Here are the only times a man can cry without losing face:
- at a funeral - at a wedding (when he’s the groom) - at the end of his athletic career, but only after a win. - when his child is born. - when getting news of a death in the family or close friend. Death of pet is very borderline. - recalling a PTSD incident in the military or law enforcement. An element of violence and harm is mandatory in this scenario. - in a moment of extreme hard earned accomplishment. It must of been a success.
Now crying at virtually EVERYTHING else is unacceptable. Men will get judged in the following scenarios but women will get a free pass:
- getting romantically rejected. No matter how bad it is (she cheated and/or leaves you after all your hard work loyalty) - getting in a argument with a loved one who resorts to below the belt cheap shots (attacking your character, position in life, etc.) - being physically harmed outside of military/law enforcement combat. - getting overwhelmed and crushed at work - getting verbally assaulted by anybody - confessing you love somebody (especially bad) - getting arrested whether you are guilty or not. - losing a hard fought contest. This is often true in sports but also true in work, contests, etc. - being bullied - just out of sadness/depression.
I’ve cried in almost all of these scenarios at one point in my life. I lost respect from people almost every single time this happened. The absolute worst is when my love interest lost respect for me. A man will get friend zoned or ejected every single time if he does this (unless he is a celebrity or very rich)
I truly believe that women have less respect for emotional men than OTHER MEN DO
And you know I’m actually okay with this double standard as long as women/progressives would just STFU about telling men it’s okay to be sensitive.
Women have this attitude that it’s okay for any man to be sensitive, just as long it’s not the guy they are dating. Let that sink in.
Due to society it's highly frowned upon, but Society itself is a mess. Men are humans too, men have emotions, men should Express them. And if you are a man and you do not express your emotions, such as crying, then you are actually indeed a coward, due to the fact that you cannot properly express your emotions, especially in the eyes of others. Cry behind closed doors, but do not be afraid to show how you really feel. In my strong opinion anybody who says otherwise, Brown noses mainstream Society and cannot think for themselves.
I don't know, But, let me tell you my experience, i like this robot, he says he doesn't have any emotions, and never show any. Well one thing is for sure that i don't like this (non emotional attitude), i think he should show some emotional side, once in a while.
TBH, no one like any person (Male or female) if they CRY just TOO much, but I can assure you that when a man cry, it is not that big of a deal (because he will definitely MAN-UP, like any other human being)
Another thing, we all have glands to secret tears in our eyes, that is there for some reason, the reason is to CRY, so yeah MAN CAN CRY, because crying, in-front of any girl/person show their degree of trust for that person.
Depends on why he is crying for. But if he cried in the proper situation like you said, I would find it attractive or ok, but certainly not unattractive.
It wouldn't like I'm happy because someone is sad, but more like I would feel this guy trust me if he let me see him beign vulnerable. Plus showing emotions makes a person to look more human.
Absolutely not. It's good to have the appropriate emotions for certain situations. It's not healthy to hold it all in, and I'd much rather see a guy who is genuine and not afraid to show his emotions than one who is trying to act macho and emotionless or insensitive.
@CaptainSmartass mine too 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 if my own family gets mad at me for not criying when family members die , i feel like a loooooser when i cry booooooooooooo👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎i hate criying😊 its better to hold things inside it makes my heart colder i love that, I've some ones is criying i leave i can't stand it 😊
@Sufferesin2000 To be honest, I used to feel the same way about crying and still really don't like to cry in front of people, though for some reason around the time I hit 20 (and also when I got off of the antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications that made me an emotionally numb zombie), I lost all control of the waterworks and now I cry/tear up so much more easily than I used to.
Similar situation to mine i also took antidepressant pills and and anti anxiety medication in my late teens, but once I srarted to feel like a zombie goodby😊. Hello niquil and beer😊😘😁👍👍👍 i always lied about taking my medication😁😂 because i was so quiet they thought i did😊. I probably only too medication for like 5 months from like 2001 to 2006 looooooser psychiatrist always believed it😊😁😁😁😁😂😊
Extremely attractive. Men should feel free to cry in situations like when a family members passes or the dog he had for 15 years has to be put asleep or he's worried about getting laid off from a job during a recession or overwhelmed with a truck load of work. Everyone has a breaking point. It is better to let it out than have it affect one's health.
that's not bad though it definitely helps to be serious, it's way more productive, but I find it kind of odd you'd be attracted to the emotional type. For me it seems my life is just off the rails half the time i can't take it serious anymore or I'll crash and burn.
In relationship, "mostly false with some exceptions".
Man who cries on first date will be viewed as "too sensitive".
