I have a meme up on my wall that goes "Those of you that think you know it all is only in the way of us that do." Personally, I value common sense over intelligence. Not all that long ago I looked a man dead in his eyes after almost 2 weeks of putting up with his BS and told him to STFU, go pack his bags and GTFO of my Jobsite. This guy is actually a member of MENSA, to this day I refuse to work with him. I work around some brilliant engineers that do good work. I am not the brightest bulb in the pack and I am not a bit intimidated by people that are. I just ask for some common sense and some social skills.
Is this a trick question? Most people who think they are smart generally are not. I'm turned off "marriage wise" by fake Christians, athiests and people in general who don't believe Jesus is the Son of God and is God.
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The ones who act snobby are not intelligent. I am turned on my intelligence because intelligent people can hold conversations that are interesting and stimulating and can discuss wide variety of topics and are quick learners whereas stupid people are slow and make you lose brain cells so there is not much scope for conversation because they have low comprehension skills.
Intelligence? No. Arrogance? Absolutely. I like learning new things. I don't like when people are condescending and feel as though they have to talk down to others because they may know a lot about something. Delivery is everything is everything is everything. I say this daily. It's not what you say, it's how you say it.
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Actually arrogance and bragging about intelligence is the behavior of lesser intelligent people. Intelligent people don't need to brag or put down others. Intelligent people understand that the reason why they are intelligent is because they have chosen to remain humble students of life.
Here's an analogy: Bob Dumass will take a painting class and after a short time quit became he thinks that with his level of intellect he has learned all he needs to know. Then he will not understand why he is a shitty painter. Jon Wise will be patient and learn through the class how much he does NOT KNOW about painting and that the journey one takes learning about painting is where intelligence becomes wisdom. MORAL: The wiser you become, the more you realize how little you really know.
I have a serious question... if an intelligent person was with a person who is kind of not bright...* their parents and brothers are the same way but the intelligent one has never been vocal about it or let it really bother them would they always feel like they're the only adult in the room? & could an introvert with confidence come off as arrogant?
A person who is intelligent would somewhat hear a person out. However it's also know many with smartness are often aloof to other's argument's.
But then it's of course know the more dumb someone is the more likely they are to be ignorant to changing there mind.
So it kinda sways both way's. Point is you can get a smartass or a dumbass but both are arses still about it.
So been turned off by intelligence for that reason would be kinda pointless and nothing to gain really. Might aswell have a smartass than a dumbass i think.
Noooo. It depends on how they present themselves though. If they present themselves as know-it-allās or condescending towards other people, massive turn off. But thatās more about their personality rather than intelligence.
I think intelligence is sexy.
I hear what you are saying, Nazgol.
I gravitate toward intelligent people, but not the kind you described. I love people who are curious, open minded, and constantly learning. I know lots of people like that. They are not arrogant.
A truly intelligent person realizes that "the more you know, the more you realize how much you don't know."
On the other hand, people who think they already know everything are actually ignorant.
If they're truly intelligent then they wouldn't behave in the way that turns you off. What you're talking about is a conceited know-it-all. People with true intelligence and maturity don't act that way.
Intelligence and maturity are very good traits. When it transforms into conceitedness and narcissism, then it becomes a turn off.
Intelligence is a turn on. Pretentious and condescending behavior is a turn off.
Sometimes they overlap but correlation does not equal causation.
You are turned off by the latter it seems. I would try to remember the next time you meet someone intelligent that it doesn't mean they will be a pretentious douche.
Based on your edit you seem to know the difference anyway.
The way I say it is I like smart people, just not self proclaimed smart people. People who have no ego around it and just know they're smart are generally cool.
Plus there's benefit to being underestimated. Needing to be recognized by your intelligence is a sign of insecurity. Act like you've been there before applies here
I love very intelligent people I know smart people I love wise people but what I don't like it when somebody knows that that's who they are and they refused it by doing what you just said about them thinking that they are the only right person in the room and they will not shut up until you agree with then does those are the people I don't like
We'll see that's the whole thing is when somebody is for Real they're not going to be arrogant it is what it is intelligence is a beautiful thing wisdom is a beautiful thing if they're arrogant then they don't know as much as you would think that they know because intelligent people don't come across that way if they're arrogant that means that they're trying to hide something and they're basically probably fake.. Like I used to tell my kids hang out with smart people because you are who you hang out with I know a lot of smart people that are arrogant and I don't hang out with those people
No. But It seems you're actually turned off by attitudes and strong personalities - not intelligence.
