Saying Yes vs Saying No. Which one is easier?

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More specifically: Do you know how to say no? How easy is it for you to say no? And if it's difficult for you, why?

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

I usually just shared my reasonings why I couldn’t/ wouldn’t be able to. Otherwise I do try my best to be helpful. Within my limits and boundaries of reason of course.

If they get RUDELY persistent, then I do utter my ultimatum-set “No.” 😂

And if they should try to manipulate I share my further reasonings- their rude insistence, their lack of hearing me out beforehand, my previously said reasons, and I’ve helped them in the past.

I feel ‘no’ can be a bit aggressive so for me it’s a last resort. But I do feel some internal agony at times when I don’t have time to explain and have to say no. So I should work on that. (Otherwise I think I can give others the decency of an explanation and reassure them I don’t mean them wrong- I mean them well, even if I PERSONALLY can’t help them.

If it’s asking me to try something I don’t want, I say “no thanks.” And follow the stern “No,” when, and if they get bossy/rude. As any other situation.

Vevv123 · Accepted Answer

Usually I can, except when it comes to work. I have a bit of imposter syndrome so that doesn’t help. 🫠

overlord337645 · Accepted Answer

in todays society you will find a lot of people won't say no not because they can't but simply because they dont want to hurt you and by the time they do say no they are so fed up with you they release all there anger. I find it hard to tell sometimes because the difference between someone shy who might just need a little bit more effort put into interactions with them and someone who dosent wanna say no to you is not that far off and then when you add in behaviors like wishful thinking it can lead to a lot of pain. I had an experince where someone would not say no to me recently and thats how i met the girl that i care for a lot and really truly want to invest in even if its hard at times also I should note alice gave me really good advice on that and she always something interesting to add so definitely see what she said if you haven't already! :)

DrPepper12 · Accepted Answer

Im getting better at saying no everyday!! Pro tip kids: learn how to say it now!  It's not aggressive or assertive or arrogant.  It's direct, sincere & self preservation

molonski2 · Answer

Here in Thailand , you have what is called " saving face " which pretty much means they never say NO , even if that's what they may mean , so I've learnt the Thai way. But in Australia I can just say NO , being a professional investor , I just always say NO , so that part is not difficult but took me years to learn which in hindsight was pretty dam stupid , so on the investment front now , I have structure , either listed equities or property direct.

So now its easier.

OneViewpoint · Answer

LOL, I have never had any trouble looking anyone in the eyes and telling them NO! No is a great word. No is a great tool to have in your repertoire of human communication skills. No will save you from all sorts of life wasting bullshit. And No will garner respect from a lot of people. No will also help the entitled assholes in life to self identify based on their reaction to that word.

Miristheiss · Answer

Short term, yes.

Long term, no.

It might be uncomfortable to be firm and tell someone no who is asking for something or asking you to do something. In the long term it is easier to not be committed to or involved in a task or obligation once you've said no.

Shiprex · Answer

When I am asked I TRY to find a reason to say no if I don't want to because I feel relationships with people depend on me doing things for them. No it's not healthy but that's me in a nutshell. It's easy to go along with something that doesn't put me out (too much) but that's still subjective and can make things uncomfortable if I have needy people around.

HawkPerception · Answer

I've always been a yes man. Saying no has always been difficult for me. I've always been a people pleaser, which I know isn't a good thing, but I find it extremely hard to go against that

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yes is super easy.. No used to be really difficult for me to say because I was such a people pleaser when I was younger but now I find it much easier to say No since I don't care if someone gets mad or doesn't like me because of it.

Lynx122 · Answer

For me saying no is easier. I had to set boundaries and protect myself I was forced to. Also saying yes often means extra commitment and responsibilities and my capacity for that is limited. But I'm doing more with each day :)

Godihateyou · Answer

Saying No is very hard for me. I literally say yes to everything. "Want a beer?" Yes "you got a problem?" Yes "do you want to drive for 8 hours at 3 am to go fishing in Maryland even though you have work?" Yes. "Can you help me bury this dead hooker" yes.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's much easier to say Yes, just agree with the person. It's harder to say No, but sometimes that's more important... to voice your opinion, especially if the other person is about to do something they will later regret.

Simslover92 · Answer

Saying no in a lot of cases is so much harder because you don't want to hurt the person's feelings but it's a lot of times better to just say no than end up being a yes man.

lyrem04 · Answer

As a people pleaser saying yes is def easier I hate confrontation but if I have to best believe I will

red324 · Answer

We have so many whiny people in this world that make it easier to just say yes and do it then say no and listen to all the counter arguments etc. Some of these people you just have to block altogether

alice55 · Answer

depend to whom, I think both are easy but I have a hard time saying no to my grandfather or my cat for example.

Tarifa · Answer

It took me years to be confident enough to say no.

Emma-QoS · Answer

saying no is easy. you don't want to do something? no. yes? you have to take responsability

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Great great question , Well it's mostly harder for me to say no . But I do have a plan at works Mostly. I say yes But then I never do , I usually find a way out . Especially When it comes.
When when people ask 4 MoneY.

FreyaRed · Answer

I have no problems to reveal my opinion or decision that serves my personal interests.

WonderingManII · Answer

It depends on who I am saying no too. Because I want to be liked, it is hard for me to say no.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Saying yes is easier because I don't like to deny people's request but if they are asking me something I don't want to do then it will be easy for me to say no too.

BDRick · Answer

It’s very difficult for me to say no because if I can do it, I will. You’ve gotta have that mentality to say that you can do something and will do it

Phoenix98 · Answer

I can just as easily say no as I can say yes there's no distinction between the two for me.

BloodyMary6 · Answer

Sometimes, saying no to a cause might be what you want, but it might not be good for you.

exitseven · Answer

it is always easier to say yes, There is never any blowback.

Shy_Steve · Answer

The problem is that Men get shamed for saying "No", Not just by Women but by society aswell. Most of the time Women don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Both can be difficult, depends on your personality.

Enginn · Answer

Saying no is easier to strangers. If its a yes or no question I just say no. Others I just decline and say a good reason why.

Anonymous · Answer

No used to be really hard for me to say but I've been hurt to many times ans grew a back bone

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Obviously that depends on what I’m saying yes or no to

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap its very easy for me

ilistengood · Answer

Apparently for my ex it was "no"

MrChinaski · Answer

No. There is not follow up after no.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. Devil is in the details.

Anonymous · Answer

No is a complete sentence.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Depends on the QUESTION

LiaRaven · Answer

I would say “no, nope, nah, nay…etc lol

blackeagle007 · Answer

I’ve regretted saying both

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

depends what they’re asking

Panthero80 · Answer

Saying yes is easier, in general.

ultimatum11 · Answer

yes in my opunion

biraileeşkadını · Answer

Saying yes is easy.

Anonymous · Answer

most of the time, no; and so on

CaptanHellams · Answer

no is harder.

Aldan1609 · Answer

Saying no

Robert1971 · Answer

Yes. No

eagle1951 · Answer

no is harder

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