Am I the only woman who views pregnancy as torture?

[Anonymous]

Obviously the act of pregnancy is important. Its useful of population the Earth but being pregnant and having children seems soooo not normal. The morality rate isn’t on women’s side either especially for the ones who willingly decide to have babies. Plus, after all that torture, you’re stuck with a crying poop machine who will grow up hating you


What gives ladies? Worth it or no?

[midnightmoon05]

My son who is 14 just called me and said I miss you. Now there you go!! Reasons why it’s so important to have off spring!! 😝
I heard horror stories and heard beautiful stories.
Me. I had it great both pregnancies and deliveries. My body went back to normal and no stretch marks or saggy boobs or wrinkly belly…my mom said I still looked/acted like 12 after I gave birth.
My older sister had a huge belly and yes, hers was wrinkly after giving birth. Everyone is different.

That goes the same for those who never had kids…youth don’t last. Many use it while they can for their benefits.
I have a few single female friends who was never married or had kids…. well…aging is catching up…no one can escape. The difference…they are sad and feel they missed out because they are too old to meet a mate to have kids after 40.
No one can tell you what to do. I am only sharing from my experiences.
Not telling you to go have kids…
If you so ever consider…like my honey said…have good family support. Be mentally, financially, emotionally well…because it is hard work like everything else…but we can make things easier with the right support group.

[Asker]

That interesting. For your friends to be bitter, lonely, and want kids now, they must be the desperate type of women who aren’t comfortable with their own company and feel they need a man to be complete. I feel bad for those type of women. I’m an introvert and I love my space most times.

[midnightmoon05]

Enjoy your youth… no need to say more. We all have to walk our own bridge so to speak.
I think you missed my point.

[Asker]

I got your point just fine actually: Basically hurry and have kids and get a man before I expire with old age like your friends who are sad and manless

[midnightmoon05]

No. You still get my point.

[Uannoyme]

Have you ever been pregnant? I have, and it isn't that bad. Maybe I was just blessed, but pregnancy and childbirth were nothing like they're made out to be.

[Asker]

Nope. Never been pregnant before. I don’t believe women who are having children and asking pregnancy questions in a negative way are getting pregnant and having babies (at least women who will be amazing mothers). I sort of assumed good mothers love the idea of pregnancy

[Uannoyme]

Pregnancy can be unpleasant. For me it was constant heartburn. Labor wasn't that bad. The key is to stay active through the whole pregnancy. The thing is, once you hold that baby, you just forget about all that.

[Asker]

What was labor like? And how long did it last? Did your boyfriend/husband/baby’s father treat you differently after giving him a baby?

[Uannoyme]

Labor for me was about 8 hours. Early labor just felt like period cramps. They gradually got stronger, but not anything that would cause all the screaming and stuff you see on tv. I didn't have an epidural or anything and it still wasn't that bad. Unfortunately, my husband became controlling after that.

[Asker]

I’ve heard the same from many other women regarding the whole significant other personality change. There are explanations that seems very coincidental.

Thank you for sharing!

[Uannoyme]

You're welcome!

[Anonymous]

No, you're not the only woman who views pregnancy as difficult and potentially torturous. Pregnancy and childbirth can be physically and emotionally challenging, and it's okay to acknowledge those difficulties. It's important for women to have access to comprehensive healthcare during pregnancy and childbirth, including support for their physical and emotional well-being.

While having children can bring joy and fulfillment to some people, it's not the right choice for everyone. It's a personal decision that depends on a variety of factors, including a person's individual circumstances, values, and priorities. It's important to have access to education and resources to make informed decisions about family planning and parenting.

It's also important to remember that there are many ways to build a fulfilling and meaningful life without having children. Everyone's path is different, and it's up to each person to determine what brings them happiness and purpose.

[Asker]

Damn. That is one amazing answer. You are 100% right

[lightbulb27]

Im noone to judge, I go into a panic just trying to get hard poop out let alone someone growing inside me that cries at me, the size of a huge cantelope. Women are nuts!

But I see mothers around me and they cherish the experience, joy of seeing they created life... as long as they have good support around them. A solid relationship and supporting family takes a lot off then they can enjoy being a parent raising a needy creature.

Failure to have support and resources or that have difficult kids especially, and that is one hard reality.

Maybe you've had some trauma in the family growing up and lacked support, so this looks like a terrible burden. You've got a few years to figure it out...

[Anemone978]

It's not that bad to be blatantly honest.. I didn't really care about them while I was prego but once I had them it was instant love... I loved everything about them even their shit was cute to me, like my oldest blasted shit all over me even on my face and I didn't care I was so in love it didn't gross me out in the slightest. Mind you if someone elses baby drools on my arm I think its the grossest shit lol
PS Opt for a csection way better for some... like me I can handle being cut open but I can't handle a baby coming out the pus for 15 hours... nah..

[Asker]

You have a point. I hate germs and bodily fluids on me but when my nephew drooled on me, I wasn’t at all grossed out or wanted to give the little guy back to his parents

[AngelLily]

The Mortality rate would drop in the US if we helped the obesity problem in the US many are not healthy even before kids to begin with also. A many women especially in the black community don’t or don’t have access to good prenatal care. Even though after these things There has never been a better modern time in history We’re it was safer to have a child then today. Technically everyone’s a poop machine also most people don’t grow up hating there parents some do but most don’t. For some women pregnancies are hard for others it’s easer. It just depends on the person.

