Do Women Oversexualize Themselves?

[DanniOnnaNimbus]

Debate whether woman over-sexualize themselves or men doing it. Speaking on what we post, dance vids, twerking, how we dress Etc.. The feminist community will disagree and say "men need to stop sexualizing us, Period." Part of me agrees but disagree. Yes most men out there sexualize woman, but i also know there are men who dont c a woman for just a body. Most woman experienced molestation and its sad that we all have a story before we reach 20 maybe 12. But there are also woman who do it for gratification. So do we oversexualize ourselves or is it men fault? Seems like a cat and mouse dynamic. The woman who do it for gratification is like a big middle finger to the #metoo movement.

Yes

No

[Lliam]

This is a great question. Hard to answer.

Men and women sexualize each other. It's human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex. That's good thing. It's normal and natural.

Women admire good looking guys. They think the male form is hot. But they also admire guys' rambunctious, daring nature and ability to work and play hard. Women, to some extent, live vicariously by watching men performing physical activities or demonstrating athletic prowess. That physicality gives women a thrill because they imagine a man's ability to perform as physically in bed. In a mate, it also means a man is capable of protecting them and doing hard work to provide for a family and help them survive.

Men are attracted to women for a different reason. Women are (relatively) petite, tender and delicate. They have soft skin, curves and round, bouncy boobs and butts. Therein lies their power. They are less daring or capable of bruising activity. BUT, they know they are capable of giving a man what he needs and taking anything he can dish out sexually. In that sense, women are men's equals. They are fearless little bad asses. I don't mean to imply that they are only sexually capable. Far from it. Women are equal to men in everything but size and strength.

How does a woman attract a man? By looking cute and feminine. That's all they have to do. Once a guy is attracted, personality plays a huge role, but that's a different subject.

Healthy women embrace their femininity. They know how to be sexy and pretty. It's almost second nature. They care for their hair, nails and skin. They wear cute clothes and accessories. They know how to walk, move and behave. Those things epitomize feminine sexuality, but is it over-sexualizing?

I think women SHOULD celebrate their sexuality. They shouldn't be shamed just because they have feminine figures. It's only because of the historical fear of rape, assault and being shamed or abused that they have to comply with patriarchal codes of conduct and appearance.

For example, who said that bras are required under clothes? Women have boobs with nipples. Get over it.

There ARE women who advertise their wares by wagging their asses like cats in heat. I've seen some gay guys like Richard Simmons acting the same way. It's like they are literally in heat. And that behavior has become common, for example, in music videos. I find it course and low class. It sets a bad example for both men and women. Bending over and doggy-style dry humping while dancing is blatantly sexual. Instead of being appealingly sexy, it's saying "Who wants to fuck me right NOW?" That kind of behavior fits the term "over-sexualizing".

But a beautiful woman who likes her figure and dresses to accentuate it isn't necessarily advertising. She's merely comfortable with, and proud of, her appearance. I see nothing wrong with form-fitting clothes or the sight of silky skin. That applies to cleavage, bare legs, short shorts or skirts, crop tops, tight shirts, bikinis and braless. I love the variety of women's fashions that accentuate their forms. It cheers me up. Granted, some clothing choices are in poor taste.

There are creepy men who see women as mere sex objects. That is over-sexualization. But women do not over-sexualize themselves by simply looking good.

In the end, sexuality should be celebrated. People merely have differences of opinion when it comes to propriety. That's fine. But they have no right to impose their attitudes on others. And they have no right to label women with pejoratives.

If feminists or the #MeToo movement shame women for being sexy, then they are no better than the patriarchal prudes who have done the same thing to women for eons. It's a form of misogyny because it seeks to destroy femininity. It also promotes misandry.

Sorry about this rambling, stream of consciousness comment. I hope it was apropos.

[crossdressingrihno]

Are sexualized society honestly revolves around more than just one group of people it revolves around almost everyone actuallyMore women need to keep their clothes on and MormonYeah honestly I think it goes both ways. More women need to keep their clothes on and More men need to stop trying to take women’s clothes off. Are sexualized society honestly revolves around more than just one group of people it revolves around almost everyone actually.




