Are you a Sapiosexual? Are you turned on by intelligence?

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StevieNix · Accepted Answer

Phys, I met a bus driver online. She was extremely bright. She said her IQ registered at the genius level. I believe it. I could throw her a slow pitch or a fast pitch, and she caught them all. She was the sharpest person I've ever met.

But she was dumb enough to wait until marriage for sex. Her reward for being a "good girl" was to go 20 years without an orgasm from her husband. He didn't think women should have those. Only sluts want an orgasm. Her hubby thought that oral sex was demonic as was any sexual position other than missionary. He got his three minutes of joy, and then went to sleep.

When their daughter died in a horrible accident, she dropped her husband like a hot potato. She now became a super slut to make up for lost time.

I was at work, and she was texting me her events during a one-night-stand.

*For fuck's sake, he wants to watch Netflix.
*I came here to fuck.
*Why do I always get these losers?
*He doesn't even realize I'm texting you.
*I'm about ready to leave.
*I have to work in the morning, and I'm not watching this stupid movie.

So he finally pulled his head out of his ass, and got down to business.

She gave him some simple instructions.

"Eat me until I tap on your shoulder, and then fuck me. That's how I like to orgasm."

Eat
Tap
Fuck

Do you think this sapiosexual could manage that? lol Nope.

So when she got dressed and was leaving, the guy said: "Can I see you again?"

No response from her.

So in direct response to your question... yes, unicorns are cool people.

DermalPunch · Accepted Answer

Oh absolutely! But I will also take proficiency in a specific area. For example, someone who isn't academic but say fixes watches and knows them inside and out. Has mastered something; particularly something with their hands. I love a man who uses his hands to earn a living.

I like raw intelligence coupled with grit and perseverance upon the hard knocks of life.

Pretentious academics that are condescending and pedantic are a HUGE turn off (even though my condescending pedantry game is next level).

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

No. I don't come across enough intelligent people to possibly expect that in someone, let alone a woman. I've met maybe, less than 20 intelligent people in my entire life and 90+% of them were men.

Also, I've never once in my life met a woman genuinely attracted to intelligence, because intelligent men won't put up with a woman's bullsh*t and knows how to outsmart or outdebate her, and because he's intelligent, she'll know he's right. Women NEVER like being proven wrong, let alone made to look foolish, even if unintentionally.

Also, not to toot my own horn, but I'm pretty intelligent myself when it comes to logic and critical thinking (not intelligent in EVERYTHING, just many things; before someone makes that fallacy; yes I can be wrong or dumb about SOME things). All the stuff I said above I have personal experience with. I've also never met a single woman on GAG who thought I was intelligent, let alone liked it (though considering how I act on GAG, I can't blame them; GAG is where I come to vent).

If a woman WERE to want an intelligent man, he'd also have to be a major simp. Way too many women, if not most, fear a man who's intelligent AND has a backbone, cause she knows she can't beat him in a contest of words. (Also, those men tend to stay single for a reason. I would know! 😂)

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

I put "other" because there is a certain type that turns me on. I love a woman who is quick witted, who is intelligent/wise, and who has her shit together.

But I put "other" because I also find a little bit of a space cadet to be cute and attractive as well. I have dated plenty of women who actually manage to balance this seeming paradox. Intelligent women, who are highly successful in academic studies and their careers, but at the same time can be a bit... I don't want to sound mean, because I think it's cute, but a bit of a dingbat. Like think of the nerdy type: they are really smart, but also in some ways a bit clueless.

Actually, the 1980s movie, "Clueless", is a great example. The lead, Alicia Silverstone, is drop dead gorgeous, and an airhead. But she is also pretty smart once you see a little deeper into her character. She just also has some naiveté that is attractive.

Are you a Sapiosexual? Are you turned on by intelligence?

MrOracle · Answer

I'm not (I find intelligence socially attractive, but not sexually attractive), but I have dated sapiosexual girls before.

WonderBell99 · Answer

Most people get turned on by looks than intelligence. I would by no means date a stupid guy who lacks the ability to decipher even the simplest of things. Intelligence is different from wisdom. He could be the most intelligent guy in this world and still treat me like trash. I like guys who are smart, mature and kind. I couldn't care less about his PhD degree or his IQ score.. I mean, good for him, I guess?

Intelligence is just a bonus. I like learning about new things. There ARE intelligent people who are nothing more than show-offs. I CANNOT tolerate them even for a minute.