But in a lasting relationship, a man can be more relatable to his partner in the long run... if he can show a vulnerable side now and then. Just not too often, no woman likes a cry-baby.
Personally, I think every man should get one solid cry per month. Then after he gets all that off his chest, and he's been nourished in support by his partner, then he gets up the following day, and gets back on his mission and purpose with no further breakdowns or outbursts (unless something terrible happens to merit a strong emotional response).
There's a related point in here about how "attraction theory" and "attachment theory" interpret male crying. According to attraction theory, women just want the best genetics and manly protection/ power that a man can provide. So any sign of weakness is basically compelling her to go find a superior male to shoot his baby seed right up in her baby maker. Attachment theory posits that once a woman's found an acceptable mate, and has bonded with him sufficiently... then the emotional bond and attachment itself becomes a "glue" in her relationship.
Attraction theory and attachment theory can both co-exist, as they both show their own respective side of the same coin. People follow what attracts them, sure. But we also tend to stick to that which attaches to us.
So if you look at male crying through an integrated lens of attraction + attachment, then the formula might look something like:
Man cries = (woman's attraction temporarily goes down + her attachment goes UP) = she feels closer to him emotionally, which makes him feel better about the triggering situation or emotion causing him to cry = he gets back on his feet faster = he can get back to doing things that raise his woman's attraction again = woman's attraction goes back up, whilst keeping the raised attachment level
There are limited situations where it could be positive, but there isn't a good enough reason to risk it. Better to just shrug is off, bottle things up, mete out vulnerability in small doses, because many women often find it repulsive.
Not that it's a good thing to bottle everything up all the time, it's just that even though that's not necessarily good, that still doesn't mean that it's practical to let out all that negativity. Women might complain that you're not being as emotionally open as they would like, but that's fine, let her complain a bit, better to err on the side of caution.
True. A while ago when I was going through a really stressful time, I got really overwhelmed with emotion, not to the point of crying but to the point where I wasn't thinking clearly and a girl, to my face, said that girls don't like emotional guys. Yes, she was a cunt who had issues herself, but that didn't make it any less true. So, guys should be really wary about who they open up to, because, despite all the supportive words from the women here, experience tells me their actions seldom line up with their words.
I've seen this question many times, and it always bugs me how all the girls swear up and down how they'd like him even more if he cried.
Maybe you truly believe that, I don't know, but anytime a guy shows weakness to a girl she takes advantage of it, that's how it seems. TBH, anytime a human shows weakness to another human, they take advantage of it, regardless of gender, that's kind of how it seems the world works.
But women are expected to be a bit weaker so us guys give you a pass sometimes XD
False! When i see boys cry, it honestly kinda makes me think "awww". It makes me want to comfort them and actually makes me like them more. Bc it shows that they have a heart too. Sometimes i feel like a lot of boys are too afraid to show share emotions and it kinda makes some girls feel intimadated and not like them as much. We're all human! It's ok to show emotion. You guys don't have to be so strong and tough acting all the time.
In a proper situation, there is nothing wrong w/ a male crying. Somethings touch a nerve &/or push them pass their limits. I would look at other people differently if they thought he needed to 'suck it up' & move on. If they aren't aloud to express their tears through the major crisis they're dealing with, then eventually they will be numb to their own feelings. Don't be suprised if you never get any expressions from him or zero concern for whats going on around him.
A woman looks to her man to be her emotional rock. The last thing she would ever want is to have him breaking down into tears every time she does.
The truth is that a woman instantly loses respect for a man if he shows weakness. Sure, they'll tell you they want to see that, but that's only because they think you should be like them. When and if you are it instantly registers in their brain. And you ain't never coming back from it.
Depends on why he's crying. If he's crying cause he fell down or cut his finger or crying cause he lost in a video game then yea it can be a huge turn off. If its for something very serious like the loss of a loved one then i can definitely understand and it won't make him seem less manly.
Unfortunately goverment try to feminize men so they can be weak and controllable also that supports their decreasing population agenda. If men become weak women wouldn't desire them anymore. So here we go.
Believing that men should swallow their emotions or that they shouldn't even have these kinds of emotions - THAT's what makes someone unattractive. This kind of mindset. Absolutely disgusting and toxic, from both men and women alike.
