she will ever be despite all her nebulous "progress".

Some people male or female just cannot stand people who are happy and content. They are bitter and stressed, and want to dump all that on you.

They will try feminism, religion, race, class and many others triggers to drive you. Don't let them. They just want you to be their toilet that they can shit on and feel better about themselves and care nothing for you.

Heartache0405 · Accepted Answer

Those are feminists trying to make you feel bad about being your natural feminine self because they hate men and don’t want men to have a feminine woman. They want to destroy the two person household. Men are meant to be masculine and women are meant to be feminine and there’s nothing wrong right that. No matter how hard these feminists try to guilt you into believing it’s not true. It’s toxic behavior. If you like being traditional than don’t let anyone tell you to do otherwise. You’re not here to appease them. You’re here to make yourself happy and if that makes you happy than why change?

Medicalbug · Accepted Answer

I completely support you to be whoever you want to be. I am a “career woman”, but I do not believe everyone should be like me at all. You have nothing to apologize for and neither do I. The point of having equal rights is the freedom to choose. Women are a mixed bag of humans (especially today), so we should respect and support each other in our endeavors to express our unique personalities. I find it ironic to squeeze women from one blueprint into another, shaming each other for refusing to be something we are not. Isn’t that what we wanted to abolish?

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

Nothing to be ashamed of, but I do think femininity involves a lot more than you mentioned. Being submissive and cooking and staying home aren’t assigned to one gender. Career women who are more assertive and don’t cook are just as feminine as domestic women.

Uannoyme · Answer

Feminists don't want women to be told what to do by men. How is it any better for women to be told what to do by other women? The whole point is that women can choose how they want to live. You want to be a traditional woman? Great! If you want to be a career driven woman, that's great too. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

Leonharted · Answer

Absolutely not. The whole POINT of feminism was for you to be free to pursue what you want to do. If you want to work, do that. If you want to be a stay at home wife, raising kids, keeping house, etc, then you are free to do that, too.

Work doesn't make you free. In fact, that was literally a sign put on a German concentration camp in world war 2, just to show you how wrong it is. The ability to CHOOSE to work (or not) is what makes you free

Guanfei · Answer

Feminism is about letting women choose for themselves. If that's your choice, then it's perfectly fine. And any "feminist" telling you that you should be ashamed isn't a feminist.
And honestly, it's nice to have a more "traditional" woman, those bitches are just mad because they consider that a woman should dominate men, or live without them.

KrisPW · Answer

NO! Don't be ashamed of who you are. If you are doing what makes you happy, then nobody else's opinion matters. Equal rights shouldn't mean that we all do the same thing. You should have the choice to pursue anything you want to be in life. Equality should mean that your gender should not limit your choices.

Agape93 · Answer

No, never be ashamed of who you are and want to be.

Part of that progress, is the freedom and acceptability of you having a voice, and a choice in what you want in life. Want to be a single business woman? Go for it. Want to be a Dom mommy? Have fun! Want to be a sub and a housewife? Enjoy yourself!

If someone wants to mock you for your choice on this, @ me to the convo and I'll straighten their ass out.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t really support equal rights and I’m a woman here’s why why should a woman be paid the same amount as a men if she is working less hours it always peed me off with tennis for example the women play a maximum of 3 sets with a maximum playing time of 3 hours and they are paid just as a much as the men who are often made to pay up to 5 sets and games can last up 6 hours how is that fair that a woman tennis player gets paid as much as a men for doing less work then he does

then you have the women who go a barber and cry out and bitch and claim discrimination when the barber refuses to cut her hair what the heck it’s a barber for men go to a damn hairdresser where it’s mostly only women who go there
Feminist pee me off

TonyV · Answer

No you're fine, feminism is suppose to be about having the choice to be a working business woman or a home maker.

The women busting your balls telling you that you need to be in the office working are just as ignorant as men saying you need to be in the kitchen making me a sandwich.

AviatorTom · Answer

You are your own woman. Be proud if who you are and what you believe in. There is nothing wrong, and everything right, with being a "traditional domestic woman". There are thousands, maybe millions, if women like you. I salute you.