People who go with the "attracted to intelligence" vibe, like people who talk and communicate on interesting subjects. But also do so without arrogance and being overbearing.
Your definition is bad and it's gonna even turn off nice smart people. Smart people are analytical and people are always extremely opinionated irrespective of their smartness. So most smart people will always seem to be arrogant to the majority of the population. Plus smart people tend to have high education too which differs their thinking and knowledge from others.
For example... If you say the earth is not flat and vaccines are safe. No matter how politely you present the facts towards flat-earthers, anti-vaxxers, you will always be a jerk to those people. That's why smart people always find it very hard to find someone similar.
no, lets put it this way, i fancey whoa vicky, probably the dumbest girl ever, so i only finds looks attractive since whoa vicky is cute and pretty looking, i literally give 0 fucks about a girl intelligence levels.. dont care if she's einstein or has downsyndrome, i care only about looks
i feel like only nerds are attracted to intelligence, and one thing im definitely not is a nerd
Generally speaking, no. However, I have met some very intelligent women that liked to lord it over people or to try and make someone feel inferior. That is not a turn on. I have also met some very intelligent women who were very analytical. Talking through their thought process. Very clean and precise and BORING. Its almost like they thought developing a personality was a 2nd class endeavor compared to practical knowledge and never ending education.
No. I like hanging out with intelligent people cause there intelligence rubs off onto me.
I just dislike intelligent people that are also arrogant/know it allās
Not at all. Intelligence is hot if she's a good woman with a good heart, a healthy and respectful attitude toward men, and a feminine mindset.
Sadly, it seems a lot of intelligent women don't have those other traits, and that's a show stopper for most good men.
And, also sadly, most of those women think their intelligence is the problem when it's not.
Nope. When I see good thought processes, good arguments, a good range of knowledge, creativity, humor, etc. I tend to think better of the person. I donāt care if they donāt suffer fools gladly. Everyone doesnāt need to be coddled.
I think a lot of people are which is why I donāt talk much because some people feel Iām being condescending and others feel like Iām just showing off even though Iām not in school anymore I still like to read and learn something new everyday but I often have to dumb myself down and hold my tongue to fit in or not outshine others
Iām turned off by people who:
1) use overly fancy words for occasions that donāt really call for them
2) brag about an IQ test they took when they were 8 and their result was 140+
3) always have to be right and assert their opinions over othersā.
Intelligence is beautiful and should be applied the right way, not used as an abusive tool to assert oneās worth.
@Star_88 , sometimes fancy words just come to mind and you can't help it, plus very smart people tend to know more languages and languages get mixed up. Actual smart people, many top scientists including Nobel laureates never brag about IQ tests and probably never took any. IQ tests are not exactly science and their standards of measurements are highly debatable. However, they can be actually right more of the time than the average person. Other smart people can understand it but less smart people will find it arrogant. Let's say a flat earther, healing crystal believer and anti-vaxxer will always find real scientists arrogant.
m well, you seem to be turned off by arrogance and snobby attitudes... not by intelligence itself, which is very normal and yes, I am the same
No. But I havenāt met any intelligent men besides my family. The guys in my family. the rest of the guys Iāve known donāt care about women at all. And honestly that hurts
In my experience those who are snobby & arrogant are usually compensating for something. And those who are always ārightā and refuse to listen to opposing points of view usually think theyāre smarter than they actually are.
If someone is truly intelligent they evaluate all options before coming to their own conclusion, and they still know that there is possibility that they could be wrong. That is true intelligence. I am not turned off by it.
Yeah but that's now how the real world works. The other person will have to be in the same or more intelligent to understand. Otherwise, no matter how politely you say stuff, it will always seem arrogant to other people. For example, a flat earther will always consider actual physicists arrogant, or an anti-vaxxer will always find actual biologists arrogant.
That is absolutely true
Why on Earth would anyone be turned OFF by intelligence? By the way, it's not intelligence that you are turned off by, but arrogance, which is NOT the same thing, not even remotely so.
I'm Sapiosexual, so I'm very attracted to intelligence. Arrogance is a whole other concept that any idiot can exude and that I don't tolerate regardless of their other qualities.
I become a little cautious, but I like being around intelligent people. There is no pressure on you!
But the attitude matters the most to me. Bossy people are not preferred by me.
If he acts like a know it all, its a turnoff. But if he just knows a lot and randomly teaches me about something, i find it so fascinating. I met some smart guys this year. Quite hot.