There are two extreme sides When it comes to Sex culture. One side is trying to cover up sex from the public I almost to its entirety these people are actually promoting Sexual deviancy and various other things by making it taboo and as we all know people naturally follow things that are taboo there’s always going to be that group that wants to take a taboo to its most extreme and this desire eventually becomes some form of erotica. On the other side is the people who are very openly sexual which Nets in The larger majority of society for numerous sociological Reasons Including but not limited to A wider acceptance and More access to sexual stimuli which naturally Would make people more experimental and more public about sexual acts.


Again there’s a lot more to it but pretty much everyone is playing a role and the basic cause of this goes back to the fact that western culture is going through a major identity crisis right now and we don’t even know what we want so you’re going to have people who are extremely against SaxonAgain there’s a lot more to it but pretty much everyone is playing a role and the basic cause of this goes back to the fact that western culture is going through a major identity crisis right now and we don’t even know what we want so you’re going to have People who are extremely conservative about sex but also people who are very open about it and the people who are open about it are obviously going to affect people just as people who are conservative about it are going to affect people we don’t People who are extremely conservative about sex but also people who are very open about it. Think of it like Hegelian dialectics except for involving sex

[CA4444]

What I hate is to see how we follow trends, like it’s obvious when you see a group of chicks all wearing pretty much the same short dresses that you see in all the shops and on Instagram. But it doesn’t necessarily reflect our core values, so I think men judge us a little too fast on the way we dress, sometimes it’s just meaningless. Also we are all sexual beings and I don’t see why it would be wrong to hide or not show your curves, you can decide to celebrate your femininity! It’s a blessing in the end. Or you can also be creative and decide to wear whatever you want. It doesn’t have to be always about sex and pleasing/attracting the opposite sex, it’s all about balance I think

[CA4444]

Thanks for the MHO 😃

[Jamie05rhs]

If you are dressing in a way that is against your core values, then you are betraying your own integrity.

[amandat94132]

In US culture there is too much obsession in the way women look

Did anyone see the reality show THE SWAWN?

Seriously! Their husbands needed a makeover LOL!

Probably everyone's fault , because they go along this culture "norm "

[razelove]

Everyone likes positive attention, many women take the route of sexing it up. True, it wouldn't work if men didn't take the bait, but on the flip side less men now are taking that bait, and women are still doing so. Going so far as the women who can't, find reasons to sexualize their obesity or what not to a non-existent audience.

[hahahmm]

Men are biologically wired to find females and femininity attractive. Women are biologically wired to be DIFFERENT than men. Some women want to act like men and demand that women act like women (to be "softer", "more emotional") and so on. And no, it's not true that all men want is a woman's body... what's true is that most women today have NOTHING to offer a man except for sex/body. That's because these women chose to focus on ignoring all of a man's desires EXCEPT for what is easiest, most shallow. That's their choice. These same women wonder why no quality man will put a ring on her finger. It's not a coincidence.

Of course a woman is silly to dress like a street hooker & then complain when men treat her like they would a street hooker. Now lots of women are starting to ask why men won't buy them dinner or whatever... these same women were part of changing the rules and deciding it was more important to act in ways that make them feel "good" with zero concern for what men want. How can you have the man you want if you're not willing to be the woman he wants? It makes no sense. Women want to control all of the rules but have no responsibilities. It's not how life works.

[hahahmm]

Oops.. "Some women want to act like men and demand that women act like women (to be "softer", "more emotional")" should be Some women want to act like men and demand that MEN act like women (to be "softer", "more emotional")

[hahahmm]

One more thing... 30+ years ago, women weren't running around begging men to look at them and being half naked as often as possible. Women were still desirable to men but those women got more respect than today's average woman. Most women had way more class back then. And some smart azz will say, 'there were women sleeping around back them'. Duh. But they didn't think it was something to broadcast to the world. And the percentage of women with a high body count was way lower too.

[Yeetboi__]

Emphasis on femininity.

[RiseofArtemis]

Yes women oversexualize themselves and are manipulated by society as well to think like that and do so. Nothing makes me sick more then seeing a woman in revealing tight clothes out in the open or in videos. If I would have a girlfriend I'd ask her to wear stuff that doesn't fit tightly onto her body. 1 because its not good for your body itself as it prevents cooling in summer, tight clothes are bad in summer as the heat directly hits your clothes and therefore your body. Wide clothes create a sort of shadow that allows air to block the heat and its important to not wear dark clothes as well as they heat up more. 2 You will get unwanted attention from people for what you wear be it positive attention like compliments or negative ones like insults for your looks. And 3 I don't walk around with stuff that reveals more then it should wide T shirt and shorts that go down to above the knees are the minimum I wear in summer, and not going around bare chested just seems logical to me as again you don't want the sun to hit you directly.

