What does Traditional Values mean to you?

Question

What are its traits? Are they that important? Whats your emotional response to the phrase? Eww!, nostalgia, happiness?

ClaudiaGalll1996 · Accepted Answer

Typical traditionalism to me looks like marriage, house, kids, the nuclear family, the stay at home mum/wife and the working dad. Unfortunately, a lot if deeply embedded homophobia, sexism, misogyny, domestic violence and abuse gets skimmed over when it comes to those that idolise the traditional lifestyle. I think traditionalism is fine, I'm fairly traditional, but we should allow room to be able to adapt and mix with modern times as well. Like, having a traditional family and marriage, given that's what both parties want, is amazing and that's what my husband and I did/do. But also we both have modern views, etc.

My husband and I are fairly traditional people but more 'modern' about it. Nothing wrong with it. It's important to keep up with change and progress. We felt we can still be traditional and also have modern values. We support mental health, and we're progressive people but we're more traditional in our own way. My husband and I met at 17 and started dating when we were 19 and engaged at 21 and married when we were 23-Years-Old. We are both 26 now and I'm 3 months pregnant with our first child, planned. We want 2-3 kids, the house, a great marriage and the white picket fence. So, I guess you could call us 'traditional' by modern standards. We are modern too. I've been working full-time since I was 23 and I've always had jobs from the age of 17 to present day and enjoy my independence. I've also got two associates degrees and I bought and paid off my own new car earlier this year by myself. Yet, when this baby comes I'm taking 1 full year off of work to be home as a SAHM while my husband will be taking 8 weeks off and then returning to work full-time and being the stereotypical 'breadwinner'. In our country maternity leave can be up to 1 year for the mother and up to 8 weeks of parental leave for the father, so that's what we are doing. That's just a dynamic that fits us and what we wanted. We have those old school traditional love and family values but we are modern about it. For example, I have had a career and after a year off work I want to go back to my career and eventually advance towards a bachelors degree, my husband supports my higher education and I support him with his goals. He is happy to work full-time and 'bring home the bacon' as the expressions goes the first year of parenting and I stay home with the child when they're born and dyeing fheir first year. So we have some old school styles but we have some modern stuff mixed in for good measure. My husband and I are both alleys to the LGBTQA community, we are very proactive and supportive of mental health, and our first two years we were married I was on birth control because we planned our baby around our 3rd anniversary. I get vibes in super traditionalism that these are things people don't have/do but our first 3 year of marriage were amazing and our first year we travelled a lot and then our 2nd/3rd year we spent working a lot and buying a house. In super traditional times like the post-war 1950's things were also more affordable and families woukd survive on one income which is also not often the case now. I know when our baby is older I'll need to go back to work full-time too. So being flexible is important. So yes, we have the marriage, house and then the baby, and we were high school sweet hearts too and had a big, traditional wedding, but we are also adaptable and progressive with the times.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Some traditional values are good but a lot are code for sexism and LGBTQ phobia

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

I believe many others have given some great answers to this question which more or less say something similar to my answer. Traditional values means the status quo, or mainstream, majority rules, the "norm".

Things like heterosexuality, marriage, common jobs and life paths. All the "weird stuff" is those things that are deviations from the norm. The obvious stuff is sexual or gender oriented, you know like a woman *gasp* wanting to do something traditionally identified as being a male career path. Other examples would be people who live life a little differently, perhaps they have an uncommon profession, hobby, or perspective.

To the question "are they (these traits) important?", I would say something is neither important nor unimportant other than it either matters to some subjective beings or it doesn't, whether those beings are squirrels, whales, or humans. With that in mind, I would say that for most of humanity they are important. Humans are in general, social animals, who obtain part of their mental and emotional health from their interactions with others of their species. If they are accepted and have positive interactions, their health benefits. If they are rejected, their health and mental state generally declines. Being accepted often has a lot to do with whether they are acting in a similar fashion.

Some members of the species will step outside the parameters of "normal" behavior and try something new once in a while. Mostly these deviations from the norm are met with disapproval, but sometimes they result in new discoveries or a following of other members of the species who enjoy the alternative path, activity, mindset, &c. So we can see that the basic structure of their society is designed to dissuade too much innovation and creativity. A certain amount is tolerated and even encouraged, but it must still be within the established boundaries of normalcy. Looking for a cure for cancer or a new energy source is fine, but sexual deviance or practices such as cannibalism are frowned upon.

My emotional reaction to the phrase "ewww! nostalgia, happiness?" is mirth.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

When people say "traditional values", they are telling me they are uncomfortable with people who don't look and act as they do.

TruthBringer · Answer

So many idiotic answers in the comment section. All ranging from claiming traditional values means that you should be some homophobe, racist or sexist. Unbelievably delusional and goes to show these people never met a person who believes in traditional values. But happy to see a FEW comments that are still worthy of listening to.

The main and TRUE traditional values as I believe them to be are as follows:

FAMILY.

DISCIPLINE.

HONOR.

MODESTY.

DUTY.

HUMILITY.

CHIVALRY.

As a traditional man, I am indeed the leader (note: leader not a tyrant) within the relationship and household. Also the (main) provider and also the protector. When shit hits the fan, I'm the one who steps up to deal with it. I make sure that my woman is treated fairly and has everything she needs so she can relax. My hands are rough so her hands are soft and feminine. We take modesty & professionality seriously in public and only keep our sexuality within our relationship. And when the time comes to have kids, I as a man will make sure they grow up in a healthy nuclear family.

Anonymous · Answer

Means that the man is the head of the household, full stop.

The man should strive to support his family

No birth control (condoms are what men use outside of marriage to not get caught.)

A man shouldn't have sex outside of his marriage, but if he does it's only because his wife is frigid.