I think it's manifestation of love and trust me I mean a man or a women if cry in front in their partner or friend because crying is an express of Confusion about the moment of fatigue , weakness , pain and if someone shared these feelings, it means that he trusts me and loves me and I will appreciate it from other point crying means that he has feelings and that he is a human and this is something I look for in any human being close to me, I do not like A person with frozen feelings
False. I love a guy with emotion and if they cry often, I'd love that because I'd sit there and cry with them. Let a guy cry like women with the ugly crying without being judged
Not at all. If anything, it’s more “attractive” to me. It shows me he has feelings and isn’t afraid to express them. That maybe he’s more sensitive. I tend to go after more unconventional guys
I find a guy far more attractive when they show their feelings in appropriate situations, I can’t stand guys who have this whole, ‘manly’ persona and don’t ever tell anyone or show anyone how they feel x
I feel like a loooooooooooooooooooser when i cry, nooooooooooooooooooooooo i despise criying i haven't cried in 17 years😊 and hopefully i won't break that record soon nooooooooo😊
This is why people ‘men’ in particular have problems in relationships because girls talk a lot more about how the feel etc and men keep it bottled up! It’s no fun being on the other side x
😊nooooooo thumbs down to criying and talking about feelings 👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎👎talking about fellings warms my freezing heart nooooooooo more thumbs down noooooo😁😘
For the most part, true. Men are almost never rewarded for outward emotional displays, positive or negative. A guy who is too "happy" in appearance is seen as annoying. One is too sad is seen as either pathetic or depressing. We are rewarded for emotional restraint, but that's not a bad thing. Decisions rooted in emotion are never sound decisions, so the less you let them run rampant the fewer poor decisions you will make.
Depends on the situation. If he's crying about personal issues I'd want him to lean on me. But if there's a psycho pointing a gun at us, that's not exactly a moment in which either of us should be crying.
Men are human. They have emotions. It's quite toxic & harmful to think they should just keep it all stuffed in. Definitely, prefer a guy who's not afraid to show his emotions. (that includes crying.)
False. Everyone has feelings (I think) and everyone needs to express those feelings at some point. It would be unattractive if a guy just sat there trying to hold it all in as if I'll laugh at him or something.
If I see a man crying I may ask him , why he is crying and then I might cry with him ! for I like it when a man cries for that is what God made tear ducts for
What do you mean "proper situations"? I can only imagine one type of situations in which crying would be acceptable. Unless something horrible happens, crying in front of your girl should not be an option. If you must cry about trivial matters, then do so when no one can see you. But you can as well transform that into anger and let it out in a healthy and more beneficial way. Go for a run. Go to the gym.
I hate crying over all i Have suppressed thousands of feelings for years now. I feel dumb , criying, and its worthless i hate problems, crying makes me feel like a loooser, but over all im nice i think😊
Yup I learnt early on if your a man who shows too much emotion all the women in your life will without fail abandon you, women think they like an emotional man but when it actually happens they disappear quickly
Pfffffffft “mentally unhealthy to hold in emotions” how? Who made u a doctor, u fag? like’ u know anything about health and shit. Pft ye right, u crack me up
No, not at all. Might if he's throwing a tantrum over literally nothing like "bohoo now I'll miss my favorite show on the television" but as long as it's understandable it's absolutely fine to cry.
Listen if my nigga crying believe when I say I gonna be comforting him letting him know it's alright cause we all have feelings and we gonna go through all our shit together. 💯‼️❤️
I had a guy cry in front of me at work last week. He was in kind of a bad situation and I just felt bad for him. Didn’t think he was unattractive or anything, just having a bad day.
No not like that. I work in a ranger station at a national park and he was a backpacker. The weather here got his gear all wet and he had to quit his trip and didn’t have a way back to his car. He hadn’t slept in a couple days and was becoming hypothermic at night. He was asking me if I could help him in anyway.
There are times when it is absolutely proper to shed a tear or two. But, a woman wants a stable rock, someone she can sob on his shoulder and not have him break down too.
So are we talking "those chrisanthimums complement those orchids so damn well" or are we talking full blown meltdown from watching 'the fault in our stars'?
Depends on why they're crying. If they got sad and cried them it's fine but if they went in the fire and couldnt handle the heat then I'll probably laugh at them.
I know that there's no room for it in the Army infantry. We don't give two shits about your feelings. You're in the wrong profession if you're an emotional person. It's considered tough and masculine for a guy to man up and just deal with it.
"proper situation" can mean anything. Everyone has emotions. The following may not be the case biologically, but men crying should be no less attractive than women crying in theory, if we should be treated equally.
They should be but their not. This isn’t going to change because women are hardwired in their DNA to seek strong men. Crying is a sign of weakness 80 percent of them time.
It's good for you BUT there's no faster way to turn off a woman than crying with her being around. This is also a shit test you can give her at the risk of the relationship. Pick your poison.
Women have rated confidence as one of their highest rated attributes in a man. In some cases, crying displays confidence. In others, it's a sign of weakness.
The one time I got an unsolicited compliment on my appearance by a girl was when I was asking about the mornin of a pet so maybe girls think it makes a guy more attractive?
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