Why do you think certain behaviors are judged differently depending on whether a man or a woman does them?

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I have noticed that society often judges the same behaviors very differently depending on whether a man or a woman does them, and it creates unfair double standards that are frustrating and harmful. For example, when a woman is assertive or ambitious, she is sometimes labeled as bossy or aggressive, while a man with the same traits is seen as confident or strong. Similarly, sexual behavior is judged very differently: a man having multiple one-night stands is often praised or considered “experienced,” while a woman in the same situation is shamed or called promiscuous. These double standards aren’t just unfair, they reinforce outdated ideas about gender roles and power, rather than focusing on the actual character or choices of the person. Respect, accountability, and how we evaluate people should never depend on gender. Everyone deserves to be judged by the same standards of honesty, kindness, and integrity, and not by societal expectations that reward one gender while punishing the other. I’m interested in hearing your opinion about this.
I know that society has been shaped for centuries by male-dominated perspectives, which contributed to creating these double standards. But we are not in the 1950s anymore, so why do these outdated ideas continue to exist? Why is it that when a woman points out or judges a man’s behavior, she is often insulted or dismissed, yet if a woman behaves the same way as a man, she is immediately judged or shamed?

Why do you think certain behaviors are judged differently depending on whether a man or a woman does them?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have no idea what planet you live on. You are only "bossy or aggressive" when you are actually bossy or aggressive. No matter your sex. I have never seen anyone make these judgements where they don't apply.

Hookups a bad thing for either sex. However it is only like that because women are the only ones who can legally decide if intercourse was rape, essentially because they are not the ones making the approach. A man is considered "experienced" because he knows how to get that consent so other men often come to ask for advice, not only for one-night stands but to find wives.

Meanwhile the average man would be more likely to take a woman's request for sex because the difficult part has already been bypassed. It is more looked down upon when women do it because it is more productive to use such an obvious advantage to look for a husband instead.

"A key that unlocks any lock is a master key, meanwhile a lock that takes any key is just a terrible lock" as the saying goes.

Sorry but these seem like such first world problems to me. Don't have hookups, its just a bad idea in general. You are wasting the ultimate bonding activity on someone you don't intend on seeing again, on top of an increased probability to getting an std.

It's not "male-dominated perspectives," it's just common sense. At least "don't fuck everyone you meet" used to be.

Hot take, but women were more liberated in the 50s than now. Imagine having a husband who makes so much money, that you will never need to work again. It's not that women were ever barred from working either, women made up about 30% of the workforce even then, its just that women would rather not work if they didn't have to.

Marriage didn't actively encourage women to be disloyal at her husband's expense, the ones in charge of economy wasn't as completely overrun by retards as it is now so a mere gas station employee could support a small family back then, it was also around the time where most kitchen duties were automated and has afforded women so much free time back then.

They are often insulted or dismissed because these "judgments of a man's behavior" are often just judgements of men as a whole and displays a misunderstanding of statistical concepts, specifically regarding per capita.

Brady · Accepted Answer

That's the wy. peopl c things. When a man cheats on a girl in America she is more likely 2 stay w/the guy she wants from what I've seen on the TV program Cheaters. When a guy does the same he loses both girls on Cheaters. I also read in a newspaper long ago that men r more forgivin of women than women r of men 4 this.

My brother's wife said it's OK 4 guys 2 cheat on girls but not OK 4 girls 2 cheat on guys. Mayb in her nation Ukraine it's like that.

On a talk show mayb the Mauri Povich Show a lady was cryin n felt guilty that she cheated on a guy. She said it's because he stayed w/her n she said if he did it 2 her she would leave him.
The audience said oh showin pity 4 her.

Anothr double standard I saw was with a cheatin lady. It was on the Maury Povich Show. A DNA test of a kid showd it wasn't the guy's n that she cheated. She got out of her seat n cried 2 the bathrm. The audience didn't boo or criticize her. The audience did boo guys who were comin on stage girls were sayin cheated on them.

In a gym it bannd guys from recordin. It didn't say anythin about girls. Eithr that gym or anothr gym had a decrease in membership.

A questionnaire was givn askin y peopl ended membership. Girls said because recordin wasn't allowed. I think they kept the rule because membership of guys increased while membership of girls decreased due 2 the rule.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

We still live in a patriarchal society. While you and I were born into a time where men and women are on legal, financial, and social equal ground, our parents were not. Social inequality is a huge part of the reason they got together at all, and before them our grandparents got together because of social and financial inequality (grandma couldn’t have a bank account in her name or a credit card), and before them great grandma was born as legal property before she was allowed to be a human, meaning she didn’t have much choice but to get married to great grandpa. That wasn’t that long ago, despite the fact it feels like ancient history, and that influence still exists. It’s why someone like Trump is president instead of Kamala or Hillary, it’s why gender roles and the stigmas associated with purity culture and masculine culture still exist, it’s why boys’ and girls’ toys are separated in the stores instead of just being children’s toys.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Women desire men that are promiscuous for relationships because other women want them.

