Why are people so fake nowadays?

Question

Why is everyone so sweet to you but backstab you all the time?

RavVid · Accepted Answer

I was watching a youtube on this last night. I think evolutionary biology explains a lot about us. You may find this link illuminating.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4jKAgYL0gg&t=1408s

As men, we know that if we say something nasty about another guy then we might get a face-full of knuckles. So we mind our manners and reserve fighting for when it is absolutely necessary. Also once we have knocked up a girl our genes will pass on so it doesn't matter that much from evolutionary perspective if we die in a fight.

Different for girls. For her to pass down her genes, after giving birth she at least has to nurse the infant but her job is not finished at that point. It is necessary to get the child to the point it can survive. She will probably need support from Aunties, granma and friends. So it is beneficial to fake niceness to get a bigger share of what is available. Girls are highly competitive to be in the upper echelon of the group to get more.

So to suppress a rival she will say sweetly say in concerned tones to other girls "Did you know she fucked the football team... including the old coach?"

I don't how many times a girl noticing my attraction to another girl has said words to that effect. Usually it ends with what do you think of her now? Internally I usually think, great she's a slut I should have good chance of getting in - thanks for the intel.

I have seen many times that when girls have disputes their first thought is to rope in every one they can with the football team story or some variant. One time two gal pals started fighting and tried to rope me in but I was having nothing of it and recommended to the cafe owner that he should ban them both for life to be even handed. They then started calling the emergency services on each other for an urgent mental illness pickup. I had spent $30 on beer that night and they completely destroyed the sense of well being from that. I was angry with both.

In short I don't think it is nowadays but is as ever was. Not surprising girls regularly tell guys (after we accept we are not going to get fuck them) that it is easier to make friends with guys than with girls.

SlavicThor · Accepted Answer

I blame social media, fake news, western society... The west has become materialistic and superficial, consumerism has caused the negligence of morality, respect, loyalty and boundaries

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Because it's trendy to be a backstabbing bitch nowadays and people think it's cool. It's more a maturity thing and a sencerity thing.

Granted a lot of people back then (in the last Century) could also be fake but now it's less stigmatized. A LOT of bad things or shameful things are now okay sadly. I don't know WHY it got that way. Morally we've gone down the rabbit hole or probably worse. I don't know if we as a society can really dig ourselves out of it now too sadly.

Msputiton · Accepted Answer

Yeah. It's sad when that happens. I just know that it's a favor they did, because i now know they aren't worth my time

AmeerX · Answer

Welcome to commercial mindset.

People used to be less judgmental and loved to help and be helped. It's just fucked up. The other day I was tired and got a flat tyre in the middle of the road and I was having difficulty installing the spare wheel. So this guy on bicycle 🚲 came and helped and involuntarily I was about to give him a reward but halfway stopped. Still I said in my heart, thank you God for people like him. I mean he was poor from his clothesdstill helped.

Now, the darkside, I am affluent and if I try to help someone with money or in anyway, there would be;

first be some people who would be leeches. So not going to talk about them.

Second type is people who would think I am helping because I want something in return. In fact I was talking about this at home today by coincidence. They would think I am getting a commission out of something, some kickback etc.

And third is when I help someone and they will say you are an asshole, that is not help if it backfired for some reason

Fraulein1700 · Answer

I have no clue. But in brief due to a recent experience I had with some "friends" who ALL denied to help me literally.. convivence, self-preservation.. going with the wind to the most peaceful or convenient thing for themselves long term. I don't know the word rn, but ego-centrism. Literally I was overseas and my boyfriend literally dumped me and despite I had many friends (mutual of ours and of my own) there, no one let me stay in their house for even 1 or 2 days. Not even a night. Sure, we will help you, tell me and I'll be there asap... in 2 hours. Then when I asked, it was next week (after Christmas) and anxious asking how long.. so sad.. The others wouldn't offer anything, nothing asap, or would just disappear or "no room" . :(

lightbulb27 · Answer

they are not being raised properly, parented properly, socialized. They need challenges, to overcome them so they build confidence and have self esteem and self respect which is important to giving respect to others.