[JDavid25]

Women have always sexualized themselves because they know it has power over men and even women.. Men just like how women look.. Most men can admire a woman while being able to see her as a human being also.. Also people make their own choices and have their own free will, but somehow it's men's fault that women are seen as sexual when also men have repressed women's sexuality... Make the contradiction make sense.. Women sexualize themselves because they want to.. It's their form of power..

[bamesjond0069]

Almost all women sexualize themselves. That makes it impossible for men to not sexualize them. So of course we only see you as a fuck doll when you dress in a crop top and ass cheeks hanging out booty shorts. Duh.

The only society that actually understands this is the middle east. Only when women stop flaunting their sexuality are men capable of not sexualizing them. But its only to an extent still because women have a vagina and a vagina is a valuable thing and so most women can never rise to the level of being more valuable than their vagina. Its like if you had a penny embeded in a gold bar and then expecting people to want it for the penny and not the gold bar. Duh nobody going to do that, they just see a gold bar.

[ManOnFire]

And women themselves place value on their vaginas.

[ManOnFire]

Women oversexualize themselves even when men don't. Which is rooted in women's need for attention. You can get a good idea of this just from looking at social media: all the girls on TikTok, Instagram, etc. who show their bodies or do the dance vids are only looking for likes and attention, and they ignore the very people they want and get that attention from.

Can't speak for anywhere else, but in the United States women practically base their strength, value, or importance solely on being physically attractive and how they can compete with men sexually. They are priding themselves on how much sex they can have compared to a guy, or what sexual things they can do that a guy can't. In their minds this is the best way to do battle with men or use as any go-to to prove themselves strong to men. So yes, even without men doing it, women definitely oversexualize their own selves.

[CintiaJones]

I highly doubt that things in NA is any different than in Europe.

[ManOnFire]

@CintiaJones Yeah, I think it's the same.

[CA4444]

I agree to some extent but this is basically based on the women you see the most ie who catch attention on Instagram or on tv etc but it’s not necessarily representative of all women. Until I was 22-23 I only cared about studying and my career basically, not even sex or boyfriends and was definitely not on IG or OF… weirdly enough that’s when I was wearing shorter skirts etc because of less aware and just following school/uni trends.

[CintiaJones]

Well you are a part of the small minority. You can be sure about that.

[CA4444]

@CintiaJones okay maybe, I mean I never had Facebook or IG so I’m definitely weird in some ways

[Ill_made_Knight]

Almost everything in media and advertisements is aimed directly at your wallet, and they use your fear of "not being sexy enough" to get you to buy this brand of clothing or that shampoo... that underwear that will shape my bottom... even the food you eat.
If there is some general use item and they market the same item a little differently and color it pink you will be charged more for it.
It's a very profitable fear driven marketing campaign. And if you buy that stuff or don't, the guys are still gonna wanna talk to you... guaranteed.

[doe9de]

Most men are not sexulizing women. Women if you don't want to be seen as a sex symbol then don't dress like it, wearing tight fitting jeans and belly shirts with a hole in the breast area. Sex is a natural part of life and if your out there showing off its gonna get most men excited. Also by showing off like this your inviting people to cat call and such, which men shouldn't do but unfortunately it happens. If you want men to stop sexulizing you mabye try to not dress so sexy it's not rocket science.

[Oigit]

Some do and the ones that do can't get angry when how they are dressing draws the male gaze. You can't walk around with no bra wearing a shirt that is one false move or sneeze away from a nipple slip and not expect both men and women to look. It's the same for a guy walking around with his underwear and pants hanging low enough, if he jumps, everything comes flying out. Heck it even applies to sagging. You can't get pissed when I joke about you showing off your underwear when you are sagging.

[laurieluvsit]

Everyone acts and reacts according to their God given personality type.

Some of us are are just born with a more sexual nature than others is all.

[DoctorSex]

@DanniOnnaNimbus that may be true. However I believe it's more accurate to see this as a issue of discipline. I have a very sexual nature, as do most of the women I've dated. However we have never needed to be overt about it and shove it down other Peoples throughs. In modesty there is far more beauty.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[DoctorSex]

*throats

[Yeetboi__]

Laurie! My girl! Always coming through with the clutch opinions!

