Word has been for years that their marriage is in trouble because he’s not present enough as a husband and father, due to his very active career. And Gisele has been somewhat cryptic yet vocal about her feelings on that. I think she’s been trying to be private but if you read between the lines, I knew she was tired of him never being around.
However, he refuses to retire. Well, he technically did for a a short bit but decided “his place was on the field, not in the stands.” Ouch. What a slap in the face to his family. Very disrespectful.
I don’t blame her. His family needs him now, not when he’s too old to enjoy them.
Do you blame Gisele for wanting a divorce from Tom Brady?
Well, this is where it becomes subjective. I agree that both parents should be present to help raise children and make sure their social needs and relationships are solid and met to become better and confident individuals.
However, this comes back into play with gender roles too. Men have usually been the providers for their family, and Tom's life and passion is football. It is his purpose, his passion his joy. He may feel that if he loses that, he has nothing much to give his family or kids. Plus, if he was to give it up, whose to say it changes him for the worst or changes who he is as a man that made his family strong and proud to begin with? If a man has no purpose, he is lost and complacency comes with it which starts a spiral. Let's look at the flipside of this as well. Why not Gisele end her career? Same difference here with Tom. I am sure she loves her family a lot and her career too, but why can't she do that? Why does Tom have to make the sacrifice?
Tom even mentioned on a podcast this past week, I am going off memory, but it was along these lines. "My son has taken up football now and it is great. He is more coordinated than I was at his age. I feel like him doing this allows me to give him advice and be close to him and be there for him in a way I know I can. Not trying to give him crap advice about things I don't know anything about."
Now, I am not here to argue or say what should be done, but this seems like a double standard here for both Tom and Gisele. Both have a family and great careers, masters in their profession. This is a shitty thing to ask one to make the ultimate sacrifice by giving everything up to be there for the family.
Now, sure, Tom could easily go to do something like sports broadcasting or color commentary like Manning did to still have a level of involvement with his passion, but it isn't the Sam's as playing it. Sure, he is old and more prone to injury with that, but he is arguably a legend and nothing like him will probably be seen again like this.
No different than Dale Earnhardt dying doing what he loved by racing. Same with Neil Bonnett. Tried to leave, got miserable and came back. Died doing what he loved, but died happy.
This is really just coming to light and has been building for the past year, but we really don't know. There is two sides to every story, so I am taking Gisele's words with a grain of salt. Let this settle and then see what they say when it is said and done and we can side with whoever.
I liked Brady because he was a career underdog and people doubted him. The Brady 6 documentary was the thing that made me a fan of him and relatable as a person.
Plus, what do a lot of these sports wives have in common? There is a lot of divorce because of constant travel and not a lot of family time. They SHOULD know this, or already do and feel they can make the guy leave or do the opposite. Takes a special woman to stay with a guy like that and understand the commitment. Same with wives of soldiers. They know the life and they make the decision to go into it.
I am not taking Gisele's side with this, nor Tom's, but I feel this is a perfect example when it comes to power couples and type A people and marriage and commitment. No compromise on who gives up and submits because both are too stubborn to do so. Same with who becomes breadwinner and looks after the kids. This is a perfect example of this question we see pop up on GaG frequently.
@Avicenna same, which is why I said what I said. Both her and Tom are type A people and at the top of their careers. Neither most likely won't want to give it up completely, if at all
I think its ridiculous of Gisele to expect Tom Brady to become her lapdog and retire considering she is not retiring either. Its a miracle that at age 45 he's even playing at all, I don't know anyone who's father retired before they were 60 and in this day and age most people won't retire before they are 70.
I personally think that Gisele is setting up the ground work for a divorce and we will hear all the same clichés we always hear such as "he was never present", " we had no communication" etc. She of course will play the victim and with half of a $250 million dollar fortune up for grabs plus alimony &child support this may get very nasty with accusations of domestic abuse & violence to be thrown in at a later date to destroy Brady's reputation. I believe Gisele has already planned all this out a year or two before. Brady was a big celebrity and athlete but he's on the way out, maybe Gisele feels she can do better with a high powered movie executive or actor. I'm thinking by 2023 Gisele will be dating Pete Davidson who will be tattooing the names of Tom Brady's kids on his arm.
Gisele has in fact stepped back from her career to focus on her family. Tom on the other hand, has not, in spite of the fact that most NFL stars retire before age 30, most leave the field at around 27. The oldest active player in history played until he was 48. It’s interesting you used the word lapdog. I think she just wants what was promised to her at the altar: a husband and father to their kids.
