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Due to society it's highly frowned upon, but Society itself is a mess. Men are humans too, men have emotions, men should Express them. And if you are a man and you do not express your emotions, such as crying, then you are actually indeed a coward, due to the fact that you cannot properly express your emotions, especially in the eyes of others.
Cry behind closed doors, but do not be afraid to show how you really feel. In my strong opinion anybody who says otherwise, Brown noses mainstream Society and cannot think for themselves.0
I don't know, But, let me tell you my experience, i like this robot, he says he doesn't have any emotions, and never show any. Well one thing is for sure that i don't like this (non emotional attitude), i think he should show some emotional side, once in a while.
TBH, no one like any person (Male or female) if they CRY just TOO much, but I can assure you that when a man cry, it is not that big of a deal (because he will definitely MAN-UP, like any other human being)
Another thing, we all have glands to secret tears in our eyes, that is there for some reason, the reason is to CRY, so yeah MAN CAN CRY, because crying, in-front of any girl/person show their degree of trust for that person.0
Depends on why he is crying for. But if he cried in the proper situation like you said, I would find it attractive or ok, but certainly not unattractive.
It wouldn't like I'm happy because someone is sad, but more like I would feel this guy trust me if he let me see him beign vulnerable. Plus showing emotions makes a person to look more human.0
Absolutely not. It's good to have the appropriate emotions for certain situations. It's not healthy to hold it all in, and I'd much rather see a guy who is genuine and not afraid to show his emotions than one who is trying to act macho and emotionless or insensitive.5
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Extremely attractive. Men should feel free to cry in situations like when a family members passes or the dog he had for 15 years has to be put asleep or he's worried about getting laid off from a job during a recession or overwhelmed with a truck load of work. Everyone has a breaking point. It is better to let it out than have it affect one's health.30
I consider it a bit of a turn on but I am totally insane.107
In early courtship, "true".
In relationship, "mostly false with some exceptions".
Man who cries on first date will be viewed as "too sensitive".
But in a lasting relationship, a man can be more relatable to his partner in the long run... if he can show a vulnerable side now and then. Just not too often, no woman likes a cry-baby.
Personally, I think every man should get one solid cry per month. Then after he gets all that off his chest, and he's been nourished in support by his partner, then he gets up the following day, and gets back on his mission and purpose with no further breakdowns or outbursts (unless something terrible happens to merit a strong emotional response).
There's a related point in here about how "attraction theory" and "attachment theory" interpret male crying. According to attraction theory, women just want the best genetics and manly protection/ power that a man can provide. So any sign of weakness is basically compelling her to go find a superior male to shoot his baby seed right up in her baby maker. Attachment theory posits that once a woman's found an acceptable mate, and has bonded with him sufficiently... then the emotional bond and attachment itself becomes a "glue" in her relationship.
Attraction theory and attachment theory can both co-exist, as they both show their own respective side of the same coin. People follow what attracts them, sure. But we also tend to stick to that which attaches to us.
So if you look at male crying through an integrated lens of attraction + attachment, then the formula might look something like:
Man cries = (woman's attraction temporarily goes down + her attachment goes UP) = she feels closer to him emotionally, which makes him feel better about the triggering situation or emotion causing him to cry = he gets back on his feet faster = he can get back to doing things that raise his woman's attraction again = woman's attraction goes back up, whilst keeping the raised attachment level0
There are limited situations where it could be positive, but there isn't a good enough reason to risk it. Better to just shrug is off, bottle things up, mete out vulnerability in small doses, because many women often find it repulsive.
Not that it's a good thing to bottle everything up all the time, it's just that even though that's not necessarily good, that still doesn't mean that it's practical to let out all that negativity. Women might complain that you're not being as emotionally open as they would like, but that's fine, let her complain a bit, better to err on the side of caution.0
True. A while ago when I was going through a really stressful time, I got really overwhelmed with emotion, not to the point of crying but to the point where I wasn't thinking clearly and a girl, to my face, said that girls don't like emotional guys. Yes, she was a cunt who had issues herself, but that didn't make it any less true. So, guys should be really wary about who they open up to, because, despite all the supportive words from the women here, experience tells me their actions seldom line up with their words.0
I've seen this question many times, and it always bugs me how all the girls swear up and down how they'd like him even more if he cried.
Maybe you truly believe that, I don't know, but anytime a guy shows weakness to a girl she takes advantage of it, that's how it seems. TBH, anytime a human shows weakness to another human, they take advantage of it, regardless of gender, that's kind of how it seems the world works.
