What’s wrong with being a slut?

[Anonymous]

Why is it so bad and why does it cause you to have a reputation if you have a lot of casual sex?

[Pohjolan]

Oh its not wrong per se. Its just pursuing sex without commitment at the expense of long term relationships.

Also a reputation because:

- Potential easy sex.

- Higher risk of STDs.

- Higher risk of cheating.

- Potential loss of own reputation.

Just don't be a slut if you don't want to be a slut and don't date fuckboys if you don't want to date a fuckboy. Easy.

[In_Trance]

There's nothing wrong with it per se
The problem is, after you've let numerous guys run right through you for years you expect one guy to claim you as his own and give you everything to the Moon and back.
Doesn't work that way.

[Asker]

How doesn’t it work that way?

[RavVid]

:) First I doubt you can be that naive. But in case you are, it is obvious that a man is not going to invest heavily in you unless he can reasonably expect reciprocation from you.

If you fluidly have sex with a lot of men, then the man will have no reason to think your babies will also be his babies. As babies cost a lot you would not be a good choice to invest in.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Good Question: Societies have been mainly Patriarchal for centuries. Marriage has always been a rite of possession. My wife , My kids. According to The Old Testament, our Creator never asked us to wed. Just make babies and raise them. The idea of ownership was introduced after the Fall. Shortly after that, God told us to swear no Oaths, no Pledges, and take no Vows because we did not have control over our lives. Add to that the last thing God said to Eve before shooing them out the Gate, was that she would always want to Over lorded by men. Once again Vague. What does that mean. I have never met a woman who wants a man to tell her what to do so, that can't be it. Overlorded could mean sex. Then slut becomes a woman who does what God told her to do. So it is a righteous term? That would make people who are not rubbin the nubbin disobedient. Nuns and Priest? So basically the term slut was introduced in the 16 hundreds to describe an unkept man, a Slob. It was later used to describe a woman who kept company with a a sloven man. Now it is used to describe a woman who is beyond the control of a man. What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

[HawkPerception]

If you love to sleep around, go for it. But don't expect guys to desire you the same if you've had a lot of dicks in you. To the majority of non-simp men, that's not wifey material. To me, it doesn't matter if a girl has slept with other guys before. Everyone makes mistakes in their lives. I'm no exception. But what does matter in their intention with each of the guys they were with. Did they want it to be a lasting, meaningful relationship? Or was it just lust and the desire to get fucked and "have fun?" And the number of guys definitely matters.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It causes you to have a reputation because...

A long time ago, in a galaxy really, really not far away... Some influential people decided that sexuality had to be restricted to couple's sexuality, they also decided to put a ban onto sexual desire itself. It became one core belief of a church that would later expand to several continents. That church put sexual abstinence on a pedestal, it became a virtue, possessed by members of that institution. It made things clear enough for the masses, there was now what is considered pure, virtuous and what is considered impure, sinful.

More recently, you came to life. And you live in times that are more open about sex than they were a long time ago. Yet, the message carried by this church and its successors remain somewhat active, even for those who aren't even believers. Because when a story has been repeated a million times across centuries, then it won't disappear quickly.

[OneViewpoint]

I don't think of a woman as a slut just because she enjoys sex and acts on that desire. I think that's a normal healthy attitude. Once she's in a relationship it becomes a different story. If you can't give up the variety, don't get into a relationship or marriage.

[Zack-Bann]

It’s harmful to the people who get used for their bodies essentially.
Sluts often play fast and loose, if you fall for one you will be heartbroken


I suppose sluts dating other sluts is less of an issue since it’s just a karmic boomerang in a way
And when both

[RingOfFire]

Because sex is a special relationship between humans that signifies a unique and special bond that cannot be duplicated by anything else they do. Treating it casually and recklessly cheapens and dilutes it and will cause you to miss out on one of the most meaningful and beautiful experiences in life.

[FreyaRed]

At some good paid professions is being a slut something a girl shouldn't brag about. Hairdresser or grocery clerk aren't likely very affected with this limitation.

[Asker]

Why shouldn’t they brag about it?

[FreyaRed]

If there are two girls who are similarly attractive and offer similar job performance, one of them is a known "proud" slut while another isn’t. Non slut will be very likely chosen to get a level higher

[NoDecision]

Some guys just don't like used meat.

[MicroJ]

It's funny how when a woman has casual hookups they're called a slut and when guy does it it's considered ok and normal. Just be yourself and do what you enjoy life.

[lightbulb27]

women can have emotional hangups, creates a reputation you don't respect yourrself. might work for a very few in free world.

[CherryLove007]

Number 1 reason is that is is risky behavior. When you mature up the ranks you will see it.

[Asker]

How is it risky behavior?

[CherryLove007]

Well one man can do the job really well if you let him. Your opening the door up for all kinds of wicked men to take advantage of you or stalk you.

Higher number of partners → higher risk of STIs if protection/testing isn’t consistent.
Meeting new people carries general safety considerations.

Porn stars get regular testing for free and are you doing that?

[Staximus]

Nothing if you’re single, but don’t expect a man or anybody to value you if you don’t value yourself and just give yourself away. You can’t fill the hole in your soul with cocks, pussy, drugs, or booze. Only love can.

[bobalife]

Double standards & judgment of being a female. But you do you girl.

[RavVid]

It is always nice if a woman knows who the Daddy is and not so nice if she is confused on this topic.

It all stems from this.

[Spencer10]

Nothing. As long as you are being safe and upfront about your intentions... its none of anyone's business.

[najekim]

It's a double standard compared to guys.

But I'd use the term "adventurous" instead. ;)

[midnightmoon05]

Would you marry her if she has had 200-500 men? And still wants other men while with you?
That’s my definition of a slut.
The asker seems to be not very smart.

[najekim]

@midnightmoon05 Her past is her past and really none of our concern, just like ours is really none of hers, unless something from the past affect us as a couple directly. I'd be more concern from the point forward after becoming a committed couple.

[midnightmoon05]

I would be shock if Such past doesn’t affect an individual?

[RedInnocent69]

A lot depends on timing/age and circumstance

[abc--123]

Don't worry about it. Embrace it and have fun. Just remember you're getting laid and they aren't

[Mastergirl]

Nothing just expect judgement

[strateguy632]

Because that is a sin.

[Dargil]

Don't ask, don't tell.

[Dargil]

An intelligent man can profile you.

[jahaims]

It causes psychological damage

[Asker]

How?

[Anonymous]

Nothing if that's what you want to be

[dougeats]

I have no problem with it

[Anonymous]

Because this lowers a woman’s value

[Anonymous]

, It is sinful behavior.

[Anonymous]

Nothing.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Lots.