This is a tough one. I feel like she knew what his life style was going to be like prior to marrying him. So she had to know that he would be less available then he should be. If he has been faithful to her and shown displays of affection and love to her. If he is a good father and he is a loving and supportive man. Then she should probably try to negotiate with him on spending time together and see if they can meet somewhere in between. However if he is cold and unloving. Cheating on her. Spends no time with his kids at all and basically pretends the family does not exist. It would just be best for her to end it. Sometimes marriage takes a lot of negotiation, sacrifice and getting through unpleasant times to be a long and successful one. People seem to get uncomfortable with circumstances and want to quickly blame the other and threaten divorce instead of choosing love. Love is not only a feeling but a choice. So you must make the effort to find ways to work around the difficulties. People have survived way worse situations in a marriage then these two and stayed married. Also have become stronger and wiser after it all. They end up having a true respect and love for each other after it’s all said and done. The kids see a consistent home life and don’t end up as hurt and this is what love feels like. Working to keep your family happy and whole. You must always negotiate and do whatever can be done unless someone’s safety or life is in danger. Divorce should be an absolute last resort. Married couples need to grow up and understand what it meant when they took their vows. That’s what I think…. From experience. Thanks! I wish them luck.
I think it’s kinda bullshit. He isn’t going to be able to play that much longer. That’s not a retire a 65 job. I’m surprised he's still healthy enough to play. But the clock is ticking so with the career he’s had I’d say let him play it out. But I don’t know I also don’t think divorce should be so common, and talked about like it will make shit better. It should be one of the rarest occasions. Relationships take work and compromise and sacrifice. And someone wanting to continue working while they still can is a dumb reason. I mean they have 3 kids. It’s never good for them. And I get that might be a lot to handle but they are also filthy rich. So if she needed help it’s not like that don’t have the means. I get he’s playing a “Game” but when you have that prestige you gotta take it all the way. Once he has a shit season he’ll leave for good.
an example of how this is not a logical thing... divorcing isn't going to bring him closer to the kids, it will make things more difficult. This is emotional, she can't take this pain anymore.
No, I don't blame her, there is a time for people to change. He's a football adrenaline addict. It's all he knows. No different than any other drug, he left it... he went back and it bugs her and she's had enough. I'd think a separation was in order, but whatever. You really gotta work to keep the relationship together. Who knows what else is going on... we don't know what this woman is like in a marriage do we, or him?
It's unfortunate. Ain't that something... you can be married to the most famous, rich, successful, and highly attractive people... and the communication and emotional needs... blow it to bits!
A good lesson for everyone if they think beyond the tabloid title.
Not even a little bit. I know he's worth a lot of money and she's worth even more. She's worth like 500 million dollars all on her own. There's a lot of money involved but it doesn't matter. If you take all the money away they're just people.
She's just a woman wanting her husband to be present in their marriage and in the lives of their children and he's just a man who has repeatedly ignored his wife and demonstrated that he does not value her, her needs, or their family.
The money is irrelevant. And even if it was relevant, she's worth like 7x what he is so clearly his earning potential is not needed for them to live. All this is is a woman recognizing her worth and not allowing herself to be unappreciated by a man.
I thought it was just a woman showing how low her iq is seeing as she married a pro football player and expects him to quit foot ball. Damn that's dumb as a brick.
Sounds like deep stupidity on both sides. Sure, a father needs to be a father, and a husband needs to be a husband. But it's not like she didn't know what his job was like when she married him. Did you think he was going to change? Did she think that he was just going to drop his whole career whenever she decided she was done putting up with it? People really just don't think these days.
@LazerBean or people get fed up with their other piece not being there for them. You can’t predict that happening. She supported him and his dream long enough and it’s 1000% okay that she wants time with her husband after supporting him for years on years out
Uhhh when your man says he’s going to retire for his family and then takes it back , that’s a bit of a problem. She let him put football over their family for a long time, if you don’t think she deserves a husband to spend some time with her, that’s odd to say the least. I don’t think any person in this comment section would last that long with a person that devoted himself to a hobby the way brady did to become great.
I don't blame Bündchen for wanting a divorce, but not specifically because Brady changed his mind about retiring earlier this year, or because she has the desire to resume her modeling career. Bündchen has stated numerous times over the years that she doesn't want a "vegetable" for a husband and as the father of her kids. As long as Brady keeps playing football, he's continuing to roll the dice when it comes to getting a permanent, life-changing injury. Health-wise, Brady has been relatively lucky in his 22 year career, and now at 45 years old, his wife doesn't want him taking any more chances with his health. Especially his mental health. So I'm not surprised that they're getting divorced, because this has been brewing for at least the last 5 years.