Intelligence isn't restricted to academics though. There's book smart and street smart. I also like the street smart ones. I would be content with an average dude who treats me right, has common sense and can hold good conversations with me.

meetkitty123 · Answer

I am 100% I love book smart street smart nerdy skillful musical artistic. I just wrote a response to another question about attraction and explain this to be my weakness. I've written questions along the same line. In my profile I menstion about loving "mind" candy and beautiful minds.
I get sexually aroused when a man is building or creating something. Listening to a man explaining something technical or reading something scientific gets rather wet. I loose it if read poetry or played a musical instrument while engaged in sexual play.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Intelligence and education are pretty irrelevant to me, especially education.

About ~70 IQ is fine. Much below that and they might struggle to make their own way in the world.

Intelligent people are interesting. Low intelligence people can be interesting also, just in a different way. I grew up and lived most of my life around large numbers of engineers, scientists, etc. I also worked in engineering for many years. I'm just as content hanging out with lower intelligence people than those guys.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

A little bit. I'm usually just impressed by smart people, but sometimes a person can be really smart in a way that more turns me on. Which is kinda weird cause smarts isn't a gender thing, and I have had this happen with a couple dudes, but one instance of finding their smarts attractive doesn't do much. If it's a woman I already find attractive then high smarts can boost that, or it could pop the door if I didn't like her and I see her as attractive more in the future. My wife is studied in philosophy so yeah she has that going for her somewhat frequently.

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

not turned on sexually, but maybe romantically.. it certainly fascinates me when someone shows their intelligence and passion on topics which I find interesting. It make me want to spend more time and get to know the person better, but I would not say it turns me on and means I want sex with them. If that was the case I would probably have been into some of my smart girlfriends :D

TommyWiseau69 · Answer

I'm an intelligent person myself and often find myself surround by people that are not that intelligent. I've come across many women that are dumb as hell and its a turn off so yes an intelligent woman is hot AF as it matches me good too. I don't believe woman value intelligence over physical appearance. I'm not stupid but my height is 5'4. I've seen plenty of dumb as hell guys that come off as the biggest tools that are much taller than me like 5'10+ but seem to get the most attractive women.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I'm not turned on by intelligence, I'm turned on by looks, but stupidity is too annoying and problem causing to be around, so the hottest woman on earth can't keep me aroused if she's dumb. likewise the smartest person alive can't arouse me she's physically ugly. It's smarts and looks or nothing for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Women who call themselves sapiosexuals are a special kind of hypocrite.

If you were so horny for smart guys you’d be trolling the halls of physics departments hassling grad students in theoretical mathematics or some goddamn chemistry major developing new polymers.

But you don’t.

You want Jason Mamoa and Chris Hemsworth.👌

SkyCastle90 · Answer

Not in the slightest due to personal experience. Logically, it really depends on how self-aware and emotionally intelligent he/she is to be in a relationship with someone who is less schooled; I haven't had the pleasure to meet such a person.

Amy10223 · Answer

Yes, I am. I think a person who is intelligent is sexier and more desirable than someone who isn’t. It’s just the way I am—with one exception! If they look like the typical nerd, then it’s not so sexy. I’m talking about someone who looks goofy.

Anonymous · Answer

Heck’s yea. Idc if you’re attractive I could walk past you and not even care to look at you unless you conversed with me and talked to me about cool subjects and things that maybe I don’t even know about. If you’re enthusiastic about what you do for a living or a hobby you do (excluding cars) then you have me hooked.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think it's kind of weird to invent and turn any kind of standard into a sexual orientation.
That might be trendy but it's unnecessary and makes secxual orientation in itself look like a choice.
I generally prefer smart people because chances are higher to have good and interesting conversations with them.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

I'm turned on my intelligence, yes. Buuuuut I don't always date intelligent people. Well, they were sufficiently book smart, but lacked the real life wisdom needed to thrive alongside me.

fonduegirl · Answer

I'm turned on by people with raw emotions and unconventional wisdom. As long as a guy or girl is intelligent enough to hold a witty banter with me, I'm ready to drag them into my bedroom chambers. 😋

Moose304 · Answer

As a male, I EXPECT the women I hang around to have some intelligence. What is a turn-off is a woman that seems averse to using her brain. Search over my comments and you will see my turnoffs. Being a dummy is a big one!

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I'm not sure I could be in relationship with someone who was a complete airhead. Not all intelligence is academic, but I'd be really turned off by someone with who had no commonsense or not able to hold a decent conversation

normalice · Answer

Probably. That would explain why i masturbated six times a day every day until I finished grad school. And then it was eight times a day unto this day.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I think I'm more turned off by stupidity than turned on by intelligence.

