Why are people so obsessed with what pronouns people use?

Question

I mean honestly who cares? It's not anyone's business but that person's if they use they/them, etc... The obsession people have with this is mind blowing

DoggyDude · Accepted Answer

I find undue obsession with others choices of wording regarding oneself reflects one of the following:

Obsessive behaviour
Personal Insecurity
Seeking to feel respected without wishing to earn that respect
Desperation to be recognised as they themselves perceive themselve to be by all others

It also shows a lack of understanding of invdivual rights and freedom of speech (everyone needs the right to call me whatever they like, but then I also need the right to likewise do the same to them. In a good society, we will work together to find acceptable ways to treat one another, which meets our mutual needs with as little compromise as we can afford).

On the other hand, a person who deliberately seeks to upset another person with some agenda by suing disrespect speech can be very debhilitating and as a society others need to speak out against such nastyness and nasty people (and defend people who have done nothing to deserve such an attack, but without trying to take away a persons right to be a jerk). Though this is rare, and usually the people suing such behaviours are problem people in society generally.

There are many examples, but all of them should be allowed to occur (not supressed), but also people suing such disrespect hurtfully in public, others should speak out against what they do, but only when its done with obvious malice and some attempt to harm an innocent.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

As a male with a penis, why are you complaining? You are after all... well over 80 years old, being geriatric, right?

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That's not far from "gas lighting and offensive to hear... you know it's wrong and it can hurt. If someone is sensitive and "thinks" they are say... a frog, but you call them a donkey, it hurts their feelings.

That's the problem... calling "Mr" to someone that thinks they are a "Mrs" hurts their feelings. So they ask for their preferred pronouns.

Yes they are mentally ill but possibly physically ill as well. Something in the "system" is out of synch and thus lacks integrity. How much worse is it they will cut themselves to pieces to correct their perception of self?

thatshydork · Accepted Answer

I don’t think ‘obsessed’ is the right term, but people ask for pronouns as a form of respect towards those who don’t use the she/her or he/him ones. It can hurt others when they’re called by the wrong pronouns, especially if they’re transgender. I mean, most of the transgender people I know and am friends with don’t really mind too much if you let the wrong pronouns slip every now and then, but generally prefer if you don’t do that. Plus, they’re just pronouns. We use them all the time in society. “She went to the market” “they went to the movies” “he cooked dinner” are all examples of pronouns being used in society.

wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

Read your own question critically for a second.

What group likes pronouns? Progressives. What do they support? Change, minorities, mental health and emotions.
What group dislikes pronouns? Conservatives.
What do they support? The status quo, majorities, external issues and logic.

It's the same sociological debate these two groups have been having for centuries. Of course people are going to be obsessed with pronouns, they're an emotion-based change to the status quo focused on mental health that a minority of people have. Conservatives have a horrified field day with it.

patois · Answer

It's an attack on language. Language is an expression of culture. Someone perverting the English language for example and pretending words have different meaning like men have vaginas and women have dicks is like any other form of bigotry where you fuck with someone over their race and heritage.

sawno · Answer

I don't consider they/them a valid pronoun so I don't use it unless I am refering to multiple people or something generic. Its insanely confusing in usage otherwise, if someone has anything that isn't a logical pronoun according to their gender I will not want to subject myself to the minefield of getting things correct so Ill exclusively use someones name in that case.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I don't think anyone is obsessed with it. I've been asked my pronouns before and it's not a problem. Sometimes if I'm unsure whether someone is a man or a woman, I'll say they & their. Such as "I like their hair." As for why others have an issue with it, I don't know. But I've noticed sometimes people do choose to be disrespectful even after the person corrects them on what pronouns they go by (he, she, they, etc.). Which could cause a bit of chaos/drama.

RebelinSteel · Answer

No one really worries about it, often it’s a single incident blown out of proportion. Certain countries do appear to be very anti anything not meeting their religious based requirements. In the modern world, yes it’s good to understand pronouns exist and it’s good to use them in the general respect of others.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

It’s a very small percentage of the population. I give it no mind and, when I’ve been asked to provide my pronouns for meetings I’ve simply ignored the request. As for calling people what they want to be called? Whatever. I don’t. Being aware you’re unwell doesn’t give me license to be an asshole. Want me to call you something you’re not? I don’t really care.

Seinna · Answer

To me it's just retarded, BUT I don't really care unless they expect ME to use them. And they often demand others to use incorrect pronouns under a threat of social ostracism. Just don't make me participate in your mental illness and we're good, I don't care what you identify as.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

It is other peoples business... They're pronouns... Knowing the correct ones is kinda needed in order to be able to correctly address someone in future

exitseven · Answer

I saw a video with some woman who maybe worked in HR and she was talking about resumes. She said if a guy sent in a resume that had his pronouns she would automatically not hire him because he would be a troublemaker and alll the other employees would be freaked out that they might offend him. He may even sue the company. Personally, I would take his resume and file it away in the wastebasket.

normalice · Answer

Right wing media. Republicans discovered no one will vote for them based on policy so they try to make people very angry about the culture war so that both sides vote based on that, instead.