[laurieluvsit]

@DoctorSex
I get what you are saying but you, maybe not so much me.

Sexual nature varies by degrees. Those degrees dictate more, or less, the primal instincts in some of us. Yes, that gets to your point of 'discipline' ... but that comes in degrees as well :) ... not all of us are engineers... lol

If you don't get that one, I don't blame you after all Women Are From Venus and Men Are From Mars if you didn't know Mr DS.

@Yeeboi_
You're sweet :)

[DoctorSex]

@laurieluvsit lol thank you for clarifying.

I'd rock your world for hours, you wouldn't know where your body ended and mine began... If I was still that type of guy that is.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[laurieluvsit]

@DoctorSex
Wow! ... lol

[hIopinionated_]

I’ll just say this: Who sexualized babies food? You know. . boobs. Not women


Also, THAT’S a huge one considering today women’s breasts are sexualized and will be sexualized for more centuries to come. To mean something sexual. Women can’t even nurse their babies because everyone’s worried what that would do to a man. A MAN lol when a baby is starving

[anniisa97]

No one sexualised babies FOOD. If breasts are naturally attractive to straight men as a female body part then it’s obviously got some sexual meaning behind it. Even if the purpose is meant to be for bringing up children, it completely makes sense that men find womens breasts attractive because it plays a role in a good mother for their children. Another example is wider hips, men tend to find that attractive because having wider hips helps a woman push out babies easier.

I don’t understand why you’re pretty much shaming humans for being human at this point.

Now public breast feeding is a different topic, but I’m not sure why you’re bringing up how boobs are sexualised by men… no shit

[hIopinionated_]

@anniisa97 Breast ARE babies food and they have nothing to do with men. Sexualizing breasts came from men just finding them attractive so NOW they’re not only seen as food for babies but as something to distract a man or teen boy by being in a shirt or poking out. As a matter of fact, a woman or teen girl doesn’t even have to have her boobs on displayed for a man or boy to stare and catcall. But let me guess, anything to do with motherhood a man finds attractive? Sure lol, that’s why many of them faint while watching women give birth because it’s soooo womanly. That should be attractive as well but many times it’s just seen as gross or “I’ll just see the baby AFTER the pain and suffering she will endure”

I’m not shaming humans. I’m pointing out the fact that it’s because of men sexualizing boobs, basically making it possible for anything about a woman to be sexualized. Even a woman’s hands because they’re small and feminine and oh, a made up sexual act, handjobs

Because it’s an example of something that’s huge and greatly affect every fetus who will happen to be born female. Duh

[anniisa97]

Oh… I didn’t know babies eat breast. That just hurt, so are you breastless? Assuming it’s personal experience.

Men don’t just catcall stay boobs, they look at your body as a whole as well as your face. I mean it depends on the guy but they aren’t all catcalling because of your boobs so saying that your boobs don’t have to be on display to be harassed doesn’t mean anything. It probably isn’t about the boobs?

When did I say ANYTHING to do with motherhood will be seen as attractive by men? Why do you people exaggerate what the other person is saying to dumb them down and think of a response. That’s literally not what I said. Just because I have a few examples that are quite respectable theories by the way, doesn’t now mean I think every single thing men find attractive has something to do with motherhood.

Not all men wait to see the baby after the woman has given birth… that’s common sense. I don’t know what you’ve experienced and you sound angry but there’s a world outside you’re mind and experiences.

Uh, even women sexualise mens hands. Me being an example, and many other women I know, on gag and real life. I’m fact Wow girl has a few posts talking about it because it’s quite common for women to love big manly hands. So what if they sexualise womens hands? Lol get over it

[anniisa97]

Must* hurt

Catcall at* boobs

In* fact

[Yeetboi__]

So explain nipple piercings. Explain BBL's... Explain Boob jobs...
I can go all day!

[Yeetboi__]

It stems from insecurities that are meant to be projected to the world.

[elizalikesberies]

I feel like women shouldn't oversexualize themselves because it looks trashy in my opinion, but at the same time men shouldn't use the fact that some women oversexualize themselves as an excuse to sexually harass any women and sexualize women who didn't ask for it

[DizzyDesii]

I don't know about oversexualize but everyone sexualizes themselves at some point whether intentional or not. I dont feel the opposite sex can really sexualize you but they sure as heck can catcall and egg on that sexual nature, and that goes for both genders

[TonightYouu]

No it doesn’t women don’t catcall men we don’t even get compliments 😂

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu shit you shouldve gone to my HS. We catcalled like a mf, mainly the football and basketball players

[TonightYouu]

And your school only had fb and basketball players?