We removed God, but that isn't the only issue...

When it goes bad though, people will cry out to the god they denied and spent their time cursing...

Theabcking · Answer

A lot of people are very deceptive and greedy. I was a more nurturing adult when I was younger, but I got hurt too many times, and now I have a more selfish personality.

I am honest with someone, and I help, but only the people I can tell are very naive or who ask for help.

Blackcupcake · Answer

because those are the fake people you come across in your life at times… but trust me, there are some great people out there who would be ready to risk themselves for you

SnowedIn · Answer

When you collect the answers, collate them and publish them. You will make millions.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Because they can be. We don’t sufficiently punish liars and fakes anymore. We tend to punish people who tell us uncomfortable truths more severely and far more often!

Ghostykill3r · Answer

It's not an issue of "nowadays" people have been fake for centuries. It's the easiest way to get people to like you or to get what you want.

Wicked_Witch · Answer

I think people are afraid of confrontation as a result of being on social media all day and not seeing people in person as often.

ManOnFire · Answer

Because the human heart has become so selfish with its own motives, and has a love for cruelty.

TheBootyChest · Answer

It bugs me just as much when I try to be sweet to people and they expect me to backstabbing them and I never plan to.

Asking_for_knowledge · Answer

I don’t know, anyways please 🙏 post another picture of you in your underwear.  I’m longing for it. wear some socks 🧦 while you’re in your undies. It’s a weird craving, I know.

call_me_scar · Answer

When have people not been, humans can be assholes, humans can be fake it just evolves with time if you were thrown into 1580 your still find two face fakes just in a different form

Cassie88 · Answer

I don't backstab, if only because I know what it's like and how wrong it is.

bowenw · Answer

There have always been people that backstab and gossip. The online world makes it more apparent and anonymity heightens it.

Berethor · Answer

At least I admit it trope? and I prefer brutal honesty over lies, liars tend to be cowards.

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

Who’s being sweet and an asshole? Well keell im!

Fuentes · Answer

I don't know lol I blame reality TV once that came out big, everyone thinks being fake and locket watching is super cool now lol  I'm too real I can't fake

KostasKouvalis · Answer

It's the society and culture we live in. You have to lie, cheat and manipulate in order to become successful and get ahead

Tina19 · Answer

Because time has changed now and people are like this

Anonymous · Answer

Part of the reason has always been because when you are honest with people they don't like it.

JosyJosy · Answer

Because they can, takes zero effort, with little to no karma coming their way.

exitseven · Answer

People have always been fake. It's just that in the old days there was no internet.

Paul09 · Answer

Blame your generations parents. Horrible parenting skills. No more spankings. No more morals. No more respect.

Batsy01010101 · Answer

I been wondering that myself. Even the love of my life backstabbed me multiple times

Lookitsmadmax1994 · Answer

World is full of people trying to be the next hottest influencer or star.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Good question. I haven’t the slightest idea. Yet another reason I find people in general to be deplorable.

Farmerboy2 · Answer

I have learned that people do that are not the people you need to keep in your circle.

bean2k21 · Answer

I've never been sweet to you. You have done nothing to deserve rewards. You don't even call me "sir" or "master."

Agape93 · Answer

There's no accountability.

Summeroflove · Answer

Yeah. Rise of narcissism

NathanDavis · Answer

I know what you mean... but oh well

rosemilk · Answer

because it's so easy to be

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Fake inside and out as well.

Dargil · Answer

Many people have no moral fiber.

insteadfew · Answer

Because it is how society works

misogynistic_pig · Answer

Men are only sweets with women because they want sex.

es20490446e · Answer

Because you allow it.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Because society allows them to be fake

Cubus · Answer

People are told that being egoist is fine

Preeti161101 · Answer

This is 21 century

MrGSpotHer · Answer

TV culture maybe or something far more sinister

CubaPirate · Answer

Because the world is full of assholes

Guardian45 · Answer

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