Do you think it was rude what I said?

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I once gave this homeless men $20 and said to him afterwards “Please don’t spend the money on alcohol.”  I can’t be 100 percent sure but I think I may have embarrassed this man.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Whenever I give cash to people that need it, I don't say anything to them. When I give money I just say to myself that it's out of my hands now. They can do whatever they want with it, and then I hope for the best.
About giving a homeless person a gift card for a grocery store isn't something they can really use. They have no refrigerator, no stove or pots and pans, no microwave, etc. I say that because a homeless person told me that. Just sayin'. I think Walmart gift card would be better. They can buy food, or 🧦 socks, or whatever they really need.
To answer your question, I think it was kinda rude to put a stipulation on a gift. Even if he did by alcohol with the card, you may have saved his life if is an alcoholic. The DT's they go through from not having any alcohol for a long stretch of time could actually cause him to die
So, either way you did do a good thing trying to help this man.🌹

Buntyp · Accepted Answer

I think that you may have also embarrassed yourself more. Why should the "gift" come with conditions? Either give it or don't but expecting a guy who's obviously not at his proactive best to spontaneously go along with your plan is hugely naive.
If you really want to help, find an organization that has a support plan in action and donate the 20 bucks to them. I'm sure that, if you ask, they'll be able to assure you that the money won't be spent on alcohol.

007kingifrit · Accepted Answer

you had a right to say what you said it was a good thing to say. shame is an important part of a healthy society and discouraging people's bad actions is a civil responsibility

UniquelyBasic · Accepted Answer

I dont think it was rude but it didn't really need to be said. You could've just bought him food and gave it to him if you didn't trust him to not buy alcohol with the money.

Sour-rose · Answer

In a way, yeah. You just said to someone "Don't be a funkin' drunk and use this shit on poison. You got that? Ya stinkin' alcoholic."

Although with someone who has a problem with alcohol probably will hear that if you said that to them. :)

Surely · Answer

You are a bad stereotyping person!  Just kidding!!! If he took offense to your generous contribution to him. He should have given it back! Gift card was probably better than money.

Baylist1000 · Answer

It's not rude. But do make sure when you say it to someone it's the person who looks drunk. Cause some homeless people don't drink. They can be hurt if said to them

dolemite89 · Answer

i did the same thing but said don’t spend it on heroin and the guy threw my money back at me all pissed off 😂

Shamalien · Answer

You gave him 20 bucks. If he has a problem with your ask he can refuse it and go fick himself

OddBeMe · Answer

He doesn’t care he’s drunk. Why shouldn’t he spend it on what he wants?

Anonymous · Answer

For all you know he is in a 12 step program faithfully. Yes, they have those at homeless shelters.

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

Nope not at all... You are not rude at all.

mrkdvsn · Answer

You had every right to state your concerns to him

Girlygovroom · Answer

No, you’re fine

Subarugirl · Answer

Yes...

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