That isn't intelligence.
That is actually a lack of intelligence.
Intelligent people don't act like that
I like when someone is sweet & civil about it. But if they have a blunt brutally honest no bs mentality then I don't want to be around that shit. It's because honey attracts more bees than vinegar. The honey you can put in healthy foods so they taste better like plain yogurt. But vinegar is bitter tasting & only mess up your teeth. Don't be sweet like sugar because that's for you. but be sweet like honey. I don't if that's making any sense. I think it's all about the way they deliver it. You want someone you feel comfortable around, but you still want them to point it out when you're making a mistake.
To your update.
Educated people doesn't equal intelligence.
Educated people get arrogant
Intelligent people know they can always learn, they can think things through. They are creative, and can see things that people could imagine. These are signs of intelligence.
Education anyone can memorize things out of a book, people mistake education with intelligence. Plenty of very educated people with 0 common sense
"College-boy" intelligence or "actual introspective" intelligence.
The latter will turn me on.
The former will get you abused by me. Physically, emotionally, sexually, all of it.
i do like intelligent guys but if they constantly talk about being intelligent then i will get turned off lol.
No, not at all. Just so long as she's smart and humble about it.
No, intelligence is sexy and attractive. That's different from being a snob and arrogant. An arrogant snob is often not intelligent, they're ignorant.
Re your update...
An intelligent person recognizes when they are being perceived by others as being arrogant, and takes steps to change that perception.
Yes I am.
But the ones who are humble, kind and loyal, I don't mind. I don't like those showing off or talking loudly on purpose to stand out.
That isn't intelligence, that is arrogance, a trait some highly intelligent people have but that is unrelated to actual intelligence. I find intelligence attractive, but not arrogance.
Intelligence is a plus for me.
What you seem to be describing is a know it all. Thatās not intelligence.
I have to agree with @NathanDavis. It's not their intelligence, it's their attitude.
Turned off by intelligence? Not at all. Turned off by narcissism and narcissistic behavior? Absolutely.
Yes, I'm turned off by it too. What you describe is not intelligence. Intelligence and arrogance really go together like the human lungs and cigarette smoke.
Everyone's intelligent even though not everyone acts intelligent.
Being arrogant about it, then it can be a turn off for many but once you get older you realize how extremely vulnerable it is to be smart and make smart decisions in this life.
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That smart people who act arrogant because they are smart is a turn off.
Being smart is huge and very important because life is a series of decisions big and small so if you make stupid decisions your life will be much harder and bitter to live, make the right decisions and you will live a happy life.
Smart and humble is attractive. Acting like an arse isnāt.
No, unless it turns to arrogance and being cocky that seems off
What you wrote isn't called intelligence. It's arrogance.
No, actual intelligence is attractive.
yeah, i don't get those types of people. i hate arrogance unless it's playful
That isn't intelligence. At all. It is simply snobby arrogance. After all, even idiots can be arrogant
really "intelligent" people are rarely arrogant. cause knowlegde, wisdom and experience are quite humbling thigns.
Pseudo intelligence it's definitely a turn off. You can tell when someone is just using big words or if they actually know what they're talking about
If someone is THAT intelligent, hopefully they would have enough wisdom not to be jerks about USING their intelligence.
No, I find intelligence very attractive and sexy. Unfortunately, there are a lot of women who think men are turned off or threatened by their intelligence when it fact it is their personality and attitude that repulse men.
Ä°t's not Ä°ntelligence that turns us off in that case, it's Arrogance
No the opposite in cact. I think intelligence is one of the sexist traits there is.
I am turned off by people who BRAG about intelligence.
Iām not turned off by intelligence at all. But I agree arrogant people are really annoying. Also the people who think they know everything.
Of course not. You want your children to have every advantage and intelligent parents results in them inheriting those good genes.
Arrogance isn't attractive but intelligence can be, depends how people exercise the use of their intelligence.
That's not really a mark of intelligence and more of arrogance.
There is cerebral intelligence and then there is faux know-it-all intelligence. Too many people just practice the second variety.
Right, not so much intelligence you dislike so much as an insufferable, arrogant, and condescending attitude.
I am turned off by know it allās but not intelligence.
Noā¦ there is a big difference between intelligence and arrogance. The two are not synonymous.
Well the stuck ones yea, but i like those who are smart and willing to improve
Yes when they are like you said. Ill take a dumb girl over a smart girl that annoys the shit out of me any day.
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