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Men are allowed to cry when:
1. A loved one (family member, friend, or pet) dies.
2. A man is in extreme physical pain, like getting shot by shotgun, for example.
3. Or when watching Old Yeller or Up.
That's it. (I'm half-joking here.)
It's definitely NOT an Alpha trait. But it doesn't make a man weak, either. Men are allowed to cry. It just needs to be on RARE occasions. Otherwise, it's potentially cowardly and a sign of fragility.
Most Women don't like when a man cries they see it as weak
As someone mentioned it already they even break up with them
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If it's with anyone other than your mom, dad, or wife in private or a funeral, that's weak, and will most likely be used against you later.
Crying is human. Nothing more, nothing less.
Technically no but in our society yea but that depends on a few things like:
-Why he's crying (if a dude has a good reason then he's obviously not a bitch. Like let's say he's 3 year old kid dies, no one's going to think he's pussy for that. Now if a guy cries because he got an F on a test that's um...)
-How he does it (like is he sobbing hysterically while making loud noises and whailing on the floor (excusable though if something really really really bad happened like your brother dying and no one can see you or you learned that at the instant) or is he really trying to keep his composure and let's out a few tears and wipes them right away if he's in public/ cries normally, in private while trying to keep low volume?)
- If it's in public or private, and if your doing it in front of someone, who they are (like if it's private and you got a reason i mean it's all good. if it's in front of some very close friends, longer term girlfriend or family that's also cool. if it's front of strangers, not very close friends, very recent girlfriend, acquaintances, unless you got a good reason and it makes sense that you can't really hold it all back then it's a bit...
It's sad the amount of people who think crying makes a man weak. Men are human. Humans have emotions. Some of those emotions make people want to cry. Holding back tears to conform to the idea it displays weakness can have negative long term affects on mental health. I'm not saying we should cry over every little thing. But there are situations in life that are worth shedding tears over. Real men cry when necessary. I dont give a damn what anyone thinks. I went through a divorce and was devastated about my family no longer being whole and I was an emotional wreck for several months. I cried many times, sometimes In front of people. Does that make me less of a man? Hell no. If you can't cry over your family or the loss of a 10 year love than what kind of man are you? I can't imagine how much harder it would have been on my mental health had I decided to suppress those emotions simply because some idiots don't think its socially acceptable or somehow makes you less of a man. I've cried at funerals. I've teared up over certain movies. I've teared up over certain situations involving my kids. I personally think that this stigma and belief that men shouldn't cry leads a lot of guys into suppressing emotions and that's unhealthy. By all means men, let go of that stigma. Allow yourself to have emotions sometimes. Real men don't give a shit what people think. And Real men don't judge another man for showing emotion. They offer them condolences and emotional support. Because we're all humans and we all need that sometimes.
Women say they want a man to express emotions but in practice most women are completely turned off when a man does.
The love they feel might be more nurturing and motherly if they feel positively about it at all, but that's not what men want them to feel, and it's virtually impossible for a woman to be turned on or sexually excited by a man she feels needs her care and attention while she's watching him cry.
This is one reason why people say that women don't know what they want.
It's not THAT a man might cry. It's what drives him to do it, and how easily.
A man whose girlfriend just died of Huntington's disease, and he needs to let the emotions out, has a free pass. He can still be considered strong. Especially if he waits until he's alone to let it out.
A man who still can't get over November 2016, because he wanted that war criminal bitch who blew Libya back to the Stone Age for all the wrong reasons to win instead, and who fills every place he goes with obscenities and blasphemy, all because he's still that epic a sore loser... is weak. And also extremely mentally ill. These kind are to be found on Facebook. They give themselves away quickly; because they ignore the plain testimony of their own eyes, just to regurgitate whatever AOC says as if it were gospel truth.
no it does not make him weak men have a right to shed tears to just as much as women to me men that shed tears have more of a emotional side and aren't scared to show there true feelings and not be scared of being branded a pussy by a self hearted guy he knows or a friends everyonre crys and men are not pussys if they cry they have a heart and know they can be themselves that way i hate men that hide there emotions the sweeter the more i see how much he is able to not be scared of love and affection and be his true self and heart touched especially when it comes to loving the women he loves
It's biology. Women don't care about your problems. If you need to be vulnerable go to your boys and have some drinks and let it out. Don't bring that shit to your woman. It will turn them off and dry them up like the Sahara.