JCrockett · Answer

No. Don't be ashamed. They're not right. In fact, they're psychos. Consider that not only is that career chasing life not for you, it's also not for most other women either. But many aren't as perceptive, brave, or confident as you are so they suckered in by the same people who are mistakenly trying to pressure you into a less fulfilling life.

And for what? Equality? Why be a woman who's exactly like a man when you could be a woman instead?

cosmicallyinclined · Answer

absolutely not be ashamed. the only people who should be ashamed are women who degrade/judge other women for what they do or choose how to present themselves in life.

doopayo · Answer

They’re being stupid. Don’t listen to them, they’re probably “girl boss feminists”. True feminism supports a woman’s right to autonomy meaning career oriented or more domestic women are both totally fine, as long as they have the right and choice to do so on their own merit.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Femininity is nothing for you to be ashamed of as a female. Neither is the right to live your life as you see fit. Forget about those 'women' you describe---- you are not obligated to them in any way and whatever issues they have don't have to be yours.

sunshineglow · Answer

Everyone has a choice and it's only cultured to accept other people's choices. I also don't want any option being forced onto me. I also want to choose for myself and that others leave my choice alone.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

One thing to ask yourself, are those career driven women happy? Has having a stressful career in a successful company that could lay them off or replace them at any time brought them fulfillment? Are they single and lonely? Why do other women’s free choices bother them?

You should do what you feel gives you the most purpose in life. If it’s being a homemaker and a mother, you are free to make that choice. Raising the next generation is more important than its ever been.

ZackBan · Answer

You are the perfect example of how these fake feminists shame other women and blame it all on men. Do not listen to any of the toxic garbage they spew you'll live a much happier life if you block out their spiteful hate of the world

Starla1234 · Answer

Don’t be ashamed of it at all, its part of who you are and you are still a supporter of equal rights so there’s not a problem. Just do what you love and makes you feel happy :)

TRUKIT808 · Answer

No you should not be ashamed. Its your life hun and if you're happy then screw them. This is what extreme/toxic feminism n SJW bs is doing to people right now. They're being brainwashed from the media to think that men are toxic and we dont need them anymore. So that's getting put into a lot (not all) womans heads. So yea just ignore em.

RealMarek · Answer

Hmm... you should be ashamed if you’re not slaving away in some office building, to make other people rich and most likely never get to the top of the ladder yourself? Gets one thinking... Maybe this style of feminism is promoted by elites for a reason. 🤔

CaptainRonnie · Answer

Lol no those women seem bitter or something. Absolutely not, you shouldn't be ashamed of your femininity just like those career driven women shouldn't be ashamed of their career driven-ness. The world needs all kinds, do your thing.

Anonymous · Answer

But you aren't a traditional woman who though... didn't you say you participate con gangbangs? Traditional women, like truly traditional women wait for the guy they are gonna be with. Likely she'd never have more than 1-2 sex partners. And she'd be at least somewhat religious. Just say you want to be a house wife, not traditional

Anonymous · Answer

A career woman is a 9 to 5 gig. A mother is a 24 hr job. And just because they turn 18 doesn't mean you ever stop worrying or caring about them. The hrs. Are long. The pay is pitiful. But the benefits can be great. And if you do it well you literally change the world.
Nothing against a career woman. But tell me the career that can compete with that.
Just my opinion.

Andres77 · Answer

The women that are setting things back are all the plastic floozies that worship the likes of the Kardashians.
If anything, you're not weak willed. You're a firecracker!
Nothing to worry about.
You're just fine the way you are.

Cait_Lyn · Answer

Being able to make choices is what it should be about. As long as it truly is your choice and you're happy with that decision there is absolutely nothing wrong with arrangement. :)

TsAubreyKate · Answer

Dude even when they started this movement those few women didn’t speak for the majority and putting down traditional women doesn’t help there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to be career focused and I hate how they make it seem like you’re your husband’s slave why would you be with a man who treats you like that and a lot of women who are traditional submissive home makers get treated like princesses it’s not called The Real Working Bitches of Orange County for a reason

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Never be ashamed of it. You are who you are and don’t let anyone bring your down for your beliefs and what you choose to do.