Divorce is VERY difficult to obtain.

People do not cohabitate before marriage

The woman should stay at home at keep the house

A woman should know how to cook and have a hot meal ready when her husband comes home

A woman should make sure her husband is satisfied in the bedroom.

Once a woman is married she is expected to quit whatever job she might have to become a homemaker.

Marital r*pe would be legal again.

A man could punish his wife as long as there was no need to go to a hospital.

Being gay would be illegal. However, I propose we do like Iran and the state finance/ impose sex changes on gay men in lieu of licking them up for 20 years before castrating and releasing them... If they want to be women in bed they should be women the rest of the time... But that's just me wanting to be humane, that's not "traditional"

Men and boys wear britches and suits, women and girls wear skirts and dresses.

The ERA wouldn't exist.

And black people can't vote

dustybiker · Answer

I think if you keep the ridged rulebook from back in the 40-50’s it sounds bad now.

If you modernize it, but keep things such as consequenses for your children. Everyone puts effort into the home together, chores bills, etc shared. Spending time together, and such. You can still want traditional values with cutting out all the power controls.

DoctorSex · Answer

Tradition meaning that which has stood the test of time within a culture. Value being that which acts as a backbone that built a culture, and if taken away, can start the proces of cultural degradation.

I have no opinions about any one of the LBTQ movements. Let people be free to use their bodies how they see fit with a consenting party.

However if we are talking about the western culture (and most other cultures to be fair), the western culture wasn't built with LGBT families. So it is not a value. Neither is it a tradition for families to be formed under the banner of LGBTQ.

Now has unorthodox situationships existed within the grey areas of society?

Of course. But replacing the backbone that has stood the best of time, withering away the foundational beam that upholds the house, is doomed to lead to destruction.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

WindAtMyBack · Answer

It means people say mother and father instead of baby daddy and baby mama. It's soooo sickening to hear people say that.

It means like the era before the hippies decided that people can do whatever the fuck they want with no consequences. Actually the hippies still had fairly high values, but a certain segment of it evolved into something very different. There was some good that came out of that movement, but I think there was more bad than good.

Yea, I was part of it. We were out of control. The problem is that we rejected everything that came before us, instead of admitting that not everything from the past was bad, and some of it should stay intact.

HighValue · Answer

Being exclusive/faithful to your partner, not stealing, no drugs, the man is the protector of the family and the decision maker (and has to take responsibility for the results of his decisions), making time for your SO each week (a date night/day) and to have family time each week once you have kids (game/movie night/day or some other regular activity together). Don't discuss any disagreements with people outside of your family to try to get them on someone's side or "win" instead of finding an acceptable solution to a problem. If the man is stupid and the majority of his decisions end in bad results for the family he loses his decision making ability.

Don't push transgender agenda onto kids or talk them into getting hormone blockers that sterilize them and damage them for their entire lives.

Chlo3_2001 · Answer

I respect traditionalism and while it may make others happy, it's not for everyone, and that is okay. I really like that in this day and age people can choose. As long as everyone respects everyone and no one hurts each other it's all good. For me? I am not super traditional. I think modern traditionalism maybe? I like to work, have a career and I don't want to have children and if I get married I would like my husband to take my name rather than I, taking his. So I that sense I am not your typical traditionalist. But I do like the idea of marriage eventually, building a happy life with a husband, etc. Some of my friends are traditional and married, etc but they're the traditional kind that isn't homophobic or sexist, which is unfortunately embedded in a lot of the old school traditional style and Nuclear families.

Anonymous · Answer

Traditional values just mean things that are *absolute truths* that transcend any time period going forward. They are proven to work (when practiced correctly, that is) time and time again, no matter much we progress and advance in our society. We all practice them in some form or another. Some more or less than others.

.:: Traditional values ::.
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- Chivalry/Women and children first.
- Family.
- Discipline.
- Abstinence before marriage.
- Marriage/Commitment.
- Sex/Gender roles.
- Humility/modesty.
- Shall not lie.
- Shall not murder.
- Shall not steal.
- Shall not be infringed.
- Due Process.

purplepoppy · Answer

Isn't it a time when you could give your wife a black eye if dinner was late? When you could hurl racist abuse at an Asian shopkeeper or lynch a black guy who looked at your wife? And let's not forget the long list of old/dead people who recently been got exposed as paedos. If you think life was better then just browse the archives of your local press.
Real values are timeless.

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

It means somehow having enough brain damage to believe that EVERYTHING was better in the "good ol" days just because everyone was smiling in old pictures. 😒

NathanDavis · Answer

actual traditional values?

or... do you mean the times in which men could just easily pick a young girl to get... instead of having to prove themselves worthy of a woman that can already be herself by herself?

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Traditional is best. Like 500 BC traditional. I'm really not into this modern garbage at all. 1950s is great when society is set up to support you and help you maintain. When society is a free for all cuckoldry poly Satan worshipper facial tat trannys... well we need to be even more traditional than 1950s.

Iron_Man · Answer

Old school values just like that picture good Christian religious people with a good proper upbringing and good proper training

AndrésC64 · Answer

Republican/conservative/regressive talking points about "The good ol' days."

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I believe having a mother and a father leads to the best likelihood that the child is going to be a productive citizen as opposed to being a psychotic criminal.

Amarah0 · Answer

Having little to no rights. A house keeper, incubator and a nanny within a marriage.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I can’t think of any “traditional value” that would improve my life in any way

msc545 · Answer

It means you have a time machine and are able to go back to the Midwest in the US in 1952 and live happily.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not a damn thing. I don't subscribe to the vaules of this world nor what man has to say on how I ought to live my life.

lauraanne02 · Answer

As a woman, it means having no rights

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