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu we had soccer, baseball, track, etc. I do love baseball players but i only recall one hot one on the team. The majority of the hotties played FB and BB

[TonightYouu]

So only athletes smh.

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu well if a guy was smart but not a know it all and he wore glasses and had a cute face then he got catcalled too

[TonightYouu]

No , only the attractive men

[TonightYouu]

Women only sexualizar me attractive men

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu why would anyone sexualize anyone whos unattractive? Its usually attractive men or women that people catcall lmao

[TonightYouu]

You do realize what’s attractive to you is ugly to a bunch of people right?

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu and vice versa

[TonightYouu]

@DizzyDesii no not vice versa character is more attractive than a persons appearance to me

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu to you... For me, appearance is what i notice first. Its what attracts me to them physically. But their personality and character is what keeps me

[TonightYouu]

@DizzyDesii by that logic you’ll leave them for a much better face with a slightly worse personality you do realize physical attractiveness is only temporary right?

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu and so is a personality if they fake it. I know people who pretend to be a certain way but fake it just to get you. But being fake can't keep me. So both are temporary and all we can do is try and fail and try again. It is what it is

[TonightYouu]

@DizzyDesii if that happens it’s on you for having a poor judge of character I can tell if someone is being genuine or not but it’s a fact that as anyone ages they become less attractive physically Mother Nature gives but Father Time takes away you’re just looking for an excuse to be shallow

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu you’re just looking for an excuse to disagree. I made my stance and said i go for looks and personality. If you can't handle my opinion, move on

[TonightYouu]

@DizzyDesii i can and im telling you that you’re shallow and superficial do with that information what you will

[DizzyDesii]

@TonightYouu do with your opinion as you will cause i ain't stuntin it

[TonightYouu]

@DizzyDesii congratulations

[Anonymous]

No it's not men's fault lol. Women make the rules. Men just follow it. Men are taught early on that the squeaky wheel gets the grease, same with women. Some women just take it too far. Those women think shaking her ass for anything in pants will get her anything she wants. Some do it because it's all the power she wields and she'll never care about anyone more than herself. Some women do it because that's simply all they know. They don't really know how to function as a normal adult. And are stunted emotionally and psychologically from adolescence. Essentially she never became an adult.

[RolandCuthbert]

I don't understand anything you posted. Women aren't a hive mind. Some want to be sexy. They want to dress provocatively. Some like male attention that way.

Others don't.

Why can't people just do what they are into and reap the benefits or consequences of their actions?

[Sonorous]

Depends on what entity is doing the judging. Nothing in nature is objectively "too much." It can only be relatively incompatible when a goal is specified. And the only thing that cares enough to specify a goal in this regard is a primate.

[hyperben]

some do and some dont, same like some men do (its basically the oldest form of advertising to attach sexual desires to a product) but also a lot of men dont.

women who sexualise themselves for a gain, well, its kind of harsh out there so hats off to them for using what they got to get along, sure its a bit of a poke in the eye to the hashtag movement but in the grand scheme of things, hashtags are little more than virtue signaling

[Anonymous]

Women do sexualize themselves, it's a source of income for a large number of girls. Influencers, models, the majority of actresses, and receptionists rely on their bodies to make money. Whether it's good or bad that's different but it's the truth.

For sex workers, only fan models and cam girls it generates a lot of easy money. Regular girls also sexualize themselves to attract higher-quality guys. Men do that too but since men's worth is mostly related to their income, the number is less. That's our society for centuries. Now if few women decide that they don't want to be sexualized that will be extremely difficult as a large number of girls are doing so for a living.

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah, I think they do. Women have a very love/hate relationship with their sexuality. On one side, they know they win all kinds of perks and prizes for being a woman of the exactly correct amount of sexual desirability. But on the other side, it's probably not a great feeling to know that society primarily cares about you because you have physical appeal.

[EarthRealm]

Yeah they do if you think dressing up wearing Panties where dudes can see the girls ass in to public swimming isn’t over sexualizing themselves then i suggest you check yourself into your local Mental hospital 🏥


But I mean it is Hot 🥵
And I can get a Girl to suck my dick while Eating McDonald’s or pizza and a milkshake so I mean it has its benefits.