If a man cries all the time, would that make him less manly?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend cries a lot ( when he express his feelings, watching movies)

So does this make him less manly or would his manliness get affected by this?

[_Maya_]

Sounds like he is just more sensitive than most guys. The question is really for you tho. It shouldn't matter what I or anyone else things. Do YOU find it less manly that he is like that? Does it effect the way you look at him? That is all that really matters because none of us or people around you really have to deal with it. You do. So if it is something that bothers you then you have to think if you can put up with that in a relationship. All I can say is that I personally haven't met a guy like your boyfriend that gets overly emotional like that at simple things like movies and whatnot. So hard for me to say how I personally would react to a guy like him.

[Truthatanycost]

https://www.foxnews.com/health/cry-me-a-river-why-men-and-women-shed-different-tears

From the above website: ''One hormone in tears is prolactin, a lactation catalyst. Just as it helps to produce milk, prolactin also aids in tear production. By the time women reach 18, they have 50 percent to 60 percent higher levels of prolactin in their bloodstream than men do.

"We believe this is one of the reasons that women cry more easily," Frey says.''

We are different to women. We even have physically different tear ducts and testosterone makes it more difficult to cry. I will let you come to the conclusion as to whether it makes him less manly. But the fact you felt the need to ask here says a lot...

[NamerOfStars]

Of course not- but it WILL make you see him that way. It's an unfortunate biological reality that your hypergamous instincts push you to seek out a man with no human weaknesses or vulnerabilities. It's also a reality, and may be the saving of you, that you're a thinking being, rather than an unreasoning beast controlled by her instincts, and it's within your power to tell them to sit down and shut up because YOU are the one in charge, and this is your man, who you care about, not some abstract source of resources and protection.

You have the ability; whether you the courage and the inclination is entirely up to you.

[Anonymous]

honestly yes unless he's mentally ill (cos that's not his normal state). people who cry all the time esp dudes probably have depression or something going on

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I think it depends on whether it's counter-productive or not. It's strange to me if a man cries a lot watching movies but that doesn't seem counter-productive. It might even be healthy for him.

What I don't find productive, with or without tears, are people (both men and women) who endlessly complain and dwell on their problems, throwing tantrums and fits. Such people, male or female, are very emotionally immature as I see it.

If your boyfriend doesn't do that and still thinks very positively or productively, I don't see a big deal even though it's a little strange to me.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

The dangerous sign of immaturity to me in both men and women is when they're very easily upset by small things, when they're prone to take things personally which wasn't even about them, etc.

Whether the symptoms manifest in tears or anger or just endless complaining isn't so important to me; what's important and in need of correction is the underlying negative thought patterns. If someone is inclined to think very negatively and counter-productively all the time, that's the ultimate sign of immaturity and a distinguishing factor between "boys" and "men", "girls" and "women", or just "children" vs. "adults".

But I don't see any problem with tears that aren't accompanied by such negative patterns.

[Anonymous]

It depends. Sure most women are ok w a man crying if he cries over the death of a loved one or something. But most women who say they want an emotional man eventually realize they don’t. Especially if he’s supposed to take charge. Except for some situations I don’t think a man should ever cry in front of his girl. Sure she may say I’m ok w it but there’s a breaking point when it comes to crying in front of women. At some point they’re going to lose respect for him. They just don’t know at what point that is. Some women may be a little more tolerant of how much a man cries, but she doesn’t know exactly where she draws that line until it happens. By than it’s too late, she’s no longer attracted to him. Does this bother you that he cries in those situations,

[Summeroflove]

To the extreme it’s norm normal. I think if someone truly loves someone though they can be vulnerable and express emotion. A wife that doesn’t comfort her husband creates shaking knees.


Now. If someone’s crying to a excess maybe there is something more going on. If you can’t tolerate his crying. Then do both of yourselves a favor. Maybe just break it off. If you don’t want to hurt him and you aren’t happy. Maybe you need to talk to other people

[aceleon]

i cry at movies too but aside from that i never cry if i didn't lost anyone.
maybe not less manly but would absolutly make him stupid for crying infront of a girl.

[exitseven]

I grew up in a time when guys did not cry. They were sissies if they did. I think that you have to integrate your feelings into your life. Evolution put them there for a reason

[abc3643]

Only you can and SHOULD determine the answer to this question. His "manliness" is dictated by you since he is YOUR boyfriend and no one else's.

[OtterMan68]

it's not exactly masculine to cry that often.
I've cried during movies: Schindler's List had me a weepy mess, but I'd say I don't cry more than a few times a month at most

[catsmemoir]

Any adult who cries all the time is odd and probably poorly socialized. We tend to judge men more harshly for it, which makes sense.

[DaBiggestBird]

If this is a Demon Slayer Zenitsu situation then yes absolutely

[Anonymous]

There is a time and place for emotions to be shown and a time when it shouldn't be.

For me a general rule of thumb is a good time to be emotional is when you don't have to be alert, which you generally don't for movies.

[Anonymous]

All the time? Then I guess that's not very good

[JacobJordan]

Do you feel he is less manly?

[boggboss]

Deonds what u define as being a man

[Starrrboy]

Yeah who does that lol..

[Booklover_90]

I’d be concerned about his mental health.

[DreamLife7]

He wants you to go away

[laly520]

nope it won't