What do you do if every time you try to be yourself, everyone hates you but everytime you try to relate to others, they shun you?

[Anonymous]

Why is this so easy for most people but not for me. I'm tired of not knowing where I stand with people because I'm a weirdo.

My brother said it's like I can see everything wrong with someone else in an almost erriely accurate way, that nobody else would be able to see, but Im incapable of doing it to myself.

It felt true. I went to a few therapists and they told me I'm not a narcissist. How can I not be? Why am I almost 30 and I still have these problems?

[IslaTheWitch]

"I went to a few therapists and they told me I'm not a narcissist." how long have you been in therapy? What were the effects? Were all of your problems addressed?

There could be two possible reasons. One is not a good social environment. It mostly means closed groups of people, and you didn't manage to be a part of any of them. The solution is to change the environment.

Another is that you have not solved mental problems like lower self-esteem, social interaction problems, or whatever your specialist can find. It's better to find a specialist and address them properly. It would make your life much better

[Asker]

Maybe it's not hair fault, may e I'm doing something wrong when I go.

I don't think I have low self esteem. If anything, sometimes I wonder if it's too high.

I think that my ability to blend into a social circle has been spotty through my life at best. Most of my relationships with people are extremely one on one.

[IslaTheWitch]

If you know what your problem is start to address it.

[Asker]

Like right there! I feel like I said something wrong, like something I said made you just not care about the conversation anymore. What did I do? Am I coming a cross as arrogant?

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm a problem solver

[boggboss]

Not sure sounds like u may lack base social interaction skills what is it u do that people dislike when acting yourself

[Asker]

I don't know, I know I have certain traits like being stubborn and cocky. But that stuff people usually get over. Sometimes after I say something or without me even saying anything, a person will give me this look, almost like they don't realize I can tell they're looking at me like that. It's like something in the middle of being weirded out and confused. But in a way that at least feels judgmental.

Someone told me a long time ago that I make a lot of "out of pocket" or "out of left field" comments. I can just never quite catch myself in the act well enough to figure out what I said and what was wrong with it.