Anonymous · Answer

Obsessed isn't the right term, It's about a form of respect.

Like for you, Imagine if you woke up tomorrow and everybody around you called you sir along with calling you a he and a him all day everyday from that point on.. Would you like it?

Honestly from my view point on that, I would feel like someone is insulting me if that happened to me..

DextroShade · Answer

No one cared until the trans freaks made it a problem and started demanding everyone else use their bullshit pronouns. What's even worse is you don't use someone's pronouns when you have a conversation with them, so they are trying to control how you talk about them.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Because a sick/deranged yet very determined group of people were able to use technology/media/entertainment to expose their “virtues”. They made it their life mission to do so and it worked unfortunately.

JesseP1nk · Answer

If people know who they are then they do not care which pronoun people use. It is their own doubts what fucks with them. For example i dont care if someone calls me a woman. Why? Because i know who i am. Actually one of the coworkers wished me happy womans day on Friday and offered me some candy. I just laughed it off and told him i forgot to put dress on. Should have i gone full snowflake about it? I dont think so.

Anonymous · Answer

Not everyone is obsessed with 'Pronouns' it is only The Intersectional/Identitarian crowd and the LGBTQ+ Alphabet Squad who are pushing the use of 'Pronouns'. The vast majority of ordinary people could not give a flying fart about them and the find The Intersectional/Identitarian crowd and the LGBTQ+ Alphabet Squad to be a major pains in the arse.

jshm2 · Answer

Because in their insular mind they "own" that pronoun and it's their "race card" to go off on others for "misusing" it.

strateguy632 · Answer

it is the strategy of new speak to enslave minds and by getting accounts frozen on facebook twitter etc. forcing us to add their way of thinking to our own personality.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

They're spoiled rotten brat loony lefties that don't use the brains their parents gave them! Nobody WITH a working brain actually gives a flying fuck what they say!!

goaded · Answer

If someone asked you to call them Jim, would you call them Jane? Wouldn't that be rude? What's the difference?

DizzyDesii · Answer

I dont like being corrected on it. Ima call you what you were born as. If you dont like it then ima say “it” and occasionally “they”

bowenw · Answer

I have no problem with people using whatever pronouns they want for themselves. I just can't remember everyone's and hope they aren't upset if I use an incorrect one.

David94358 · Answer

Because saying it's not anyone's business but the person wanting a special pronoun is not correct, it's everyone's business when the person is demanding everyone use said pronoun..

Paris13 · Answer

Could Be Anything in This day In Age. lol!!! xxoo

Anonymous · Answer

I was born female and I’m not trans but I wouldn’t be that upset if another person called me a man or a he. I have been called much worse and can think of worse things.

Jersey2 · Answer

We are all being forcibly dragged into someones fantasy and oppressed to the point where we have to say what they demand we say, even though it makes no sense.

genericname85 · Answer

because fascism is very contageous. fascistic ideas spread like a plague. that's what we see happening with this identity politics. it's a minority developing fascism against a majority.

Siri137 · Answer

I don't know anyone who is. Are you sure about this?

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Use whatever pronoun you want. Just don't expect/require me to.

gorydetails · Answer

The problem isn’t some mentally ill idiot wanting to be referred to as a “they”. It’s that they expect other people to indulge their delusions.

JayBones · Answer

If they go by anything other than him/her they can keep going far the fuck away from me. It's pure narcissism along with probably several other mental health issues.

Massageman · Answer

If someone doesn't like what I call them, I have a very neutral fallback position: I'll just call them "it".

Passerby2 · Answer

They were all abused as children. Being sexually assaulted as a child is a big reason many become gay. Well, simply being abused is a big reason many kids grow up to become focused on weird things like their pronouns.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it's their business, but the problem starts when they ask you to use They/Them while talking... and get mad when you don't

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Call yourself whatever you want, but don't expect me to abide by the multitude of pronoun nonsense.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't give a shit what people use--just don't expect the rest of us to play along and definitely don't go around DEMANDING it.

Anonymous · Answer

If it's not anyone's business, then why do they add them to their job resumes?

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Because they have to much free time they need to get jobs

whistlingwh0res · Answer

people need to do something other than drug so they keep creating things to do when they are taking a break

Zlantur2 · Answer

Because they have nothing else to do. And they/them is definitely stupid because it's wrong in turns of language which has been used for ages.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s not about it being a big deal or respecting other people - it’s about forcing you to accept an alternate reality.

laly520 · Answer

media influencing em

JacobJordan · Answer

Only a select group of extremists are

_no_one_ · Answer

Using tags as a form of validation.

jahaims · Answer

It is redundant when there are only two genders

DreamLife7 · Answer

Don't know don't care

Sam12348 · Answer

No idea. For me it's just he and she

sheikalana · Answer

It's pathetic.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i'm Religious so i am against it

Agape93 · Answer

No idea

riverrat3 · Answer

Exactly

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