Not a TB fan when he's off the field, however - Gisele knew what she was getting into as a "sports wife". If the trouble started years ago, as it seems to have, why divorce now if you actually still love each other? This would be his last year anyway, so I find it hard to believe she thinks this is a great solution. Now they'll live separately, and the kids will see even less of him than they would have beginning at the end of February, so how does THAT make sense?
I think she just wants out because she doesn't believe he'll retire after this season. Even if he does retire, he'll still do something that will keep him "too busy" for Giselle's tastes, I'm guessing.
This is what happens when you have this kind of relationship. If I was a famous person the last kind of woman I'd date was another famous one. I'd find some nobody from Kansas to have kids with. Where most women would be so thankful to have such a successful athlete and thankful he still has good playing years when most wouldn't she instead is complaining he's not around enough so she wants a divorce so he's around even less. Makes no sense. She's just trying to control him because she thinks her money and career gives her power over him. Doubt it when she's paying him alimony shoot her ownself in the foot on this one. Lmfao.
I usually don't support women who make the move to divorce their husbands. However in this case, I believe that Giselle is right. I'm on her side.
He should have retired after he won the Super Bowl with the Bucs two years ago. It was the perfect moment. It was the epitome of his career. I'm not sure why he went back and kept playing. I think maybe he has some bad friends who are giving him bad advice.
It's not like he couldn't go on to do other things after football -- Part Time. Because he absolutely could.
My theory is that Gisele doesn't really want a divorce. She wants her husband to be at home more... with her and their kids. She was very happy when he retired and spent more time at home. But then he changed his mind an un-retired, and she doesn't like that.
I'm wondering if her threat of a divorce will get Tom to realize that he's got a great thing going with Gisele and their kids, and to give up playing football... finally.
I know nothing about these people nor care to know nor does it matter what I think lmao. I don't get why humans are so... fascinated about people they don't know at all and whether they are married or getting divorced lol. Though I do get it psychologically but damn I wish humans were so less of that.
I don’t care about these people, really. For me, it’s about the fundamentals of what’s going on, which is a married man and father who continues to put his desires before the needs of his family.
But is that it? Maybe he cheated but she don't want to mention it? Maybe it's something else? If that is the case maybe she should of thought of that before marriage? Maybe it shouldn't be expected for someone to change their personality so if his was always work first don't try unless your okay with that? The only thing that is certain we don't really know what is going on and all it does to try think about is bring up more questions than answers. And at the end of the day people get divorced for many reasons to judge such reasons is pointless unless you are personally effected by it.
Pay attention to her... the new guy is already there and I guarantee that's the reason. Watch... as soon as the divorce is final, new guy will pop out of nowhere. He is there right now, we just don't see it as an outsider.
It's called "monkey branching."
If there wasn't a new guy already, I bet she wouldn't give a fuck.
@Pot8o That's the point about monkey branching... they don't dump until the new guy is grasped upon already. The monkey doesn't let go of one branch until the new one is grasped. Mark my words, and watch it play out. It's one of those things I obviously can't prove... but I just know, and I'm so confident in knowing it that I would bet my left nut on it. It's like female behavior 101.
@Pot8o It's my favorite nut... the one that hangs lower than the right. I would bet my mother's life on it but losing my left nut would be way more damaging.
She’s a beautiful former supermodel. She’s always had the ability to have anyone she wants. I don’t think another man has anything to do with her divorce. I think she just wants to be free of always being 2nd to a football. She’s tired of his selfishness.
I understand MzAsh, but just watch. Guy #2 is there already. Only a bit of time will vindicate my assertion here. But I am so sure it will be vindicated. Why?
I've just seen it soo many times with other sports stars and movie stars... you can only watch a pattern play out so much until you really can just make an assertion and be confident in it without proof. Like I'm serious... the divorce will happen and in a matter of months, don't be surprised the new wedding happens. Feel free to bookmark me saying this right now and call me out if 6 months pass and I'm just an idiot... in fact, I wish I was wrong. I'm not though. I know I'm not.
You might be right. And I wouldn’t blame her for that either. I mean, if he’s not going to value her properly then there are plenty of others who will.
There is always another who will... at least for a period of time. Why he isn't good enough is my question. Sure there is the narrative that he just cares about football and doesn't give a shit about spending time with her. But I'm sure it goes deeper than that. Like if he is making that choice then I'm sure you and I as flies on the wall would totally understand why he's making that choice after watching their interaction during an off-season.
All the blame gets thrown on his lap... yet I bet kids and other women don't even want to spend time with her. I'm just not quick to judge... there are reasons, there always are. It's one of those things where I got to ask myself if his situation would actually be better by fucking other women instead of wanting to make a few more millions of dollars playing with his balls.
He's doing everything right... I mean seriously some women complain because the man won't leave the house enough. There has to be another man in the picture.
