Do you feel flattered when people who are 15, 20, 25 years older than you, check you out?

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CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Men and women have 2 different reactions to this because we have 2 wildly different experiences. For men, they crave positive attention from women, they live for even the smallest compliments because they’re so rare, and in an effort to try and spread around that good feeling for karma’s sake they might try to compliment a woman the same way they’d want to be complimented. The problem is men don’t realize a lot of women get hit on as soon as they hit puberty. I was 11, with a c-cup chest, and I had no idea why all these older boys — who would be as old as 18 — were suddenly talking to me whenever I was alone in public. I want to stress that I was 11, the farthest I knew relationships went at that time was kissing. I had no idea what sex was, but it was all these guys could think about when seeing me. For women, we’ve experienced that complimenting behavior as incredibly predatory and we’ve learned to guard ourselves against it. When people who are that much older than us see us in that light, it feels predatory, and we feel the need to guard ourselves, or hide ourselves, regardless of the other person’s intentions. We receive far too much of that attention and want to lessen it so that it’s more within our control as often as possible.

WhereIsMyMind · Accepted Answer

If someone was giving me a respectful compliment, even if it was a little flirtatious, I would potentially see it as a lighthearted and funny interaction.

But when you have someone being creepy and leering at you on the street and muttering vulgar things, this just makes me uncomfortable.

I don't like this kind of boorish behaviour and especially from someone this much older, they should know better than to act like this towards a person who is old enough to be their son/ daughter.

TipsyFr · Accepted Answer

She has to be attractive, unless it’s a guy if it’s a guy straight or gay I take the compliment well. The only time I find unattractive women checking me out or flirting is when I go to the elderly homes, those old grannies are super fun. Not so much me anymore because they know me now but one of the younger boys is 18 last time the old grannies tried to get him to go back up the ladder to get a better view of his ass 😂 “ I think you should go back up that ladder son “ he thought he’d missed something and when he got up there they would be like, you don’t see it son bend over a bit more you’ll see what we’re talking about 😂 They’d done it to me a few years ago, that situation probably trumps even women my age ✌️

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yet all the girls date older guys... Interesting huh. Not saying they date grandpa but still. Yet they are complaining. It's crazy how well humans can focus on negativity. Some people are dying to be looked at and seen. Some people are dying of loneness quite literally. Some people haven't ate in days. Yet we bitch and moan because we focus on the negative side of the great things we have. It's crazy lol. I just love reflecting about the dumb shit we do. And we waste a good portion of our lives on focusing on the bad YET the difference between a happy life and sad/bad one is in our focus. Because happiness is a feelings not something logical.

MzAsh · Answer

No, it doesn’t make me feel anything.

Miah05 · Answer

No. Not at all. It's annoying.

Like bruh, i ain't tryin to date someone who older than my parents. That's weird.

And i swear the older men are so disrespectful when asking me out.

They just make it so gross.

"You're so hot, i always wanna f*ck a black girl"

Then they just constantly bring up I'm black and how bad they wanna have sex with me.

Sorry for the venting. I just had another bad experience with one and feeling a little heated by it

Anonymous · Answer

I FEEL DISGUSTED, and CREEPED OUT. Happens every single day at the gym to me. Every time I go to the gym to struggle lifting weights or struggle swimming my laps or walking my miles. there's SOME OLD-FART. SOME CREEP, OLD FUCK. That goes to where I am to stare at me. Or just be near me. So not only do I feel stressed out from lifting. But now there’s some OLD FUCK checking me out for hours on end. I took that picture ☝️☝️. Those 3 old-farts literally would sit in front of me day after day after day. Old-fart men, seriously think they have a chance with young women. It sickens me to my core. I seriously believe that after 40, your balls need to be removed.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

At any age it really depends how they do it. I've had a like 70 year old man come up to me and tell me how much I look like a woman he dated when he was young. He talked about how beautiful and outgoing she was and how we had the same energy. I was incredibly flattered.

On the other hand a 50 year old man squeezing my ass and saying "damn baby you're fine". Balls are going to be sore.

fonduegirl · Answer

I used to when I was a minor. I remember when I was like 12, some office guy, a friend of dad's, checked me out and said I look 20.

My dad's innocent and I was too, so at that time we just laughed it off.

Now when I think about it, he probably wasn't joking because I was too tall — he was being a creep.

xKayTea · Answer

No I get creeped out. I have been 'checked out' and 'cat called' aka harrassed, since I was around 14 years old, by people old enough to be my dad, it is just plain creepy. It makes me wonder whether they purposely try to get younger, because we are more naive, and won't see their BS/Redflags as easily, and they cannot get a woman their own age because they see right through.

caitycat21 · Answer

No, it’s extremely creepy. I had this one time when this dude who was literally a pastor at my church kept telling me how pretty I was and tried touching me inappropriately under the guise of a hug. I stoped going to church because of that

nastyb · Answer

no. because i am not interested in ugly old men with saggy balls checking me out. I'd rather have a hot tall, handsome , muscular young man check me out.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I am flattered somewhat when someone checks me out normally.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I'm flattered when people who are 15, 20, 25 years younger than me check me out because they think I'm just as young as they are since I'm often mistaken to be much younger than my actual age.

provokeesmokee · Answer

No, they're usually creepy as fuck. Being a young Asian femme, it's fucking disgusting. Old white men are the worst, and they have no clue how absolutely creepy they are.

CubsterShura · Answer

I don't feel flattered by anyone checking me out regardless of age. The only exception is my partner because he has my consent.

HiveBee · Answer

Yea old ladies be looking at me too. I guess I'm surprised that they still have a drive to look at a young man like me.

Starrrboy · Answer

I just think it's funny tbh lol.. Same when it's a girl who's way younger than me.. I think it helps that older women are not as creepy as older guys... the stuff I see them doing, they're shameless 🤣

Anemone978 · Answer

If they are attractive sure if not.. i couldn't care less lol

Lady_Heart · Answer

No, i hv so much respect for older people as elders and u wouldn't want ur elder to check u out like that.

leahzrc · Answer

I just assume they are all married and it makes me feel disgusted

HelpfulWoman · Answer

Never noticed it to be fair. But it would probably be more weird in general.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I'm flattered if any girl checks me out. What can I say I'm an attention hound.🤷‍♂️

Paris13 · Answer

Used to Any Age. No Rage. lolxxoo

Anonymous · Answer

I dress to impress (classy). People look at me and I feel good about it. I've seen many old motorists break necks looking at me, its both flattering and funny

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Stop staring at my crotch old lady!  This has never happened to me that I know of haha.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

No, old women are disgusting to me. I'm only attracted to women under 35.

Anonymous · Answer

as soon as the boobs start showing you get everyone from any age

TiaNour · Answer

Usually I don’t pay attention if someone’s checking me out, but I would feel creeped out if I saw someone doing it.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I get some younger women checking my out once in awhile

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I will at least accept the compliment but anything more, not a chance.

Likes2drive · Answer

No one checks me out that I’m aware of but I would be flattered

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. It doesn't help me at all. But at least it's nice to be complimented.

Blacksnake285 · Answer

Sure I’m 32 and a Girl 20 years older is still sexy

Anonymous · Answer

Its flattering if she is hot. If she us ugly or male its not flattering.

Anonymous · Answer

usually no

Slim57 · Answer

Yeah

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