[DizzyDesii]

I see pregnancy and a successful birth as a goal and blessing. But i am terrified at the same time because i hate being in pain and i dont do well with people crying all the time. But i’ll manage because i want it so badly

[exitseven]

I think there is a lot of truth to what you say. Being a parent is not for everyone. It is a long haul if you are doing it right. There really is not much in the way of rewards either. If you are looking for somebody who will thank you for your efforts you would be better off with a Golden Retrever

[LocoLuna]

If someone is in the right mind space, it can be a beautiful thing. If someone isn't in the right mental space, it can be very difficult.

[AngryCarl2]

Actually in an advanced country your chances of dying as a result of getting pregnant are rather remote. Obviously I don't consider America an advanced country at this point.

[Asker]

I don’t consider the US an advanced country either. There’s sooo much wrong here

[Eternallylucky]

No. Childbirth can be damaging to the vagina region and bladder. Some people can recover quickly from it, others don't.

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you ever had a child?

[Asker]

If I had a child asking a question like this with the not so pro children details I’ve given, my nonexistent child would be in big trouble and I’ll be a horrible mother. No lol, I have never been pregnant and I do not have children

[OlderAndWiser]

Then expecting yourself to appreciate the rewards of motherhood would be like expecting a blind man to understand how an elephant looks.

[Asker]

Yeah. I will never see it the way women who actually want to be mothers see it. I have female siblings who loved being pregnant and I don’t understand them at all. Especially compared to how they use to look vs how they look now: wrinkled stomachs, hair loss, different color nipples, etc, at least their outside appearance. There’s no telling what’s wrong with them internally

[OlderAndWiser]

And they are aware of thse changes, so obviously they have either lost their minds or sense something that you don't perceive. My guess is that they are not crazy and I sense that you have the same respect for their choices.

[Asker]

I said I don’t understand them and something is wrong with them internally meaning inside of them, : their bladder, kidneys, anus, vagina, etc. I never said I didn’t respect their choices. It’s their body, if they want to ruin it (my thoughts), that’s their choice but I won’t pretend something isn’t wrong with them physically and internally. I literally see it

[OlderAndWiser]

How do you know all of their physical ailments were caused by pregnancy?

[Asker]

Because their stomach were flat, they were skinnier, their nipples were it’s natural color, there were no saggy skin, missing hair, vagina after care that lasted a couple weeks, etc. Plus, I’ve heard numerous other things from other women. There’s a mighty long list on TikTok, it’s been developing with add ons for months now

[midnightmoon05]

You know when I was your age…up till roughly 2-3 years. ago…I thought I would stay that way forever! I do consider myself lucky to have so many years of youth and good health…! I never listen to the elders… well…I’m looking back and told my kids…I was a rebel…I did all that stuff…it’s up to you if you want to listen.
(Regarding how our bodies change) our internal, external, physical, emotional…etc… start to slowly decline … like it or not.
My single female friends tell me the same. Even though they don’t want to admit it…they now have a dog, or a chicken to raise. Well…these animals will not call you when you get sick and Ill at 70,80 years old.
We have ways to slow it down our aging processes… but we can’t escape.

[Asker]

^Desperate women who feel they need men attempt to adopt a pet (with ill intentions), have a child, marry any man just to feel their lives are completed, etc. Doing that will only hurt themselves and those around them.

There are numerous women who are happy and alone, not lonely at all. They have no desire to take care of kids or a home for a man or a man. They are traveling, having fun, doing whatever they want. Those type of women are free and free of society’s judgement because they don’t care what society or men says about “have kids because you will need them when you’re older”. That’s a horrible reason to have kids.

The desperate women who care what everyone thinks is the problem, they are lonely within themselves and will never be truly happy unless they have approval of others. Sounds like a horrible way to live

[midnightmoon05]

She had beauty and money and “friends” and traveled the world… till into her 40s… her body started to changed, then gained weight and her beauty fading.,,
I am not telling you to have kids… I am telling you the true about the stages of what a woman goes through. But you won’t understand till you get there… just like I didn’t understand about certain things… because I was a rebel…

[Asker]

I’m not that far from ‘damaged goods’ age for women and I still understand all of that (even as a teen) but the difference between insecure desperate women and other women is desperate women feel they need men (and everything that’s been made up by society regarding women roles) and women who know themselves don’t “need” men, we may want one but we aren’t desperate for just anything. We refuse to waste our time on abusive men just because he’s nice sometimes or have money. We make our own money and have standards for respectful, kind, not sexist, faithful, etc men. If we don’t get something as basic as a man who isn’t sexist, that’s a red flag and considering most men are sexist against women and view us as baby making maids, we refuse to settle because we know we at least deserve the bare minimum and not being a sexist is definitely the bare minimum so settling is a huge “no”

[OlderAndWiser]

Now you are raising very different issues.

[LovrUFFAllls]

I think women going through pregnancy, or periods, or life
tend to be torture to all those they surround

[Asker]

But not the woman herself? And definitely not worse for the one actually going through the torture?

Just making sure I caught that correctly 🎤

[LovrUFFAllls]

*takes mic*
Yes, you need to stop that right meow!
Giving me a headache

[Asker]

Hmm interesting pov. Thanks for answering

[LovrUFFAllls]

Hoomans all suck, unless they feed me

[Asker]

Food is glorious 🥰

[LovrUFFAllls]

Not hang out right meow
you are making me hunggy

[Asker]

Why are you typing cat sounds lol?

[Anonymous]

It's biology. You'd be amazed how many women agree with this (at least to some degree) till they meet and marry a guy. Then all of a sudden they get baby fever.

[es20490446e]

Prefer a cat?

[Asker]

I heard cats are sassy. Maybe a dog than a baby. .

[es20490446e]

Dogs make poo.

[Asker]

Lmao that’s actually a good point

[es20490446e]

:D :D :D