Men will have sex with a promiscuous woman but dont want her for a relationship and the kind of men that will accept a relationship with her women dont want.

egan3141 · Answer

Simple. Men and women ARE DIFFERENT. Therefore, they are judged for different things. Men are (almost always) the provider. Therefore, they are judged for their ability to provide. Leaders are one of the most capable providers (people in high positions, like CEOs, Presidents, etc.). A leader needs to be assertive and ambitious. That and many more reasons is why men are "praised" for having those traits. Women on the other hand (almost always) are supporters. They help others. Helpers that are assertive and ambitious usually aren't good helpers. That, and many more reasons, is why women aren't praised for those traits.

As for the sex part, I'll be a little more clear than what chickychicky said. If a man has had multiple sexual partners, that implies something about him is attractive to women. Women (usually) want men that other women want. Therefore, it is "good" for men to have multiple partners. On the other hand, women are the ones that determine whether sex happens or not (the lock). If she has said no to everyone else, then she is special and hard to win. Men want what other men can't have, so a woman who little to no men have had is seen as more valuable.

by the way, I'm not saying I agree with the above, I'm saying the above is reality. I'm the kind of person that thinks sex should be special and men that have had several partners are whores that should have no value, but what I think doesn't change reality.

HighValue · Answer

Mentioning "ACCOUNTABILITY" and pretending that women are treated unfairly is very telling of how dishonest and delusional you are.

When are women going to be put in prison where they belong with equal sentences as men could have got when they make false accusations?

When will women get the same jail sentences as men for the same crime?

When will women go to jail for not providing healthcare for their children?

When will women go to war and millions of them willingly get burned, get their limbs blown off and shot to death? MILLIONS.

When will women not expect men to provide for them and actually be fair in a relationship?

When will women actually have to meet the same requirements as men for employment? Especially for education and emergency service jobs?

When will women pay alimony in the majority of divorces instead of men? Right now if the woman cheats, uses drugs, etc. she still gets to steal from the man, take his kids, and he often has to pay her alimony too.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I couldn't help but notice you only mentioned double standards that you feel are unfair to women...

Women don't get called bitchy simply for being assertive. They get called bitchy because they have not learned how to be assertive in a way that respects other people. Think about the way a manager or supervisor should behave, communicating calmly, focusing on specific behaviors (not people), set firm but respectful boundaries, listen actively, and using confident body language (eye contact, steady voice) without being aggressive or apologetic, aiming for mutual respect and understanding. These "assertive" women you're talking about don't do these things.

'man having multiple one-night stands is often praised or considered “experienced,” while a woman in the same situation is shamed or called promiscuous"

there is SOME truth to this one and that is because it's a lot more difficult for men. Why would women be praised for not having to put in any effort? The average woman who takes basic care of herself can walk into any room at any given time and easily find several men who would be willing to have sex with her.

Steve-the-lion · Answer

It's not rocket science. Because men and women are different, there are going to be double standards. If a man hits a woman, most people get angry. But if a woman hits a man, it's not taken that serious. The reason is because people recognise that there's a difference in physical strength between men and women, and that it's easier for men to do more physical damage to a woman. It's still wrong for a woman to hit a man, but society takes a man hitting a woman more seriously.

When it comes to sex, the reason women get judged more harshly for being promiscuous is for a number of reasons. One reason is that it's far easier for a woman to get sex than it is for a man. For a man to get sex with lots of different women, it often takes a lot of skill and hard work. But for women, it's a piece of piss. Another reason is that in general, men tend to have a higher sex drive than women due to high testosterone. So it's a lot harder for a man to resist sex than what it is for a woman. So when a woman is promiscuous, it does come across as more shameful and immoral.

It's the same with adults and children. If a child screams at an adult, we don't see it as an issue. But if an adult were to scream at a child, we wouldn't see it as acceptable. That's because people understand that there's a difference between adults and children. There are always going to be "double standards" because not everything is black and white. Men and women are different, with different strengths and weaknesses.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Unfortunately all it boils down to is double standards, inequality, and injustice. A similar example but using race, in Western society's eyes whenever a White person does something bad they're just considered a bad egg. However when a NON-White person does something bad they're considered to be representing the whole race. And a lot of racist people will assume a random inoffensive Black man is a potential thug or criminal while they won't assume the same of a White man.

Or another example but using sexuality instead, when people assume that gay men are nothing but sex crazed maniacs, perverts, and even pedophiles while not assuming the same of straight men. Or when they assume all gay men are weak and flamboyant but not straight men.

