Why is everyone so sweet to you but backstab you all the time?
I was watching a youtube on this last night. I think evolutionary biology explains a lot about us. You may find this link illuminating.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4jKAgYL0gg&t=1408s
As men, we know that if we say something nasty about another guy then we might get a face-full of knuckles. So we mind our manners and reserve fighting for when it is absolutely necessary. Also once we have knocked up a girl our genes will pass on so it doesn't matter that much from evolutionary perspective if we die in a fight.
Different for girls. For her to pass down her genes, after giving birth she at least has to nurse the infant but her job is not finished at that point. It is necessary to get the child to the point it can survive. She will probably need support from Aunties, granma and friends. So it is beneficial to fake niceness to get a bigger share of what is available. Girls are highly competitive to be in the upper echelon of the group to get more.
So to suppress a rival she will say sweetly say in concerned tones to other girls "Did you know she fucked the football team... including the old coach?"
I don't how many times a girl noticing my attraction to another girl has said words to that effect. Usually it ends with what do you think of her now? Internally I usually think, great she's a slut I should have good chance of getting in - thanks for the intel.
I have seen many times that when girls have disputes their first thought is to rope in every one they can with the football team story or some variant. One time two gal pals started fighting and tried to rope me in but I was having nothing of it and recommended to the cafe owner that he should ban them both for life to be even handed. They then started calling the emergency services on each other for an urgent mental illness pickup. I had spent $30 on beer that night and they completely destroyed the sense of well being from that. I was angry with both.
In short I don't think it is nowadays but is as ever was. Not surprising girls regularly tell guys (after we accept we are not going to get fuck them) that it is easier to make friends with guys than with girls.
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I blame social media, fake news, western society...
The west has become materialistic and superficial, consumerism has caused the negligence of morality, respect, loyalty and boundaries
Because it's trendy to be a backstabbing bitch nowadays and people think it's cool. It's more a maturity thing and a sencerity thing.
Granted a lot of people back then (in the last Century) could also be fake but now it's less stigmatized. A LOT of bad things or shameful things are now okay sadly. I don't know WHY it got that way. Morally we've gone down the rabbit hole or probably worse. I don't know if we as a society can really dig ourselves out of it now too sadly.
Yeah. It's sad when that happens.
I just know that it's a favor they did, because i now know they aren't worth my time
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Welcome to commercial mindset.
People used to be less judgmental and loved to help and be helped. It's just fucked up. The other day I was tired and got a flat tyre in the middle of the road and I was having difficulty installing the spare wheel. So this guy on bicycle 🚲 came and helped and involuntarily I was about to give him a reward but halfway stopped. Still I said in my heart, thank you God for people like him. I mean he was poor from his clothesdstill helped.
Now, the darkside, I am affluent and if I try to help someone with money or in anyway, there would be;
first be some people who would be leeches. So not going to talk about them.
Second type is people who would think I am helping because I want something in return. In fact I was talking about this at home today by coincidence. They would think I am getting a commission out of something, some kickback etc.
And third is when I help someone and they will say you are an asshole, that is not help if it backfired for some reason
I have no clue. But in brief due to a recent experience I had with some "friends" who ALL denied to help me literally.. convivence, self-preservation.. going with the wind to the most peaceful or convenient thing for themselves long term. I don't know the word rn, but ego-centrism. Literally I was overseas and my boyfriend literally dumped me and despite I had many friends (mutual of ours and of my own) there, no one let me stay in their house for even 1 or 2 days. Not even a night. Sure, we will help you, tell me and I'll be there asap... in 2 hours. Then when I asked, it was next week (after Christmas) and anxious asking how long.. so sad.. The others wouldn't offer anything, nothing asap, or would just disappear or "no room" . :(
they are not being raised properly, parented properly, socialized. They need challenges, to overcome them so they build confidence and have self esteem and self respect which is important to giving respect to others.
We removed God, but that isn't the only issue...
When it goes bad though, people will cry out to the god they denied and spent their time cursing...
A lot of people are very deceptive and greedy. I was a more nurturing adult when I was younger, but I got hurt too many times, and now I have a more selfish personality.
I am honest with someone, and I help, but only the people I can tell are very naive or who ask for help.
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because those are the fake people you come across in your life at times… but trust me, there are some great people out there who would be ready to risk themselves for you
When you collect the answers, collate them and publish them. You will make millions.
Because they can be. We don’t sufficiently punish liars and fakes anymore. We tend to punish people who tell us uncomfortable truths more severely and far more often!
It's not an issue of "nowadays" people have been fake for centuries. It's the easiest way to get people to like you or to get what you want.
I think people are afraid of confrontation as a result of being on social media all day and not seeing people in person as often.
It bugs me just as much when I try to be sweet to people and they expect me to backstabbing them and I never plan to.
Because the human heart has become so selfish with its own motives, and has a love for cruelty.
I don’t know, anyways please 🙏 post another picture of you in your underwear.
I’m longing for it.
wear some socks 🧦 while you’re in your undies.It’s a weird craving, I know.
When have people not been, humans can be assholes, humans can be fake it just evolves with time if you were thrown into 1580 your still find two face fakes just in a different form
I don't backstab, if only because I know what it's like and how wrong it is.
There have always been people that backstab and gossip. The online world makes it more apparent and anonymity heightens it.
At least I admit it trope? and I prefer brutal honesty over lies, liars tend to be cowards.
Who’s being sweet and an asshole? Well keell im!
I don't know lol I blame reality TV once that came out big, everyone thinks being fake and locket watching is super cool now lol
I'm too real I can't fake
Because time has changed now and people are like this
Part of the reason has always been because when you are honest with people they don't like it.
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