But women are expected to be a bit weaker so us guys give you a pass sometimes XD0
False! When i see boys cry, it honestly kinda makes me think "awww". It makes me want to comfort them and actually makes me like them more. Bc it shows that they have a heart too. Sometimes i feel like a lot of boys are too afraid to show share emotions and it kinda makes some girls feel intimadated and not like them as much. We're all human! It's ok to show emotion. You guys don't have to be so strong and tough acting all the time.0
In a proper situation, there is nothing wrong w/ a male crying. Somethings touch a nerve &/or push them pass their limits. I would look at other people differently if they thought he needed to 'suck it up' & move on. If they aren't aloud to express their tears through the major crisis they're dealing with, then eventually they will be numb to their own feelings. Don't be suprised if you never get any expressions from him or zero concern for whats going on around him.0
A woman looks to her man to be her emotional rock. The last thing she would ever want is to have him breaking down into tears every time she does.
The truth is that a woman instantly loses respect for a man if he shows weakness. Sure, they'll tell you they want to see that, but that's only because they think you should be like them. When and if you are it instantly registers in their brain. And you ain't never coming back from it.11
Depends on why he's crying. If he's crying cause he fell down or cut his finger or crying cause he lost in a video game then yea it can be a huge turn off. If its for something very serious like the loss of a loved one then i can definitely understand and it won't make him seem less manly.22
Believing that men should swallow their emotions or that they shouldn't even have these kinds of emotions - THAT's what makes someone unattractive. This kind of mindset. Absolutely disgusting and toxic, from both men and women alike.30
I think it's manifestation of love and trust me I mean a man or a women if cry in front in their partner or friend because crying is an express of
Confusion about the moment of fatigue , weakness , pain and if someone shared these feelings, it means that he trusts me and loves me and I will appreciate it from other point crying means that he has feelings and that he is a human and this is something I look for in any human being close to me, I do not like A person with frozen feelings10
False. I love a guy with emotion and if they cry often, I'd love that because I'd sit there and cry with them. Let a guy cry like women with the ugly crying without being judged30
Not at all. If anything, it’s more “attractive” to me. It shows me he has feelings and isn’t afraid to express them. That maybe he’s more sensitive. I tend to go after more unconventional guys30
Women say it makes a man more attractive.
However I have never seen a someone who wants to deal with the pent up emotions of men.
From what I have seen they often just leave as they don't want to get involved.
You may be different but this is just my experiences.0
I find a guy far more attractive when they show their feelings in appropriate situations, I can’t stand guys who have this whole, ‘manly’ persona and don’t ever tell anyone or show anyone how they feel x16
For the most part, true. Men are almost never rewarded for outward emotional displays, positive or negative. A guy who is too "happy" in appearance is seen as annoying. One is too sad is seen as either pathetic or depressing. We are rewarded for emotional restraint, but that's not a bad thing. Decisions rooted in emotion are never sound decisions, so the less you let them run rampant the fewer poor decisions you will make.0
Depends on the situation. If he's crying about personal issues I'd want him to lean on me. But if there's a psycho pointing a gun at us, that's not exactly a moment in which either of us should be crying.0
If he cried every day, then yes that says something about him that might not be so attractive. But it's probably important that a guy cries sometimes.40
Men are human. They have emotions. It's quite toxic & harmful to think they should just keep it all stuffed in. Definitely, prefer a guy who's not afraid to show his emotions. (that includes crying.)0
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Here are the only times a man can cry without losing face:
- at a funeral
- at a wedding (when he’s the groom)
- at the end of his athletic career, but only after a win.
- when his child is born.
- when getting news of a death in the family or close friend. Death of pet is very borderline.
- recalling a PTSD incident in the military or law enforcement. An element of violence and harm is mandatory in this scenario.
- in a moment of extreme hard earned accomplishment. It must of been a success.
Now crying at virtually EVERYTHING else is unacceptable. Men will get judged in the following scenarios but women will get a free pass:
- getting romantically rejected. No matter how bad it is (she cheated and/or leaves you after all your hard work loyalty)
- getting in a argument with a loved one who resorts to below the belt cheap shots (attacking your character, position in life, etc.)
- being physically harmed outside of military/law enforcement combat.
- getting overwhelmed and crushed at work
- getting verbally assaulted by anybody
- confessing you love somebody (especially bad)
- getting arrested whether you are guilty or not.
- losing a hard fought contest. This is often true in sports but also true in work, contests, etc.
- being bullied
- just out of sadness/depression.
I’ve cried in almost all of these scenarios at one point in my life. I lost respect from people almost every single time this happened. The absolute worst is when my love interest lost respect for me. A man will get friend zoned or ejected every single time if he does this (unless he is a celebrity or very rich)
I truly believe that women have less respect for emotional men than OTHER MEN DO
And you know I’m actually okay with this double standard as long as women/progressives would just STFU about telling men it’s okay to be sensitive.
Women have this attitude that it’s okay for any man to be sensitive, just as long it’s not the guy they are dating. Let that sink in.