OddBeMe · Answer

Of course not and you know that. You’re just trying to push anti feminist bs. No one cares if you want to be a housewife. We care that you have a choice.

Not_Average · Answer

Feminists are miserable. Traditional women are much more attractive and pleasant.

Flower7 · Answer

Are you working or do you stay at home? And are there any kids in the home or do you just focus on cooking and cleaning?

AngelMegumin · Answer

Nobody should be ashamed of their beliefs and views by proxy. It is the way u represent them matter. If u act decent and respectful to others, u r an example to learn from.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

No women's rights movement and feminism is about being able to choose what you want to do. You're choosing to be a "housewife" which is perfectly ok. It's all about the choice.

Ratpack60 · Answer

You should not be ashamed at all. You have one of the most important careers ever. You take care of your family and your household. You are the bedrock of society. You are a strong woman be proud.

Amur8711 · Answer

No you shouldn't be ashamed, you have the right to choose if you want to be a traditional woman. By them sharing you they are actually hurting themselves, because they are showing they believe woman have no choice now but to be like they are.

modeve · Answer

In my view you are in adorable life. I am also maintaining balance between domestic and out of home activities.

The_sweet_brat · Answer

Never be ashamed of who you are. People will always have opinions regardless so it's best to just live your life how you want.

noohair · Answer

They might feel guilty for choosing career over family and they need to reinforce their actions by shaming you. I would say that their opinion on how you live you life falls under the, "None Of Your Fu@king Business" rule.

Naydyonov · Answer

Femininity is what makes women — women!  It is wonderful. Masculine men love feminine women. Why would a masculine man love a masculine woman? This doesn't make sense.

Massageman · Answer

You are determined to take the "hard road less traveled". Sounds commendable to me. The ones who complain the most are typically the ones who can't make it on their own.

Bdsmaster · Answer

Don't change yourself for others luv or get stressed by what they say you have the right to live your way.
I prefer woman who are domestic and submissive, they are as important as woman who are career driven.

bgreek · Answer

Why worry, what society says? Unless society wants to pay you for life Your a keeper. and need more women like you All the haters you encounter are just jealous And can't find a man

Hangry06 · Answer

It's your right to be ashamed of whatever you want. So you can

2021biguy · Answer

Traditional women are much better than feminists so don't worry about what they think or say because they are jealous of you.

joeldalton · Answer

Meanwhile, you’re happy and well adjusted and they’re chugging antidepressants like tic tacs.

Anonymous · Answer

I thought I remember seeing you post about a one night stand or some kind of group sex before? Doesn't sound very traditional to me...

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Life was a lot simpler when the majority of women were primarily homemakers. Those days are gone now sadly but if you can make it work I salute you.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

The progress made for womens rights allows you to make the choices you have made. You are the solution not the problem

KatherineJ · Answer

You be the woman that you want to be. If you are happy and content then it’s no one else’s business.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Why be ashamed if anything that sounds really hot to me. I love women who enjoys cooking.

Anonymous · Answer

The only people who have anything to be ashamed of in all of this are the feminists who shame you for doing what you want with your life. Feminism sucks.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Or these women might be insecure.  Equal rights and freedom include rights within the gender

Babygirl_S · Answer

No don't be ashamed. It comes naturally to most women.

Js9etbr · Answer

Yes please the government and strangers who wouldn't puss on you if you were on fire.

Blaine999 · Answer

No you shouldn't ashamed, just because they don't agree doesn't mean it's a bad thing

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

You seem to support equal rights where it benefits you but still want traditional roles

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Don't be ashamed and don't let them get to you. Women who talk like that are usually unhappy ones

Allylyon · Answer

Nope. I am like u. I love that lifestyle.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Your good, you are who you are.

jasco · Answer

Never be ashamed to be you. enjoy yourself

swettannie · Answer

you're absolutely not wrong !

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Hmm all you can do is ignore them

ikEVERYTHING · Answer

No be very happy and proud of it

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