A friend of mine asked a while back, what should it cost to be a father, so I will ask, why should a man have to fight to see his children?

[Anonymous]

Below is a conversation I had with my ex, it's my weekend, I'm supposed to get him two weekends per month and every Wednesday. Her actions violate court order. The courts nor the authorities will enforce it. As a father I now have to spend thousands of dollars just to see my kid. It should not be up to her, especially when we have court ordered custody..

What do you think gag?

Please read the images below.. And please note, I have court ordered custody and parenting plan. This is a violation of said order.

[lightbulb27]

I'd go visit and slowly figure out what is going on. If the hearts don't melt and change occur, then it's a legal issue. What is most beneficial for the child is the parents get along. Sadly, that still requires compromise because she is not a cooperative person and for whatever reason believes the kid needs strict structure. I can respect that idea, but ideally... it should be instituted by both divorced parents working as a team. That will be more important as the child is older and starts to play parents against each other.

You've been with this woman... you already know her. If she's being evil, you know her. If she's being a good parent putting the child #1, you know that.

She will make or break the house hold and sadly, you still somewhat submit to her... since you are forever entwined with her. Maybe over time, she relaxes as she gets busy with her life again and needs you to take the child.

Calm down... play the long game. This is a long game...

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Considering that this conversation features quite polite answers from the woman, it does tell me she seems like reasonable to deal with, and also very firm, yes. Legality aside, is there any sound reasons as to why the kid must stay at home, medical, something?

I sympathize with your struggle, father's rights are a complicated topic, sadly :/

[Asker]

Nothing medical, she does this a lot, we have good visitation for a few months, she pulls this shit, and we go to court and she reverts back.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

That's very strange then... I would expect a reasoning for this refusal, something more tangible than resentment, okay

[Asker]

I've asked. But news flash. Women tend to hate the father more than they love their children.

[msc545]

When you are in court after the Judge rules, if that ruling is in your favor, make a request to the Court that she pay you legal costs for this court appearance if the Judge rules in your favor.

[missindiana93]

Woman use children as pawns. Make the father life more difficult and hard. But she when she wants money yeah she will take you to court to pay more.

[missindiana93]

Most men will never have parental rights either. The judges will always side with the mother. No matter how bad the situation is. She's a bitter angry woman.

[Asker]

Exactly. But you're a rare person to suggest this. Most women here view children as their property.

[missindiana93]

Children are created by 2 people not one. She's just being a bitch by making your life harder I'm sure she dosen't like the fact you maybe broke up or whatever. But dosent mean to a bad person to hurt your child and their father.

[Asker]

She left me for my ex best friend. She seems to hate me more than she loves the children.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Someone should make a movie about how evil doing this truly is.

[msc545]

Right. This is where you return to court where the biased Judge can rule against you and it will cos you $$$$ as well.

[Anonymous]

She said "He has a strict schedule and will not be leaving the house" as if his father's house isn't also his house. I wish I had advice to give you but all I can say is sorry man your ex is a heartless bitch.

[Asker]

Yeah pretty much.