Have the following phrases destroyed society (POLL)?

[Anonymous]

"Be yourself"

"There is someone for everyone"

"You will eventually find The One"

All of the above

[Calculated_Guess]

I think they're a bit misguided, they might be more helpful with some tweaking.

1). Should be "Be the best version of yourself" as in, Get your shit together because in order to attract people you need to be attractive to them.

2). Should be "There's a lot of potential matches for you out there, possibly millions" but see comment #1 if you want to access those potential partners.

3). Should be "You won't find anyone unless you get your shit together" again, see comment #1.

[jorfan3]

I like you

[Asker]

Yes I agree, I think just like you. "Be yourself" isn't telling the whole story. There is a right way to do things and then there is a wrong way to do things. Be the best version.

[jorfan3]

People don't like raw diamonds. People like natural diamonds though. Cut, polished diamonds are still natural.

[Asker]

So in other words, they have destroyed society because they take them literally.

[jorfan3]

Lol you think they've destroyed society?

[jorfan3]

Oh, that was the question posted, got it

[Asker]

Yes. Life is unfair (people have different issues, personalities, obstacles, etc.) But no excuses.

[jorfan3]

So can I ask: how is being middle aged? My husband is getting close. He thinks about it.

[jorfan3]

Sorry, sooo random.

[Asker]

Huh?

[jorfan3]

I'm just gonna stop.

[jorfan3]

I'm being like the definition of socially awkward right now

[Asker]

Nah I just asked you to elaborate

[jorfan3]

I was asking @Calculated_Guess about his age. Which was rude, I apologize.

[Asker]

His account is now inactive lol. Nah I don't think that's rude.

[Asker]

We all gotta die.

[jorfan3]

Rofl true

[RavVid]

You are not allowed to be yourself. That is politically incorrect and you will be canceled.

Someone for everyone. No way in hell. You aren't good enough for anyone.

Eventually finding the One. Refer to point 2.

[Asker]

There is a right and a wrong way to do things yes. Generally speaking. But let's not get too pessimistic here. No excuse for not (or stop) searching for "the one". Life is hard. But no excuses.

Also, life is short for a reason lol

[FreyaRed]

Greed, hedonism and nepotism destroy societies, not some empty phrases.

[Anonymous]

No because they all true for most decent people.

[jorfan3]

That's a pretty critical thing to say. There are some very nice people that don't find someone to settle down with.

[Asker]

@jorfan3 but she's got a point I think. I don't know what she means by "decent". She likely meant "not awkward".

The truth is, awkward people (nice or not) will have a difficult time.

[jorfan3]

No, I think she meant like good person...

[jorfan3]

@Anon what did you mean?

[Dargil]

I think they are harmless hope for a better day.

[Asker]

Good one lol

[Anonymous]

I agree with all of them. But I don't think the word "society" fits into what you're asking about. I'm not sure what would be best, but just not society.

[Asker]

For certain individuals

[Opinion Owner]

I like it !
Be yourself: Yes, because life is easier that way
There is someone for everyone: Yes there is.
You'll eventually find the right one: Yes, but when you find her, you won't be looking. The harder you try, the less you get.

Google the Law of Least Effort.

[Asker]

Now that's what I want to hear. "Keep searching" is the key phrase.

[Asker]

But I don't know about that. You're really going to believe this? How can you try less and expect more? It makes more sense the other way around.

[Opinion Owner]

You're 100% correct. Focus on what you want and think about what you want, but don't try too hard. I've had girls in bars tell me that I'm trying too hard. One of them was sitting on my lap when she said it. I didn't understand it. It didn't make any sense to me. But one day I was at a dance with my cousin, and that night neither of us were trying, because we stopped giving a shit. That night two girls found us, and not the other way around. They ended up being our girlfriends for a long time.
The universe will give you what you need, but just not on your terms.

Pickup artists use the push/pull technique. It's kind of like two magnets. That was the mistake I had been making before. I learned this technique after my divorce.

So I once walked into a piano bar. I scanned the room and there was only one girl, and 50 guys. She wasn't at a table, she was sitting at the u-shaped bar. I went over and sat next to her. That was a push. So she moved here stool away from me. I could have moved my stool next to her, but that would be a huge mistake. So I moved my chair away from her. That was a pull, and I could sense that she didn't like me doing that. She had some kind of case on the counter. She needed to try and figure me out and why I pulled, so she said: I hope my case isn't in your way.
Her: I hope my case isn't in your way.
Me: Just as long as you leave enough space for my drink, we won't have a problem. Oh, I see you're a photographer.
Her: Why do you say that?
Me: Isn’t that what the case is for?
Her: No, not for that.
Me: Oh, Ok.
Her: But I’m an artist.
Me: Yeah, right.
Her: I am.
Me: OK.
Her: You don’t believe me, do you?
Me: I believe you.
Her: Go ask the bartender for a piece of paper and a pencil.
Me: Alright.

[Opinion Owner]

When I hand her the paper and pencil, she proceeds to sketch me.
It turned out really good.

Me: Wow, boy was I wrong about you. This is amazing. Look I normally don’t buy drinks for women in bars, but this is the first time an artist ever sketched me. Do you mind if I buy you a drink to show my appreciation?
Her: I’d love a drink.
Me: I go to the bar and bring us both a drink.

Some guy from the back off the bar yells out “Why the fuck does he get to buy you a drink and not any of us?”
Her: Thank you.
Me: Would you care to dance?
Her: I’d love to.

I thought for sure I was going to get my ass kicked that night by the angry mob. So we dance and have a few drinks and chat, and I tell a few jokes.
Me: Look, here’s how it’s going to work; I’m going to get us a room upstairs, and we’re going to do three things.
Her: What things?
Me: First you’re going to give me a back massage.
Her: I’m not going to give you a back massage.
Me: That’s fine. I love this song, let’s dance. (pull)

When we get back to our stools she says…
Her: So, you said there would be three things.
Me: What do you mean?
Her: Upstairs
Me: Oh, it’s OK. Trust me, if you won’t give me a back massage, you surely won’t do the other things.

I stand up, shake her hand and kiss her on the cheek.

Me: It’s been great meeting you. I’ve had a lot of fun, but I should go home and go to bed. I have to get up early in the morning. And I just walked out the door. I could have gotten her to go upstairs, but that would be trying too hard, and I learned my lesson about how that works.

[AngryCarl2]

As far as I know society still exists. You might not like it but it's still there, kind of.

[Asker]

I know what you mean bro. I should've been more specific. I was referring specifically to those individuals who are "outcasts".

[OddBeMe]

There are all pretty shit phrases designed to mollify you. Don’t be numbed. Be ambitious.

[Asker]

Take it as a form of motivation or false expectations.

[joeldalton]

None, lol.

[Asker]

So you mean all those quotes are legit?

[joeldalton]

None of them “destroyed” society.