So basically one group of people is deemed superior to another and that's the way it is. Not saying I agree with it or that it shouldn't be changed. Because I DON'T agree with it and it SHOULD be changed.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Life is not fair or equal, not sure where this concept came from.

The genders are different, even if the roles change... a man is not going to spit out a baby... that is a permanent difference. I've not seen a single pro football player give birth on the field.

until that changes, it seems rather simple... it's all about passing on your genetics. it is selfishness.

now if we start talking love and compassion for one another and we focus beyond the current life, the formula changes a bit.

The answer: selfishness, control?

OneViewpoint · Answer

Yeah, double standards exist. Western countries have been patriarchies for 3,000 years. Western religions are all patriarchal. So even a lot of women jump on the bandwagon to criticize other women for the same behaviors men are allowed to get away with. They've been brainwashed with double standards dreamed up and supported by men their entire lives. And frankly, a woman exercising free will where sex is concerned poses a threat to other women. So taking them down with slut shaming is just eliminating the competition.

RavVid · Answer

Why do you think biology is equal. It never has been and never will be. You are basing your argument on a premise that men and women should be plug compatible but they just aren't.

There are certainly more expectations of women in some respects to men but equally there are greater expectations of men in other areas. Women are given far more protection than men are and far more advantages.

You don't mention or advocate for less privileges for women where they exceed those for men. As many have pointed out women want more than equality when it benefits them (like DEI) and the traditional benefits when they advantage.

It is quite disingenuous of you..

Anonymous · Answer

Because society has roles. Decide to live homeless and see how much society accepts you.

And not all societal/gender roles are bad. We've actually come a long way towards equality and what not. But we'll likely ALWAYS have some form a gender roles.

Think about it. Are you attracted to a guy who acts like a sissy? That's a rhetorical question. No you don't. Well guys have expectations for you as well. It's just the way society works. Deal with it! It's likely never going away.👍

NathanDavis · Answer

because people are not that alike... nor are the circumstances

and it is not only about men and women, but also older and younger people... experienced versus naive people... legal vs illegal and so many other things

I don't think these are different standards, most of the time is just different context

Anonymous · Answer

There is truth to what you say, but it needs to be put into context. We all have childhood issues from school. Who were the teachers who were always yelling at us, mostly women. That in my mind is as likely an explanation as the media or the patriarchy in explaining why we dislike female authority figures. You are right about sexual behavior that we are unfair towards women who have extramarital sex. However I think I can say with certainty that we judge men who date women half their age worse than women who date men half their age. A cougar is supposedly kinky, but a dirty old man is a disgusting pervert who supposedly takes advantage of vulnerable young women. Maybe that is the best thing since relationships are a greater risk for women, but it is still the case.

Summeroflove · Answer

All depends on the person. Some people also blame the man when he’s cheated on. People are weird..:. Shitty behavior is shitty behavior no matter who does it. There isn’t a pass because you’re a man or a woman.

AviatorTom · Answer

You might want to stop drinking the woke left koolaid. Males are females are different, and attempts to always make them the same are doomed to failure.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, Guys with big bodycounts are considered studs. Girls with big body counts are considered sluts. It;s not fair but it is the way it is. Also guys out looking for a girl to have sex with will most likely be unsuccessful. Girls trying to do the same will most likely score. Thats not fair either

Bloodparadise · Answer

Bossy : society names ambitious girls as agressive or bossy because it's always men who have to be winners, men are stronger and more mature

Promiscuous: monogamy is against women, so i too believe calling women promiscuous is against women

chickychickyparmparm · Answer

A key that can open many locks is a good key. A lock that can be opened by any key is a shitty lock.

Miristheiss · Answer

Because men ans women are 100% different and have completely different sets of standards and obligations.

Anonymous · Answer

I am very open about being honest with how many guys I have had sex with

Ariesman81 · Answer

You're right, we should be way harder on women.

Sal_Monella · Answer

Because men are more tolerant of women than women are tolerant of men.. That has been true for 5000 years.

msc545 · Answer

This is because behavioral standards are very different between men and women. I'm surprised you don't seem to know that.

_Div_ · Answer

Have you considered that this double standard also exists in the inverse? When you take this into account there really is no double standard.

Virgin man = bad, virgin woman = good.

Non-virgin man = good, Non-virgin woman = bad

c704710 · Answer

Biology. Seriously. Men and women perceive their own behaviors from their own perspectives. External judments are in rebellion or agreement with the internal roots.

genericname85 · Answer

cause this may be a shocker to some people: men and women aren't the same. there i said it.

jshm2 · Answer

Sheesh, you're not very observant.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Because we're wired differently

jahaims · Answer

Because males and females play different roles

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Especially a black man.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, just like in the picture above.

Jennz6 · Answer

Sure thing

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