Everything you’re saying is speculation, none of which we know for sure. What we DO know for sure is that she’s spoken for years about their scheduling issues and now they’re headed for divorce.
Yes I know, I've stated it myself that I wouldn't be able to prove anything for a reason. I'm just making an assertion and saying don't be surprised if I turn out to be right 6 months from now. I won't show back up to be like "I told you so" but if it happens, give me a mental pat on the back or at least the benefit of a lucky guesser.
I think the amount of money she makes rivals his, so I don't think it's a Britany Renner situation at all where she is basically there to get the baby and for the payday. It isn't just about money and I would assert that. Time will tell...
Nope I don’t blame her. He’s at a point of time where he’s going to regret how much time he put into football vs his own family. He’s past age of retirement for a football player and he should enjoy his family before his children grow up and don’t want to spend as much time with their parents. He has enough money. He should put his family first
@captain-obvious being the greatest comes to an end eventually and then you are left with your kids grown and regretting not spending enough time as a whole family. Having a passion that you are only devoted to comes with risks and as far as it seems, she has been a supportive wife for a LONG time. She deserves someone that can give her a fulfilling marriage and not have her on the go all the time.
Do you realize how cool it would be to have Tom Brady as your father? I would have had a real role model growing up. I would have killed for a father like Tom Brady. Someone intelligent to talk to and guide me
It almost seems like people just don’t understand the time put away to be that great and it requires giving up other aspects of your life. Yes having Tom Brady as a father is probably cool , but also having a father that can fully be there for your special life events is cool too. Can’t imagine how many life events he had to miss for his career
Lol. This pattern repeats so often, I knew the timeline before I even found it. Married in 2009. Had a couple of kids. Started having real trouble in 2019. Hired divorce lawyers recently. Talking about how she put her career on hold and how hard it was to raise kids
10 is the magic number. Marriage is a sham. It's a business transaction, an investment, and the maturity term is ten years.
Well, as someone who has gone through a divorce after being married for over a decade, I am not surprised. People's desires, preferences and priorities change over time even if you are communicating well with each other, although that's definitely important.
Although I get it with her wanting him around the family more, it is kind of like a woman marrying a doctor. They are going to be at work, a lot. Being a very famous quarterback is what Tom Brady IS. I don't think it is public to what extent they've tried to work it out, but you'd thing some compromises could be made.
Ha ha ha. Not even close to a Dr. He gets concussions. Dr. s treat concussions. However he gets paid more. Not the Dr. Which one of them had it better during the pandemic? The guys that all were protected because people love their beloved sport or the MD who had to work tirelessly exposing themselves to the sick to try to save them? Ohhhhhhh, ArrowheadSW I would much rather marry the Doctor any day. Not the guy who is afraid of becoming irrelevant.
He was a football player then, why is she surprised he is now? And being that he is still playing, I’d say he still had a very long life left to spend with them. And even as it is he probably has way more free time than most men in their 40s
Most players are retired at his age. She likely didn’t think he’d be so addicted to the glitz and glamour of his job. She had THE most glamourized profession known to man and she aged and stepped away gracefully.
She married one of the best athletes in his sport at the time, and now the best that’s ever been and probably will be, and expects he won’t play as long as possible? Come on
He’s 45. The oldest active player in history played until he was 48. Most step away from the field at 27. I’m sure she didn’t think he’d still be playing, especially when he decided to marry her and become a father. Now, he’s the absentee “father and husband.”
@Redstang88 well he picked being the best over time with his wife. She let him have football as his best for a very long time, you don’t think she deserves to enjoy life with her husband a little?
Yes, this is what the man wants to with his life because it makes him happy. He was a football player when she met him and she should support her husband in any way. I would say the same thing if it was the other way around if she wanted to continue modeling and he should support her.
I firmly believe she’d be told she’s “way past the wall” and should put him first. Regardless, he’s considerably past the age of retirement and I’ll bet she thought he would be by now. Then again, this is one of the many reasons I warn women against going with athletes or other “high value” men. They’re more into themselves than anything else.
Look if women want high value men they have to understand that they're playing by his rules. Women have this misconception that a high value man has to abide by their rules. That's not how it works
The problem though is that women dont want average or low quality men ane these men are more loyal and faithful but they're over looked and that's fine. But women should know what they're getting involved with when dating a high value man
It's more than understandable that her priorities are their family and his priority is himself. Maybe it's just to get his attention, but something tells me it won't work.
I don't blame her one bit. He said he would retire to spend time with his family. That lasted two months and he went back to football. So, he reneged on his promise. So, basically he's a liar.
well that's what happens in relationships between hyper successfull people. you can't have big economical/career success like that without something falling off.