Thanks me later.
Neither. I mean, I'd feel weak if I cried. I hate the stereotype that only men have any emotional dignity.
Anyway, I'd just treat him how I'd want to be treated. Respect that his masculinity was just shattered and not do anything patronizing like giving him sympathy in public. Or even in private, since I'd take that as a, 'girls-always-want-sympathy' type thing if it were me. So untrue. And I'd hate it, so, no go.
I'd basically pretend I didn't see him. Don't care if I come off as cold. That would be the kindest thing you could do to me were I in that situation.
From a Spiritual Standpoint
We are both yin and Yang
We can choose what to have more or less if we want to be more manly then we can be less empathetic
If we want to be more feminine
Then we can identify with the female aspect of the yin Yang ☯️
If you lack the complete understanding of all the parts of the brain 🧠 and it’s functions regarding emotions and how and why psychopathic Traits can develop or become more or less
Then you would not understand and there would be no point on trying to understand it it’s not something that you can learn in a week or a Year it would take years for you to understand how emotions and control and all the parts of the brain affect one another because understanding all that requires you to become Your Research.
Weak, crying is a things but crying while being hide if you end up bursting in tears in front of everyone it's far from being manly...(no matter what some people would like to say).
If I had a boyfriend and he cried in front of me I would think of him as weak and think less of him. Only time I find it ok it's if they win the world cup.
m I wouldn't call it alpha. But a men not showing emotions because it seems week is as far as I know more a thing men think (from all of these questions and what the results say here too). I think its just human to show emotions and not weak. I would kinda call it good because it takes away that "I allways need to be strong because..." which often seems a thought of a lot of guys seem to have. Also if you dont show emotions how can you expect to receive support by others? We can't read thoughts.
The modern term for men who show weakness like that is incel. Men, if you must , do it privately.
I remember running down a hill when I was four or five, I fell and hit my head hard, it started to bleed.
I got up, didn't make a sound and walked home. One of the older kids, a teenager came up to me and said he was impressed I didn't cry.
I just thought of the shame and ridicule I'd get if my mom or sister saw my cry.
Nope, I won't cry at a funeral.
Lesson learned.
No such thing as “alpha male” in human civilization. If a man is man enough to cry, he’s extremely privileged, especially if he can cry publicly. Men are still universally viewed as weak and damaged when we cry. It instantly and permanently damages your social status among other men AND women. That’s an indisputable fact. So he has to have accomplished a great deal that can’t be taken away or torn down to pull off a public cry. I honestly don’t know if that’s possible in western civilization.
Most women will say yes crying makes a man weak. I think is the opposite because it does take a lot of courage to be vulnerable and show ourselves as we are especially when it’s a norm to no be vulnerable. If a man cries, expresses his emotions, it only shows 2 things to me: 1) he knows himself very well and is not afraid of showing who he is even if is he, 2) he has the maturity to deal with criticism and is not afraid of breaking society norms.
Women tend not to like a man when he cries or shows emotions. I recall hearing about a woman who broke up with a guy because he cried at the funeral.
I think men have to be strong. There is so much evil and cruelty in this world, people are so broken…acting out their traumas and perpetuating these terrible cycles forever. I could cry all day. Better to suck it up and spend my time taking right action instead
Unfortunately yes, its not fair to men, it causes all kinds of mental anguish and depression but I can't be with a weak man, and one that cries is worse. Thats why i treat my man like a king he gets me when ever he needs me in all ways emotionally sexually and physically. I bow to him for what he does for me.
I dunno. I tried not to but i cried hard after my grandmas funeral yesterday Nobody thought less of me. My wife is still here so its not like ahe bailed on me because im some fat pussy. The idea that a man crying is "weak" is subjective. As long as he is not a whiny sensitive tool, a man crying is in fact quite normal.
I usually have no idea what to do when a guy cries, I don't have much experience with it but I don't see as a weak thing, nor Alpha thing. It's a natural thing/response to certain events.
I would rather have a man who isn't afraid to show his emotions than to be stoic all the time.
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