CubsterShura · Answer

I find it attractive but not sexually. But I have dated a sapiosexual before and it was an interesting experience.

woman_2004 · Answer

No one: Me: Studying computer science in a class all males with glasses …👀

love_neptune · Answer

I'm not turned on by it :/ but I can see why people would be!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I am, yes. And another interesting thing I've found -- which just occurred to me last night, actually -- is that I'm also very much attracted to smart people for platonic purposes as well.

Anno2 · Answer

Nah, not having sex with some ugly chick because she scored high on an iq test.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Intelligence is attractive but it is not physically arousing. So not a sapiosexual?

Anonymous · Answer

Oh my god--this is just so much bullshit. It's the sort of thing that people made up because they think it sounds good or makes them seem deep or virtuous. All it really means is that they're full of shit.

Anonymous · Answer

Intelligence mixed with kindness. It doesn't matter how smart she is if she thinks she's smarter than others. "The only true wisdom is knowing you know nothing" -Socrates
A woman who intelligent, kind, and humble is very attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

OMG YES! My new guy has his own business and he's a genius and every time he opens his mouth I want to just... so yum x

slatyb · Answer

It's more like being turned off by a lack of intelligence.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

It's a good thing in general but not really a turn on... And that Pic is really giving me anxiety lol

loveslongnails · Answer

Intelligence is the biggest turn on of all, and finding that mixed with a strong libido and a body made for love is the ultimate gift!!

Anonymous · Answer

Like most men, I am very attracted to intelligent women. Unfortunately, many of the women who THINK they meet that description have really bad personalities and/or attituded toward men and heterosexual relationships.

EaterPeter · Answer

I don't think anyone can say no to that. If brain is sex organ, what happens if someone know how to stimulate you thoughtfully. Sing my name to me booby

Theequeenofconvo · Answer

Yes I love intelligence in a man 🥰 As long as he isn't conceited or over bearing with his knowledge

Wild_princess · Answer

Well yess... kind of... like who want to date a dumb person... you know what i mean...😅😅

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Sapioromantic is a better way to put it. Not everything is sexual. You know that right? There is romantic things too...

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I prefer dumb women who know that they are dumb. There's nothing more annoying than a twat who thinks she's smart enough to have an opinion on anything other than cooking or laundry.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

That's the most overused term, pretty much everyone finds intelligence attractive in a potential mate. Being attracted to intelligence is not a sexual identity.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not necessarily turned on if you mean sexually but I find very smart women extremely attractive.. A woman that is a idiot is a no go.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

we are cursed. since all smart people are know it alls other smart people that know different then us all seem like stupid cunts. i know so much differently that everyone seems like a stupid cunt. even the people i learned from.

anylolone · Answer

Yeah, bunch of bullshit. That sort of discourse has shot women in the foot so much that it's laughable.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

No. I like intelligence in a woman but I don't find it sexy by any means.

Valso · Answer

LOL, turned on - no. But intelligence definitely plays its role in my attraction to women.

clampfan101 · Answer

I certainly love intelligent women, but not in a sexual way. It’s just really cool.

TrueConfection · Answer

Yes! The smarter the sexier!

Shamalien · Answer

This isn’t a sexuality people need to stop with this shit. You like smart people. That’s it. You’re either straight gay or bi and you like smart people

Lunatic1 · Answer

Absolutely. Especially if it is not just book smarts, but street smarts as well.

hostboy__fastestlaps · Answer

Yes, I'm attracted to Bible readers and non-materialists

maximumpower · Answer

BUT intelligence is high on the list of must-haves. no smarts = no go.

Anonymous · Answer

Back in my day, we called this common sense, not a sexuality.

genericname85 · Answer

i'm turned by pussy and tits. brain stuff isn't needed in "sex". in relationship sure but not in sex.

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, I am. Nerdy women are the best.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, I love Asian women and I have no interest in white women. Do the math. 😆

Anonymous · Answer

No becoz I like good looks. Good looks simply mean good genetics.  No matter how intelligent she is if I don't find her physically attractive then I'm not really interested.

Anonymous · Answer

I would like to say yes but I’ve never met an intelligent woman who isn’t as cocky arrogant type

Anonymous · Answer

Intelligent women is a total turn-on for me. That's why I married one.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes 🙌.

Duck_Riddell · Answer

that pics weird. shouldn't be a thing. thats what made me say no

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I like intelligent women but intelligence doesn’t turn me on

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