Do you make mental note when you realize you are the only person of your race at some venue?

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Like you went to a party or restaurant and realize you’re the only White/black/Asian/Hispanic person there and everyone else is another single race?

sometimes i do. Currently in a restaurant im the only white dude here and everyone else is Hispanic. Not an issue mind you lol just something i will notice sometimes.

Do you make mental note when you realize you are the only person of your race at some venue?

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

So my husband is Hispanic, he told me that when Hispanic/Mexican people go to a Mexican restaurant and all they see in there is white folks, they turn around and leave lol

Now i know what you're thinking, damn that's a little racist right? cause that's what I thought then he explained why. It's not the issue that white people are there, it's that they know if white people are there then the food is probably not authentic Mexican food. Lol its like taco bell, for the most part you will not catch loads of Hispanic people at a taco bell, they know the shit is fake. If they're going to get some tacos, they going to go get the real thing and hit up a real Mexican restaurant.

I'm sorry but there's some truth to that, every time I've gone to real authentic Mexican restaurant, I hardly see white folks.. maybe a few of them but for the most part it's Hispanic people. He said if they go up to order, and they don't start speaking Spanish, the menu ain't in Spanish etc... then leave cause the food ain't real lol 🤣

Man that shitbis funny, y'all gonna think in racist for this 😂

RedStiletto88 · Accepted Answer

I try to be observant of who is around me so on the rare occasions I’m the only white woman in a room, yes I notice that but that’s about it unless I’m the only woman in a room of men then i might be slightly more cautious

KostasKouvalis · Accepted Answer

Yeah, when I went to Sunday school I was the only White dude in a class full of Mexicans. I straight up told them I feel "different", and one of the Mexican guys said, "Yeah, I would too."

My family got mad at me, at my Communion because me and one of the teacher's 7 year old daughter were the only Whites there. I felt like I was crashing some Mexican tradition, and I straight up refused to be in the picture. I told my family, "I'm gonna be in a picture with a bunch of Mexicans." I felt so uncomfortable being the only White guy there.

RolandCuthbert · Accepted Answer

I mean race is a social construct. So the question is kind of weird for me.

If I am in the U. S. . . I may take note of it depending on the situation.

But outside the U. S., I kind of do away with it. It just doesn't fit in too many places that I travel to.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

Not really but I kind off feel nervous when I encounter any foreigner. Because their English is so clear generally. Once my dad's friend (American) called him for a party as it was his daughter's first birthday. Me and my family were the only Asians present there (waiters and waitresses were Indian, cuz it was held in an Indian hotel of course), everyone else was white or hispanic. Few blacks as well. I was like wth am I going to do with my broke English infront of them. I was staying in a corner trying out dishes I never ate before lol. Then this guy of I guess around my age came up and said, whose daughter I was, he was brother of the birthday girl. Dang I swear I almost stuttered. I am not used to speak with random people here and there.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Oh absolutely! I won't state my race for privacy reasons, but I totally notice... and use the vibe of the room to determine whether I should stay or politely excuse myself early.

For example, walking in a room of x race, and they all suddenly stop talking, the conversation just happens to change when you approach, or you feel like you're being watched.

Why? Become I know how people are. People are judgmental creatures by nature.

VIVANT · Answer

Yes I notice. My immediate family that I grew up with looks completely diff from me bc my parents are from opposite ends of the world and I take after the Russian French Spanish side. And after my parents and then my great grandmother - I was kinda the outcast & treated as inferior and ugly…. So I always feel out of place and I notice it way more than I wish to, which is not at all.

pepper1993 · Answer

when i go to my best friends house im the only white person in a house full of about 12 Asians.. other than that i'm white and live in america so i would have to go seriously out of my way to make this happen.

but if that wasn't the case im fairly certain i would notice.

menina · Answer

Yes, I always notice that. 98% of the times I'm the only black person in a room full of white people.

I used to think more about it when I was in college. I could be in a class with 50 or 60 people and either I was the only black person or there were only 2 or 3 black people.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

My area growing up was mixed enough that this wasn't uncommon, so it doesn't jump out to me that much unless something calls attention to it—like if we're at a race-focused event, someone brings up race, or there's transfer of some race/culture specific knowledge. Sometimes I will just know tho too. Not like I don't look at people. I just don't usually keep track if I've met everyone who's there yet or not lol

meetkitty123 · Answer

As a latina I most certainly do notice Im at a bar tonight and I certainly noticed I'm the only latina here.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Yeah, I notice. I usually dont care about it but it's extremely embarrassing when a relative uses it as a reason to be a Karen which happens (not really with race, more with ethnicity/nationality for them).

Cherry234 · Answer

I guess sometimes. Every time I go to my grandpa’s house or my uncle’s house, I’m usually the only half white person there (and the lightest person there too lol). Everyone else is fully black and darker than me.

BeeNee · Answer

Literally this was my entire childhood all the way up until high school, being the only or one of the only. It's impossible not to notice because you're usually made glaringly aware of this.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Lol I'm black so I for sure make note of it. I try to be aware of my surroundings wherever I go.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Hawaii is 24% white. I’ve been in places in Atlanta where I was the only white guy. It’s not unusual.

TroyDT · Answer

Never really thought about it. I see people as cool, neutral, or jerk faces, not as their inherited traits.

AsaKyo · Answer

I barely even think about it when I'm out somewhere unless my mom brings it up

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes I take notice..

LazerBean · Answer

I pretty much always am, so no.

SaoirseS · Answer

No because with rare exception, I always am.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes I notice that anytime it happens

duttyjamagyal · Answer

Of course I do, it's awkward

Guardian45 · Answer

I'm neurodivergent, so I notice this ALL the time.

msc545 · Answer

Sometimes I notice - no big thing.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Nope... I don't notice that stuff

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